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Hello everyone newbie here! I am just wondering if anyone has any input on my current situation
Some Background
A few months ago I went to the pet store and wanted to visit with the cats because I had time to kill, well when I was done the worker put this one cat back into the cage and it literally clung to him and whined I kid you not! It completely broke my heart - I wish I adopted that cat right then and there.
Anyway fast forward and this Christmas I decided to donate some cat toys to my local animal shelter and while I was there to drop them off I figured why not go and visit with the cats? I told them I wanted to play with the cats and one of the staff led me into this small enclosed room (I didn't know it at the time but this is the "sick room") there were about 5 cats in this room. This dark grey tiger cat caught my attention because he looked just like the poor cat I saw at the pet store a few months ago. I started petting and playing with this cat, he seemed pretty friendly not overly so but I just thought he wasn't used to being out of his cage so he was taking the opportunity to explore the room, which may of been the case but who knows. While I was playing with him the staff member walked in and happened to let me know this particular cat was sponsored - ideally meaning free. I took this as a sign, the cat looked like the cat I fell in love with at the pet store AND it was free?!! Definitely a sign right? Also he was only in the "sick room" because he wasn't neutered yet so they neutered him the next day and I came and got him the following.
Currently
Well I have the cat now and I'm feeling very uneasy about this decision. I understand the cat is going to be skiddish for a little while until he adjusts but I just, I don't know. I don't really like his personality. He growls and hisses at me at the most randomness moments, I've tried leaving him alone and just flat out ignoring him and he still hisses and growls randomly when he looks at me. He hates being picked up. He literally wants nothing to do with me. I swear he's bipolar because he will come over wanting to be pet and rubbing against me and then the next second he turns evil. I guess this is my fault because I didn't take the time and only saw him for about 20 minutes before I decided to adopt him but now I don't know what to do. I have a small 5 month old female kitten named Luna who I got from a friend and she is my baby and the new cat, Toby, is not shy at all he runs up to her meowing which completely freaks her out and she gets really worked up. I now put Toby in the extra bedroom in the basement because he won't leave Luna alone when he's upstairs, he basically harassed her for 2 hours straight she kept running away and hiding and he kept stalking her. I tried to distract him with a toy, treats, anything and his focus was all on her. The shelter gives 14 days to decide whether or not I want to keep him or not and I'm currently on day 4. I'm going to wait it out a bit longer but as of now I am so stressed out about this. Yesterday I bought these "calming" treats which have seemed to help slightly or maybe it's just in my head. If you guys have any suggestions please let me know. Should I take the cat back? I'd hate to but I don't know what to do. There's some moments where I'm like awe I think we are bonding but then he goes all psycho again. I just can't connect with this cat. Probably the only nice thing I can say about him is he's very, very playful I bought him a few toys that he plays with by himself and he absolutely loves the cat laser!
I'm just frustrated because I'm sure there are many nice cats that are craving any sort of attention just getting passed up in the shelter and I happened to get one that could care less if he was with me or not
Some Background
A few months ago I went to the pet store and wanted to visit with the cats because I had time to kill, well when I was done the worker put this one cat back into the cage and it literally clung to him and whined I kid you not! It completely broke my heart - I wish I adopted that cat right then and there.
Anyway fast forward and this Christmas I decided to donate some cat toys to my local animal shelter and while I was there to drop them off I figured why not go and visit with the cats? I told them I wanted to play with the cats and one of the staff led me into this small enclosed room (I didn't know it at the time but this is the "sick room") there were about 5 cats in this room. This dark grey tiger cat caught my attention because he looked just like the poor cat I saw at the pet store a few months ago. I started petting and playing with this cat, he seemed pretty friendly not overly so but I just thought he wasn't used to being out of his cage so he was taking the opportunity to explore the room, which may of been the case but who knows. While I was playing with him the staff member walked in and happened to let me know this particular cat was sponsored - ideally meaning free. I took this as a sign, the cat looked like the cat I fell in love with at the pet store AND it was free?!! Definitely a sign right? Also he was only in the "sick room" because he wasn't neutered yet so they neutered him the next day and I came and got him the following.
Currently
Well I have the cat now and I'm feeling very uneasy about this decision. I understand the cat is going to be skiddish for a little while until he adjusts but I just, I don't know. I don't really like his personality. He growls and hisses at me at the most randomness moments, I've tried leaving him alone and just flat out ignoring him and he still hisses and growls randomly when he looks at me. He hates being picked up. He literally wants nothing to do with me. I swear he's bipolar because he will come over wanting to be pet and rubbing against me and then the next second he turns evil. I guess this is my fault because I didn't take the time and only saw him for about 20 minutes before I decided to adopt him but now I don't know what to do. I have a small 5 month old female kitten named Luna who I got from a friend and she is my baby and the new cat, Toby, is not shy at all he runs up to her meowing which completely freaks her out and she gets really worked up. I now put Toby in the extra bedroom in the basement because he won't leave Luna alone when he's upstairs, he basically harassed her for 2 hours straight she kept running away and hiding and he kept stalking her. I tried to distract him with a toy, treats, anything and his focus was all on her. The shelter gives 14 days to decide whether or not I want to keep him or not and I'm currently on day 4. I'm going to wait it out a bit longer but as of now I am so stressed out about this. Yesterday I bought these "calming" treats which have seemed to help slightly or maybe it's just in my head. If you guys have any suggestions please let me know. Should I take the cat back? I'd hate to but I don't know what to do. There's some moments where I'm like awe I think we are bonding but then he goes all psycho again. I just can't connect with this cat. Probably the only nice thing I can say about him is he's very, very playful I bought him a few toys that he plays with by himself and he absolutely loves the cat laser!
I'm just frustrated because I'm sure there are many nice cats that are craving any sort of attention just getting passed up in the shelter and I happened to get one that could care less if he was with me or not