Thank you all again for your thoughtful replies! I did talk with my husband again, and he said that his biggest concern was having a cat that often scratched and/or bit our children (occasional occurrences are to be expected). Since this seemed reasonable, I did visit the cat that I was...
Great points, again, @talkingpeanut. I am just going to have to have a serious discussion with him tonight about realistic expectations about normal cat behavior. Even if I can somehow turn myself into a master cat trainer, the cat will never behave "perfectly" all of the time. Either he...
@ArtNJ, great point! I did ask about trimming nails. They said that the cat does not like it, and they have to do one nail at a time. So, that's something I'd need to work on. But, I think that trimming the nails, while lessening any damage from scratching, won't completely prevent damage...
You are all wonderful! Thank you so much for your terrific advice!
I agree that we need to be clear about expectations, and that those expectations should be reasonable. Right now, his are not. I can't turn this cat into a dog, and I'm already feeling anxious about any behavior missteps...
Thank you, @MargoLane! My husband and I continued our conversation last night. It looks like where we stand now is I will meet the cat by myself first, and, if I fall in love and think it is a great match for our family, then we will all meet the cat. We will only go through with the adoption...
Hi everyone! This is my first post and I'd love to get some honest opinions. I would like to adopt a cat, but my husband does not.
We've had a few cats in the past, before children. He started out not minding cats, but grew to not like them and feels that they're selfish, demanding, and not...