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I have 3 cats . One is an older 11 male I’ve posted about before . The other two are almost a year old male brothers who are both neutered . One of them is the sweetest bobtail boy . His brother is quite the opposite . I adopted his brother sight unseen because when I applied to adopt Arlo the bobtail I remembered how having two kittens at once is better for them developmentally . His brother was still available and I hadn’t met him so I really had no idea of his personality. I had met Arlo and fell in love with him and was totally willing to adopt just him but I adopted the brother thinking it would better to not leave him behind or for Arlo to have his sibling . We named him Finn . So Finn was a little more shy at first but quickly became avoidant of us and any handling . We tried to handle him the same amount as Arlo but he just didn’t want to be handled , picked up , held , pet etc . The boys played and slept together . I did see some dominance between them but couldn’t tell for sure which was going to be dominant . They’ve both been fixed since 10 weeks . Arlo was always the brave friendly kitten who loves to snuggle . Well over time Finn has become more and more elusive and avoidant of people . Arlo and Finn generally sleep separately. They do play and race around in the evening but most of the time you find Arlo on his cat tree , and Finn roaming around looking for things to get into . They have loads of toys . They have a cat tower and scratching post . Finn will happily entertain himself with a ball but often is found trying to get into things and pester our rabbit or our older cat . He acts bored despite all the stuff he has to play with and his brother . That’s not the issue though : he basically acts like a cat who would be better suited to outdoor farm life than an inside family cat . He shows literally no affection or interest on people unless you have food . My oldest daughter seems to have some kind of language with him and he will go lay down on her bed and let her pet him . But even she agreed that he just acte
Oddly . It would be ok … if it’s just his personality. I have often wanted to rehome him . I will NOT rehome Arlo as he’s super sweet and we all have bonded with him . But here’s the problem, Finn seems to have influenced Arlo and now Arlo is acting more reclusive and avoidant of people . He has no reason to except he’s taking cues from his brother . Instead of his brother seeing how brave and social Arlo is , Finn shows Arlo all the things to get into and teaches him to avoid humans . I feel like Finn had actually had a negative influence on Arlo instead of the other way around . I saw someone say that as kittens get older their kitten bond goes away . They don’t sleep together and rarely show each other affection but they do play . I wonder if Finn would just do better in a quiet single person household . He’s never been outside so I don’t see him actually doing well outside despite his reclusive tendency . Our home is kind of noisy and he hides from everything and slinks around . You can look at him and he runs . Arlo normally isn’t afraid of anything and loves our toddler (toddler isn’t aloud to pickup or tease either of them and never has been ) . I just wonder if both of them would thrive better if separated . People have told me I should just rehome them together or it wouldn’t be fair to them but my whole point is that only one them seems to be not thriving
Oddly . It would be ok … if it’s just his personality. I have often wanted to rehome him . I will NOT rehome Arlo as he’s super sweet and we all have bonded with him . But here’s the problem, Finn seems to have influenced Arlo and now Arlo is acting more reclusive and avoidant of people . He has no reason to except he’s taking cues from his brother . Instead of his brother seeing how brave and social Arlo is , Finn shows Arlo all the things to get into and teaches him to avoid humans . I feel like Finn had actually had a negative influence on Arlo instead of the other way around . I saw someone say that as kittens get older their kitten bond goes away . They don’t sleep together and rarely show each other affection but they do play . I wonder if Finn would just do better in a quiet single person household . He’s never been outside so I don’t see him actually doing well outside despite his reclusive tendency . Our home is kind of noisy and he hides from everything and slinks around . You can look at him and he runs . Arlo normally isn’t afraid of anything and loves our toddler (toddler isn’t aloud to pickup or tease either of them and never has been ) . I just wonder if both of them would thrive better if separated . People have told me I should just rehome them together or it wouldn’t be fair to them but my whole point is that only one them seems to be not thriving
