Cat Only Likes One Person In Our Household

Hi! I have two cats. One is a 5-year-old Balinese girl who loves every human being she has ever met, except for my loud and unpredictable daughter (understandable). The other is a one-and-a-half-year-old Siberian. She is beautiful and very soft. Unfortunately, she only loves me. She is rude to my husband, and will even nip at him. She is not a fan of my daughter, which, again, I can understand. With visitors, she is aloof and cold. But me (the one who took care of her as a kitten, and who feeds her, grooms her, and cleans her bathroom), she will follow through the house. She will meow to me, sit on my lap, and stare lovingly into my face. But everyone else gets coldness and scorn. What can I do? I did try putting some Temptations on my husband's sweater when he was reading on the sofa, but the effect was minimal. I just want to encourage her to be friendly, although I do realize you can't control someone else's personality.

It is especially annoying because she creates extra trouble and work. She is a picky eater (only likes food that you have to drive far away to buy), is always shedding huge balls of white fur, needs lots of brushing, and my husband is allergic to her. He takes special medicine and uses an inhaler to deal with living with her. She shreds chairs and rugs and zooms around at top speed every night at 9pm. Sometimes, I even have to clean her butt for her...argh. I just want to encourage friendliness, especially since my husband is already suffering from having her here. At least the other cat is nice. Advice? Thank you!

I understand with your husband being allergic that it might trigger his allergies, but can he take over some of the care-taking? Feeding is the most impactful, I think, but doing the litterbox and grooming her (if she allows it) might help build a bond between then. Also wand toys and other interactive play during the 9 pm zoomies might wear her out and also form a bond as well. She sounds fun and sassy!

It just happens sometimes. My wife and I split cat chores fairly evenly, but the cats have relegated her to the B-list. It is actually kind of funny. She'll be sitting on the couch with one of the cats and as soon as I sit down that cat will get up and sit with me. I stopped calling the cats when I get home because they will literally walk away from being pet to greet me.

Some cats are just one person cats and the best thing is for your husband not to take it personally. One of our family cats fell all over my son but disliked me so much that she would give me a claws out slap and a hiss if I even ventured into her personal space. And my most friendly cat loved everyone at first sight including strangers but turned up her nose and would have nothing to do with my son. It is hard to understand some times.

Thanks for your replies! I totally get that all cats are different, and that when they choose a favorite, some times randomly, it can be very obvious. But I can't help wishing she'd snap out of it. It's just so sad! Maybe she'll cheer up with him as she gets older, but it seems kind of unlikely...back to the Temptations I guess

Personally, I'd stop being sad about it and I'd enjoy the privilege of being chosen Who knows, maybe when you all stop wishing for her to like your husband, she will suddenly like him way more