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Like many others, I have been pouring over the site since we adopted our two cats (Penny 9/20 and Bean 11/20). Penny is an 8 year old female calico and Bean is a 1.5 year old male tuxedo. It took us a good 5 months having a screen door installed dead in the middle of our house before we could have the two be together in the same space unsupervised. Bean never had any issue, but Penny hissed, growled and avoided Bean at all costs. With lots of help from this site and calicosrspecial specifically, we got them together! They now co-exist in the house, though Bean is still sleeping in the finished basement, since Penny is a tiny picky eater, and he is a massive glutton. So they are apart for about 7 hours a day during the night.
Here is my question... will they ever be friends? Currently Penny "tolerates" Bean.... most of the time. He has calmed down a lot from his kittenish ways (he was 8 months when we brought him home) and he is much more relaxed. However, he is not innocent. He has a habit of either sneaking up on her and swatting her in the rear, or jumping on top of her from above (when she doesn't see him). Having watched several of these moments, I feel there is no malice, but she FREAKS out each and every time. (Not that I blame her) She will hiss and attack and they eventually both withdraw. There have been a few chases and some fur clumps, but they always seem fine after. Both will sleep in the same room, both will eat at the same time together.... but they will not play together. Bean will play with us, but as soon as Penny joins in, he plops down. She is definitely the dominant cat, and she still seems like she is not having anything to do with him. They will also block each other from rooms or going up or down stairs. They do this without doing anything, just the presence in the doorway will keep the other cat from passing. When they do "pass" by each other it is always a very widely swung pass as they both avoid each other (Penny much more so than Bean)
What I would like is to have two happy cats that like each other. I know I should have adopted a bonded pair, but I didn't, and we love both and neither is going anywhere. I just thought I would reach out to see if anyone has any ides for a better bond.
I am wondering if there are any tricks or tips anyone has to get her to be less jumpy and to maybe ignore and swat him when she doesn't want to play rather than attack. Or am I missing a sign of aggression from her or him swatting not being pay driven. Any insight is greatly appreciated. And kudos if you made it this far through this rambling mess...
Like many others, I have been pouring over the site since we adopted our two cats (Penny 9/20 and Bean 11/20). Penny is an 8 year old female calico and Bean is a 1.5 year old male tuxedo. It took us a good 5 months having a screen door installed dead in the middle of our house before we could have the two be together in the same space unsupervised. Bean never had any issue, but Penny hissed, growled and avoided Bean at all costs. With lots of help from this site and calicosrspecial specifically, we got them together! They now co-exist in the house, though Bean is still sleeping in the finished basement, since Penny is a tiny picky eater, and he is a massive glutton. So they are apart for about 7 hours a day during the night.
Here is my question... will they ever be friends? Currently Penny "tolerates" Bean.... most of the time. He has calmed down a lot from his kittenish ways (he was 8 months when we brought him home) and he is much more relaxed. However, he is not innocent. He has a habit of either sneaking up on her and swatting her in the rear, or jumping on top of her from above (when she doesn't see him). Having watched several of these moments, I feel there is no malice, but she FREAKS out each and every time. (Not that I blame her) She will hiss and attack and they eventually both withdraw. There have been a few chases and some fur clumps, but they always seem fine after. Both will sleep in the same room, both will eat at the same time together.... but they will not play together. Bean will play with us, but as soon as Penny joins in, he plops down. She is definitely the dominant cat, and she still seems like she is not having anything to do with him. They will also block each other from rooms or going up or down stairs. They do this without doing anything, just the presence in the doorway will keep the other cat from passing. When they do "pass" by each other it is always a very widely swung pass as they both avoid each other (Penny much more so than Bean)
What I would like is to have two happy cats that like each other. I know I should have adopted a bonded pair, but I didn't, and we love both and neither is going anywhere. I just thought I would reach out to see if anyone has any ides for a better bond.
I am wondering if there are any tricks or tips anyone has to get her to be less jumpy and to maybe ignore and swat him when she doesn't want to play rather than attack. Or am I missing a sign of aggression from her or him swatting not being pay driven. Any insight is greatly appreciated. And kudos if you made it this far through this rambling mess...