The tell for wanting them to have you stop rubbing their back is increased swishing of the tail and rolling on the back. We call her swatting "boxing" and we don't put up with it. Try picking her up like an infant an swaddling her and gently rubbing hers eyes and nose. Eventually she will rub...
My cat has a very low threshold between pleasure and pain. I can rub her back three times before she flips on her back and starts scratching (hard!!!) and biting. The first thing I did was get claw covers called soft paws and they last about 6 weeks. Then I learned that her pleasure center was...
