How soon is too soon - Grief when having a new kitten

[bibi_Jiji]

I am in a very weird funk at the moment and wasn't sure where to post this.
We unexpectedly brought home a new kitten yesterday but it feels so soon after our foster passed on 9/13.
It makes me sad to think of our foster and compare her to this new little one. It's not the regret of having this new girl but more so the sadness and realizing how behind our foster was in development and temperament.
This little girl is 11 weeks old and is 2.5 lbs. Black little pudgy thing with so much energy and the sweetest temper. She loves playing with her toys and doesn't rest at all. She is constantly go go go! It's like she's a wind up toy that broke and won't stop running. I love it.
Compared to our foster who was 17-26 weeks old who barely played, slept all day, and was 1.8lbs at her passing. It's astounding to see the difference and it makes me so incredibly sad. She was constant cuddles and eating but no energy to truly do much besides that.
I don't feel I'm replacing her, not one bit, nor do I regret that she is now here. If anything, she livens up our house after such a hectic sad week. I just feel so incredibly sad to think this was supposed to be her life. This is more of a rant than anything.

 

[Furballsmom]

It is hard to see what you and that other baby missed out on, but her whole little self was bathed in your love.

This new darling will continue to bring you joy, and that is such a very good thing

 

[betsygee]

It's hard not to compare. But something brought this new kitty to you. I hope she helps heal your heart.

Is this new kitty another foster? What's her name?

 

[bibi_Jiji]

It's hard not to compare. But something brought this new kitty to you. I hope she helps heal your heart.

Is this new kitty another foster? What's her name?

She is slowly but still sad whenever I spend time with her.Her name is Mika. She is fully adopted by us but we do need to bring her back for her rabies.

 

[Docs Mom]

Very cute ! She will be well loved, her foster can live on through her living a happy life. You gave your foster kitty a good loving in her short life...

 

[bibi_Jiji]

Very cute ! She will be well loved, her foster can live on through her living a happy life. You gave your foster kitty a good loving in her short life...

Thank you. We did get her ashes back yesterday so it feels nice to have the house "full" again. I hope I can give our new kitten the life I wanted to give our foster.

 

[betsygee]

I hope I can give our new kitten the life I wanted to give our foster.

You will.

 

[Purr-fect]

I am in a very weird funk at the moment and wasn't sure where to post this.
We unexpectedly brought home a new kitten yesterday but it feels so soon after our foster passed on 9/13.
It makes me sad to think of our foster and compare her to this new little one. It's not the regret of having this new girl but more so the sadness and realizing how behind our foster was in development and temperament.

Your new kitten needed a loving home. The sooner she got it, the better for her. Perhaps think of it this way. The final gift your foster kitten gave you was opening the door for your new kitten.

 

[Jojo&Tutu]

I fully emphasize with you. My cat Tutu died in March due to an incompetent ER vet at a specialist hospital. She was 20 but in stable condition. She had a reaction to an antibiotic and was throwing up and dehydrating. I took her in for iv fluids which should have been given as a slow drip but instead the idiot vet put her in a bair hugger high heat with no fluids for nearly three hours and then pushed fluids in too fast and it was horrible how she passed and how horrible he was to her. It’s going in to the CA vet board soon. Three months later and I adopted a new kitty a year and a half year old kitty. She is a much bigger 9 lb healthy Seal point Siamese. Tutu was only 6 1/2 lbs at her best a chocolate point Siamese. Mia is just a different cat and I am adjusting. She is like a beauty queen tomboy wild woman. Tutu was a sweet princess ballerina. It’s hard to adjust. I am loving Mia but still missing Tutu. It dampers the loss but doesn’t eliminate it. I believe it will take time. Mia is slowly trusting me and loving me too. Here’s two pictures of Mia and two of Tutu.