Bluebo, I am sorry you feel this way, I really am. I don't see a conspiracy, I really don't.
Unfortunately, I can't change the way you feel.....
We all have a life..... You bet I work full time.... and you wouldn't believe HOW FULL time my load is. I don't know if you are aware, but I actually travel 3 weeks, sometimes 4 weeks out of the month for work. Yes.... While I don't have kids due to being single and somewhat choosing a career that requires a lot of traveling instead..... I do have a life..... And so do all the others.....
We feed our cats, but we don't stop living. We don't devote our lives to our cats, and forget about the rest as you are implying here......
We all have our priorities.... Some have kids, husbands, husbands and kids, husbands and kids and work..... You are not alone on that one.....
You are not alone on having a cat that refuses to eat - many of us have that, including me.
Again, to have you feel a different way about us.... I mean... what can I say? For what I can see, it is how you feel.... It seems to me it is a matter of perspective here.... No one is trying to attack you, no one is looking down on you.... Yet you feel attacked and you feel looked down upon
I don't know how to change that, unless you start looking at things a little different here.... Because I promise you, the fact is, no one is doing that to you even though you are perceving it that way.