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So we took a trip to Buy Buy Baby (and Ikea) today so I could pick up my free gift bag and we could look and see what there was and look at some of the stuff we registered for in person. And we pass a Dock a tot, which is not something I was planning on getting and my husband looks at it was all "this is just an expensive cat bed. In fact, if we got one, it would become a cat bed."

... I mean, he's not wrong! But his reaction still made me laugh.
 

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Oh my word...did you see the velvet one on their page? All I can think is...you know that's going to get spewed on right? But I suppose if someone is going to spend $3200 on a bassinet that turns into a bench...why not. :dunno: Everyone was always saying "You don't NEED x, y or z." I thought that was pretty condescending because I used x, y and z regularly... I could join that camp with this but again...if you've got $3200 to blow; who am I to tell you what to blow it on. :lol:

I do like the co-sleeper that attaches to the side of your bed so you aren't actually in bed together. That would probably have gotten more use than our bassinet. Although they don't rock. :think: I think my cousin has both the co-sleeper and that dock a tot thing. Or maybe just something similar. Sometimes you can't put a price on whatever gets them to sleep! The problem is; you can't predict it either. :crazy:
 

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this is just an expensive cat bed. In fact, if we got one, it would become a cat bed."
There is at least one child-raising advice columnist who recommends getting a dog bed for older kids when you want to get them out of your bed. Start them off on a dog bed on the floor, and gradually transition them into their own room. Part of why it works, they say, is because kids of a certain age think sleeping in a dog bed is super fun, lol.

I think those baby beds that go on the side of the big bed are a good idea too. Let's be real: very few breastfeeding moms are actually going to drag themselves in and out of bed to nurse several times a night, might as well plan for it.
 

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I had no idea they had co-sleepers or any of theses items!!
There is at least one child-raising advice columnist who recommends getting a dog bed for older kids when you want to get them out of your bed
Why are older kids still in bed with their parents?:headscratch: I have much to learn.....
 
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I do like the co-sleeper that attaches to the side of your bed so you aren't actually in bed together. That would probably have gotten more use than our bassinet.
Yes, I definitely want one of those, especially for the first six months, so I can just pull Bebe out to breastfeed without having to get out of bed. I ended up registering for an Arm's Reach because I'd heard good things, but there were so many choices.

I'm getting to the point where I'm starting to itch to buy some stuff, but reminding myself there will probably be some Black Friday type sales around Thanksgiving and I should wait for those.
 

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I had no idea they had co-sleepers or any of theses items!!
My mom is super jealous of everything parents have now! She says she needed all this stuff when she had kids, why didn't they invent it sooner? :lol:
Why are older kids still in bed with their parents?:headscratch: I have much to learn.....
Idk, in my family we all co-slept until I was 12 or so :paperbag:. It was just scary to be alone at night!
 

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I slept with my mother till I was 11 I think. She was single and I never liked sleeping alone. I would start in my bed and end up in hers most nights. I just remember one day deciding I didn't want to anymore. It's interesting because now I'm really particular about my personal space. DH is the only one I can sleep next to. I shared the bed with DD on a trip once and it was awful. She only slept in bed with DH and I once on a trip as a baby because she refused to sleep otherwise. Plus I tend to bunch pillows and blankets up to lay on them while sleeping. So it's definitely not safe for me to co-sleep with a baby. Even though you sleep different and more aware with a baby around; I just wouldn't do it. All of my stepsisters and cousins co-sleep while nursing. One cousin does extended nursing so really keeping them close is easier on them. She works too. My sister-in-law is more like me. We slept better with the kids in their own rooms once they get around 12 weeks. I found we all slept deeper without the noises. But stumbling down the hall in the night isn't fun either. So whatever works for you; do that. That's pretty much my parenting advice in general. :lol: :crazy:

Also; video monitors are worth every penny. :lol: I used that until both kids were almost preschool age. I could turn the screen off but also keep an eye on them and not miss them needing me either. One time I had accidentally turned our sound-only monitor down too far so I didn't hear DD till she was wailing. The video one had a light bar that changed with the volume in her room. But it also didn't pick up the noise of her rolling over.
 

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Regarding co-sleeping.We have family beds. My husband and I have 2 kids, 8 and 10. We have 2 king size beds in the master bedroom and a king and a twin in the boys bedroom. My 10 year old, unless sick sleeps alone in the boys room king bed. My 8 year old still comes into the master bedroom and sleeps in the 1 king bed with dad because he is afraid. I sleep alone in the other king size bed with 2 cats who can tolerate my tossing and turning. FYI no relations between my husband and myself happen in any co sleeping bed only “my” bed and when the children are not in the room.
 
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:sigh:

I had another spurt of blood at a 4AM bathroom trip after two weeks of nothing. I can only assume my placenta's not moving, or else this wouldn't be happening.

I'm so sad and bummed about this.
 

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Oh NO!!!!!! ((((((HUGS)))))))):grouphug:

Did you call your midwife? You really need to report this.. There has to be a reason for it...
A diagnosis..

I do not want to frighten you, but ....
I really feel you should be referred to a doctor.. a specialist in MFM... Maternal Fetal Medicine... for a detailed scan: reason: Consistent, unexplained painless bleeding...

This has been going on far too long, with too many episodes..

Midwifes, are good, up to a point. You need to get to the bottom of this.. At least to stop the anxiety you are feeling about it and Bebe.

Specialists can find so many hidden reasons for bleeding.. some may remain hidden, but not many. They search, during the ultrasound for a source of the bleeding. They do not give up, until all options are exhausted... not extensive testing, but just a very targeted ultrasound.

Please, you owe it to yourself...

