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Honestly, I thought it was play most of the time, and I know one instance we discussed was his showing dominance but still, I can't figure out if they're playing or not when they're running around and chasing each other. Note, they're both fixied
Every single time they start running around, Prince is usually the instigator. Even when they're not already in a playful mood, I mean when Nikita is just simply laying down or walking by, Prince goes after her. He doesn't look like he's attacking her, and her ears don't go flat nor does it look like she's defending herself, unless she's just simply laying down and it looks like she doesn't like it. When that happens, he pins her down, once pinned he starts licking her and honestly it looks like he's trying to mount her or mate with her or something.
Whenever he's sitting down and I'm petting him, if she walks by, he stops letting me pet him and starts watching her as if ready to start chasing. Sometimes she'll chase him back, and that's when I know they're playing, but when she doesn't chase him back or just lays down and he moves away either by my distraction or interest in something else and she doesn't pursue him, I'm left wondering about it.
Otherwise, they tend to be best of friends, grooming each other from time to time and whatnot, but I'm still very confused. If Prince IS bullying her or trying to do something else, what can I do? If they can't live together without him constantly going after her and potentially causing her to bottle up and be shy/timid (which I think is what is going on with her), then I'm at a loss as to what to do. I don't want to give up either of them, I love them both, so I'm a little scared Prince's behavior won't stop.
But when I brought Nikita home, both of their personalities seemed to change. At least Prince's did. He still sleeps on the bed from time to time, but never at my chest like he used to. He NEVER climbs in my lap when I'm sitting on the couch anymore (he only did this once, just a couple days ago when he randomly started kneading my stomach and curled up in my lap after he'd been laying on the floor for a few hours). I can't get him to purr anymore when petting him, I can't even get to pet him for as long as I used to because the minute Nikita walks up (usually wanting attention to) his interest suddenly shifts to her.
Our dynamic changed completely once Nikita entered our lives, but he's still the more lovable one while Nikita seems to have stopped being a "lap cat" and become more independant...but like I said, I think Prince's behavior has caused her to start to become shy, even though she's not hiding or showing signs of anxiety or fear when he's around
I'm at my wits end here
Every single time they start running around, Prince is usually the instigator. Even when they're not already in a playful mood, I mean when Nikita is just simply laying down or walking by, Prince goes after her. He doesn't look like he's attacking her, and her ears don't go flat nor does it look like she's defending herself, unless she's just simply laying down and it looks like she doesn't like it. When that happens, he pins her down, once pinned he starts licking her and honestly it looks like he's trying to mount her or mate with her or something.
Whenever he's sitting down and I'm petting him, if she walks by, he stops letting me pet him and starts watching her as if ready to start chasing. Sometimes she'll chase him back, and that's when I know they're playing, but when she doesn't chase him back or just lays down and he moves away either by my distraction or interest in something else and she doesn't pursue him, I'm left wondering about it.
Otherwise, they tend to be best of friends, grooming each other from time to time and whatnot, but I'm still very confused. If Prince IS bullying her or trying to do something else, what can I do? If they can't live together without him constantly going after her and potentially causing her to bottle up and be shy/timid (which I think is what is going on with her), then I'm at a loss as to what to do. I don't want to give up either of them, I love them both, so I'm a little scared Prince's behavior won't stop.
But when I brought Nikita home, both of their personalities seemed to change. At least Prince's did. He still sleeps on the bed from time to time, but never at my chest like he used to. He NEVER climbs in my lap when I'm sitting on the couch anymore (he only did this once, just a couple days ago when he randomly started kneading my stomach and curled up in my lap after he'd been laying on the floor for a few hours). I can't get him to purr anymore when petting him, I can't even get to pet him for as long as I used to because the minute Nikita walks up (usually wanting attention to) his interest suddenly shifts to her.
Our dynamic changed completely once Nikita entered our lives, but he's still the more lovable one while Nikita seems to have stopped being a "lap cat" and become more independant...but like I said, I think Prince's behavior has caused her to start to become shy, even though she's not hiding or showing signs of anxiety or fear when he's around
I'm at my wits end here
