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Ha!!! Good for you, Susan!!I did not love him because he was a bottomless pit of emotional need and never shut up about his issues.
Ha!!! Good for you, Susan!!I did not love him because he was a bottomless pit of emotional need and never shut up about his issues.
It's not a key factor for me either as long as he would be ok with my religion.Religion is not a key factor since that would not necessarily bring me happiness or compatibility
Happily divorced. Never getting married again. Don't want to be in a relationship. SO over all of that. Being single is definitely better, except when I need a light bulb overhead changed, plumbing fixed, etc. *YES, I'm serious* I prefer the company of my beloved feline family members. I'll stop before I start a rant.GOOD MORNING AND HAPPY SUNDAY!!
I was pondering this last night.
What do you love most about your husband, wife, significant other, partner?
or
If you're not married or in a committed relationship, what is important to you in a potential one?
or
Do you choose not to be in a relationship?
For me, kindness, humor, intelligence, and love of cats are very important, as well as acceptance of my disability and my religion, Catholic. Also, he would have to be generous with other people, love food, and willing to try new things.
What about you?
So sorry about that. But you never know what the future may hold. You may meet someone and WHAM, a lightening bolt! Love is complicated, crazy, and unpredictable!!I'm just annoyed that the choice was taken from me because of a belief that there's only one right way to have a relationship.
Yes me too..Indeed..I am happily divorced and intend staying that way. If I ever were to get married again he would have to be a vet because my three cats are costing me a fortune in vets fees.
Maybe lolMy experience says, if you find someone you're attracted to (not just physically, but on a level you can't really describe or say why), and that person has a kind, genuine and caring heart, the rest will work itself out
Me too..yup, that's my choice, too. well, i always enjoy the company of my cats!
Yes! I'm always afraid people won't understand that sometimes, I don't want to see them or talk to them for a while. Nothing personal, just need to recharge. But... it seems mean outloud....understanding that I am an introvert and enjoy being alone sometimes but who will also push me to not hide from social interaction all the time...
Happily divorced. Never getting married again. Don't want to be in a relationship. SO over all of that. Being single is definitely better, except when I need a light bulb overhead changed, plumbing fixed, etc. *YES, I'm serious* I prefer the company of my beloved feline family members. I'll stop before I start a rant.
Not weird at all. I can like someone a lot but not be able to eat with them because they chew with their mouths wide open, flashing you views of half chewed potatoes, and proceed to tell you a really long winded story about their great Uncle's plantar wart while they're chewingI'm not in a relationship and never have, but the most important qualities I look for are kindness, compassion, a similar sense of humor to me (and subsequently my family), understanding that I am an introvert and enjoy being alone sometimes but who will also push me to not hide from social interaction all the time, and they don't make a lot of noise (like constant throat clearing or coughing or just making a lot of noise when they move around, I know, it's weird).
I genuinely like people. I like talking with them, trading stories and sharing a laugh but it does make me feel extra tired if I am around a lot of people all day. Most folks are OK when you politely excuse yourself (it helps if you learn the art of looking official. Carry a clip board and wear a tie. It helps ) but if you can't, just say something like "Oh, shoot I think I left the lawn mower on!" and bolt. Works for meYes! I'm always afraid people won't understand that sometimes, I don't want to see them or talk to them for a while. Nothing personal, just need to recharge. But... it seems mean outloud.
I will say that people with severe mysophonia should be very VERY honest with potential mates and not have kids at all. It makes for a miserable childhood when you think your parent hates you because they can't handle normal noises :/. My dad gets upset any time a metal fork touches a ceramic plate. Now he is not allowed to be around when the rest of the family eats because nobody wants to deal with that, but childhood meals when he was home were. . .fraught.they don't make a lot of noise (like constant throat clearing or coughing or just making a lot of noise when they move around, I know, it's weird).
Good advice. Hence the old term...."just be yourself."I will say that people with severe mysophonia should be very VERY honest with potential mates and not have kids at all. It makes for a miserable childhood when you think your parent hates you because they can't handle normal noises :/. My dad gets upset any time a metal fork touches a ceramic plate. Now he is not allowed to be around when the rest of the family eats because nobody wants to deal with that, but childhood meals when he was home were. . .fraught.
Any decent relationship means fully knowing what you're signing up for.
They do in the UK, called Tesco but you'd have to have your cats quarantined for the first 6 months.Must be kind, shower daily, love animals, not lecture or argue, and preferably live in the USA or Canada, since it's too complicated & expensive to move overseas with cats, and some countries don't have Walmart.