There are many things which can be going on.... I know, from experience.. That is the type of work I did.

oh Lari, my heart is full of concern for you... Not that I think Bebe is in any danger, or you.. but you need an answer..

It could be something, relatively minor, but at least you have an answer..

(((((((Hugs)))))))
 
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They open at 9 - so in about 15 minutes. Since I have my rhogam shot, felt Bebe moving after the episode, and I'm mostly down to spotting, i figured I'd wait for them to open rather than calling the after hours line and seeing what they recommend.

I can only assume my placenta is not moving, and that's the reason. But I'll see what they say.

I really wanted a water birth with a midwife and not an early c section woth a doctor and I feel it slipping away and it makes me really sad even though I know a healthy baby is the most important thing.
 

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They open at 9 - so in about 15 minutes. Since I have my rhogam shot, felt Bebe moving after the episode, and I'm mostly down to spotting, i figured I'd wait for them to open rather than calling the after hours line and seeing what they recommend.

I can only assume my placenta is not moving, and that's the reason. But I'll see what they say.

I really wanted a water birth with a midwife and not an early c section woth a doctor and I feel it slipping away and it makes me really sad even though I know a healthy baby is the most important thing.
Yes, it could be that a piece of the placenta is covering the internal cervical os; it could be something else....

Not to scare you: but, just from experience; It could also be a concealed or revealed placenta abruption-- when the placenta has pulled away, a bit from the placenta wall, causing bleeding.. Both these things can resolve, on their on, but you should be monitored. You may need some type of precautions: as in bed rest, or no lifting.... Both these things are painless also.... so you really do need to see someone very knowledgable..

I understand you are very disappointed for not having a home/water bath birth.. but, you want Bebe tp be safe...

If the placenta is a partial prevue, causing bleeding, there is still a good chance it can move away, so that you can have a normal delivery. It needs to be followed-up, periodically; to make sure..

You may/probably not need a C-Section!!! Think of it that way...

I hate to say it, but it always seemed that the patients with a birth plan, always had complications during the pregnancy which put the plan out the door...

Just go with the flow.... better for you and bebe...

Hospitals are so much more accommodating with births; They really trie to accommodate the moms, making it a great experience for all involved. I mean it...... You may not need to remove the midwife...

Just take one thing at a time.. I mean it... but please, get a definite answer... Do not assume.. that is the worst thing that you can do... please...

I will be thinking and praying for you...

Again, not trying to be an alarmist... I just want you to have the appropriate care, which you so deserve.. You are not one to be alarm, but you need to stand your ground... please...
 

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Let's be real: very few breastfeeding moms are actually going to drag themselves in and out of bed to nurse several times a night
I did it and have absolutely no regrets although the co-sleeper arrangement is tempting.

Midwifes, are good, up to a point. You need to get to the bottom of this.. At least to stop the anxiety you are feeling about it and Bebe.Specialists can find so many hidden reasons for bleeding.. some may remain hidden, but not many. They search, during the ultrasound for a source of the bleeding. They do not give up, until all options are exhausted... not extensive testing, but just a very targeted ultrasound.
I have to agree with artiemom artiemom :agree: But you know your midwife best so hopefully she will guide you in the right direction. Just make sure you advocate for yourself and don't hesitate to talk with an ob/gyne specialist if necessary. Thinking of you and hoping everything works out.🤗
 

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And we pass a Dock a tot, which is not something I was planning on getting and my husband looks at it was all "this is just an expensive cat bed. In fact, if we got one, it would become a cat bed."
My sister, who has no pets by the way, thought dog/cat beds were a god send with her kids. She would use them all the time, easy to pack and bring to other places, firm/raised sides kept baby safe for nap times if not home in the crib, machine wash, easy to find and replace, cheaper then things made for "babies"...etc.
 
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So they had me come in to labor and delivery again and it was pretty useless overall. I saw one of the OBs who did an internal exam, and decided since I wasn't actively bleeding anymore he said he just recommended keeping my ultrasound next Friday since there will be a better view at 28 weeks. He said he could order one today, but didn't think it was necessary. He said it wasn't anything I was doing that was causing this, and maybe how Bebe was kicking. Recommended continuing pelvic rest and taking it easy.

Seems like it wasn't even worth going in. I guess I'll learn more in ten days. I'll keep doing my placenta previa meditation and hope for the best while expecting the worst.
 

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Its better to check than wonder. Even if it just gives you a little piece of mind to know its not an emergency. Waiting is hard too though:hugs:

Any good practitioner won’t be offended when someone gets another opinion.

Birth plans are a funny thing. Its good to have one; but also keep in mind that things can change in the moment. Including what you want. My nurse with DS actually went back to my plan for me when I didn’t care anymore in the moment. It ended up being helpful. (I requested a mirror to help during pushing and it did help! I had wished I could see if what I was doing was doing something productive with DD instead of having to ask!) With DD; I never got around to writing anything down and she was early, but it did help me see that you need some flexibility.
 

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So they had me come in to labor and delivery again and it was pretty useless overall. I saw one of the OBs who did an internal exam, and decided since I wasn't actively bleeding anymore he said he just recommended keeping my ultrasound next Friday since there will be a better view at 28 weeks. He said he could order one today, but didn't think it was necessary. He said it wasn't anything I was doing that was causing this, and maybe how Bebe was kicking. Recommended continuing pelvic rest and taking it easy.

Seems like it wasn't even worth going in. I guess I'll learn more in ten days. I'll keep doing my placenta previa meditation and hope for the best while expecting the worst.
Oh, I am so sorry that you went through this, for nothing.... ((hugs)))..

I agree with MoochNNoodles MoochNNoodles ; Consider a second opinion.

Now, I will keep my mouth shut, and my fingers free from commenting..

Sending you plenty of :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes:
 
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