Hello, I'm new here and am wondering if anyone can give me ideas to help my stressy siamese to chill out a bit. Sorry if this is long!
Tink is a 9 year old neutered siamese, and yes I know all siamese are often stressy and noisy, but I know lots of them and she is at least twice as anxious as any of the others. I am just worried she's not that happy. I have been wondering whether to consult a behaviourist to help but I thought I'd see if anyone has any ideas first. She had a full health check up a few months back incl bloods etc so I know it's not pain, and she has been the same in various different houses we've lived in so it's not the house particularly. There are no other cats around in this house (she doesn't like other cats) and she lives indoors.
Her stressiness results in compulsive, distressed miaowing (surprise surprise) and generally very high-energy - e.g. even if she's fast asleep you can't get up without her following you to the loo or whatever, she hardly ever goes in a different room to me or my OH, and can be a bit stressy if my OH and I are in different rooms. She gets really narky if you don't immediately sit down as soon s you get in the house, and is only calm once you do (but the miaowing returns if you get up again). She also poos outside of her litter tray if she is really cross, which is maybe a couple of times a week. I wouldn't dream of leaving her overnight without someone there, so have to pay my friend to come over for the weekend if I'm going away (I couldn't, for example, pay someone to just feed her as most people can with cats, she'd be impossible).
Often, her stressiness comes from being left while I'm out (3 days a week I am out of the house, but I try to limit the amount of time she is alone), but she sometimes gets just as narky when she's had me or the OH around.
She has a tonne of toys which are rotated, good quality food, clicker training, an enrichment procedure when I leave the house etc etc. I have a feliway but don't think it makes much difference on her. I try and keep a clear routine as much as possible.
Basically, her behaviour isn't technically that "bad" but I'm just worried she's not actually that happy and would like her a bit more relaxed. I sometimes wonder whether she would be happier in a home with a sedentary older person who doesn't go anywhere. But I don't know (and my OH in particular is incredibly attached to her).
Sorry this is long. Any thoughts or anythign else I can do???
Thank you in advance!
Tink is a 9 year old neutered siamese, and yes I know all siamese are often stressy and noisy, but I know lots of them and she is at least twice as anxious as any of the others. I am just worried she's not that happy. I have been wondering whether to consult a behaviourist to help but I thought I'd see if anyone has any ideas first. She had a full health check up a few months back incl bloods etc so I know it's not pain, and she has been the same in various different houses we've lived in so it's not the house particularly. There are no other cats around in this house (she doesn't like other cats) and she lives indoors.
Her stressiness results in compulsive, distressed miaowing (surprise surprise) and generally very high-energy - e.g. even if she's fast asleep you can't get up without her following you to the loo or whatever, she hardly ever goes in a different room to me or my OH, and can be a bit stressy if my OH and I are in different rooms. She gets really narky if you don't immediately sit down as soon s you get in the house, and is only calm once you do (but the miaowing returns if you get up again). She also poos outside of her litter tray if she is really cross, which is maybe a couple of times a week. I wouldn't dream of leaving her overnight without someone there, so have to pay my friend to come over for the weekend if I'm going away (I couldn't, for example, pay someone to just feed her as most people can with cats, she'd be impossible).
Often, her stressiness comes from being left while I'm out (3 days a week I am out of the house, but I try to limit the amount of time she is alone), but she sometimes gets just as narky when she's had me or the OH around.
She has a tonne of toys which are rotated, good quality food, clicker training, an enrichment procedure when I leave the house etc etc. I have a feliway but don't think it makes much difference on her. I try and keep a clear routine as much as possible.
Basically, her behaviour isn't technically that "bad" but I'm just worried she's not actually that happy and would like her a bit more relaxed. I sometimes wonder whether she would be happier in a home with a sedentary older person who doesn't go anywhere. But I don't know (and my OH in particular is incredibly attached to her).
Sorry this is long. Any thoughts or anythign else I can do???
Thank you in advance!