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Both my cats are fairly vocal and like to talk back and forth with me. But Clove (9 months old and spayed) is being a bit much these days. As soon as I get home from work, she will run over purring to greet me — and then walk around the house and WAIL for a good 30-40 minutes straight if I’m not actively interacting with her. If I close the door between us or ignore her it gets even worse and she will literally scream nonstop at the top of her lungs.
(Meanwhile, Chilli will lie calmly and watch her with the most judgmental face I’ve ever seen.)
After a long while Clove will sort of stop meowing, but then start doing naughty things that she doesn’t do at any other time, like chewing on cords or knocking everything off the shelf. She knows I will sometimes intervene when she does that. So I know she wants my attention in some way. She doesn’t want food or being pet. My best guess is that she’s been napping/bored all day and now she wants me to play with her and give her attention and stimulate her RIGHT NOW. Which I understand, but surely she doesn’t need to demand it in such an annoying way. I give her tons of attention and love and exercise/playtime, so she’s not lacking in any of those areas.
I usually ignore her completely, endure the yelling, and wait to play with her until she has stopped the meowing so that she doesn’t learn that screaming = playtime. But I’ve been doing that consistently for weeks and weeks and it doesn’t seem to have gotten better at all. Am I doing something wrong?
She doesn’t do this at nighttime or any other time really. Just after I get home. Could it be some kind of separation anxiety and she’s screaming about how much she missed me? It seems like a more upset/insistent/demanding meow. Should I just give her the attention and playtime right away?
(Incidentally, I’m an elementary school teacher and let me tell you, her constant meowing sounds *exactly* like my first grade students calling my name over and over and over... l must have the patience of a saint to deal with first graders AND Clove every day )
(Meanwhile, Chilli will lie calmly and watch her with the most judgmental face I’ve ever seen.)
After a long while Clove will sort of stop meowing, but then start doing naughty things that she doesn’t do at any other time, like chewing on cords or knocking everything off the shelf. She knows I will sometimes intervene when she does that. So I know she wants my attention in some way. She doesn’t want food or being pet. My best guess is that she’s been napping/bored all day and now she wants me to play with her and give her attention and stimulate her RIGHT NOW. Which I understand, but surely she doesn’t need to demand it in such an annoying way. I give her tons of attention and love and exercise/playtime, so she’s not lacking in any of those areas.
I usually ignore her completely, endure the yelling, and wait to play with her until she has stopped the meowing so that she doesn’t learn that screaming = playtime. But I’ve been doing that consistently for weeks and weeks and it doesn’t seem to have gotten better at all. Am I doing something wrong?
She doesn’t do this at nighttime or any other time really. Just after I get home. Could it be some kind of separation anxiety and she’s screaming about how much she missed me? It seems like a more upset/insistent/demanding meow. Should I just give her the attention and playtime right away?
(Incidentally, I’m an elementary school teacher and let me tell you, her constant meowing sounds *exactly* like my first grade students calling my name over and over and over... l must have the patience of a saint to deal with first graders AND Clove every day )