Info:
Domestic shorthair, Female, Spayed, 10 months old, healthy weight
Background:
Adopted from a shelter, came very malnourished. Diarrhea, used to scarf up food and then vomit it out. Nursed her back to health, spoonfed her till she learned how to eat normally, now she's a good slow eater and poop is great. Congenital tooth issue -- took her to a dentist and they removed one of her canines.
Other cats:
3 others, they all get along splendidly. She is the glue between all of them. Cuddles with each, plays with each, grooms everyone everyday.
Routine:
fed 1 can of wet food (Blue Wilderness) twice a day -- morning/evening.
2-3 play sessions per day with humans. She has 3 other kittens she plays with on top of it.
Issue:
Nonstop howling and vocalizations. Her meow is incredibly shrill. I go into the bedroom, she follows like a shadow and howls under the door crack. Frequently wakes me up in the morning by howling at random times -- 6AM to 9 AM. I work from home so I already spend a lot of time with her (pet + play), and she's in the vicinity 24/7. I'm at my wits end -- I feel like I give her a lot, and all those things I give them to her _not_ when she's demanding them. I wait until she's quiet. But the vocalizations just seem to be her nature -- she never stops them.
For example, the morning howls are never rewarded for her. Totally ignored, etc. Still been going on for months with no sign of stopping. Sometimes when she's quiet I will pet her for a while, and if I walk away, she will start letting out those shrilly sounds. I ignore it, but it doesn't seem to matter. It will happen again next time.
Recently she learned how to open doors. She only opens them to try and force her way to be with me. I only close the doors to bedroom when I sleep and to my office when I need to get some work done and she's in the room vocalizing / distracting me. She's banged against the door enough times to learn how to open it. Now I have to lock it, so she's back to the usual routine of banging against the door handle && vocalizing. I've _never_ rewarded this behavior. Never went to open a door, and never shouted at her. I just ignored it by putting on headphones and now locking the door. The funny thing is she only opens any doors when I'm behind them. She could be exploring all manners of "off-limits" areas but she has no interest in them if there are no humans there.
She's just way too high maintenance, and my patience is running thin. It was OK before and kind of cute, but after months of this I am very exhausted and I even cried from frustration a few times. I don't know why she's so unhappy. I read online about how to train kittens to be quiet -- I don't think I have the stamina to train her like that. She has worn me down. I'm not even sure I feel good petting her anymore because she gets so upset sometimes when I stop it.
Does anyone have any advice? The other 3 cats are very healthy, happy cats. My house has a lot of cat trees, I cycle toys for them and have always made sure to give them all a workout at least once per day. Poopboxes scooped twice a day. I feel like I am a responsible caregiver. But she makes me feel like I am constantly failing her because she howls all the time.
I am writing this right now with her sitting in my lap. She's a sweet tiny kitty, but she's also a demon with those vocal chords of hers. Sometimes I feel like I could have so much peace if I gave her away, but my heart breaks when I imagine her back at the shelter.
Please send help.
Domestic shorthair, Female, Spayed, 10 months old, healthy weight
Background:
Adopted from a shelter, came very malnourished. Diarrhea, used to scarf up food and then vomit it out. Nursed her back to health, spoonfed her till she learned how to eat normally, now she's a good slow eater and poop is great. Congenital tooth issue -- took her to a dentist and they removed one of her canines.
Other cats:
3 others, they all get along splendidly. She is the glue between all of them. Cuddles with each, plays with each, grooms everyone everyday.
Routine:
fed 1 can of wet food (Blue Wilderness) twice a day -- morning/evening.
2-3 play sessions per day with humans. She has 3 other kittens she plays with on top of it.
Issue:
Nonstop howling and vocalizations. Her meow is incredibly shrill. I go into the bedroom, she follows like a shadow and howls under the door crack. Frequently wakes me up in the morning by howling at random times -- 6AM to 9 AM. I work from home so I already spend a lot of time with her (pet + play), and she's in the vicinity 24/7. I'm at my wits end -- I feel like I give her a lot, and all those things I give them to her _not_ when she's demanding them. I wait until she's quiet. But the vocalizations just seem to be her nature -- she never stops them.
For example, the morning howls are never rewarded for her. Totally ignored, etc. Still been going on for months with no sign of stopping. Sometimes when she's quiet I will pet her for a while, and if I walk away, she will start letting out those shrilly sounds. I ignore it, but it doesn't seem to matter. It will happen again next time.
Recently she learned how to open doors. She only opens them to try and force her way to be with me. I only close the doors to bedroom when I sleep and to my office when I need to get some work done and she's in the room vocalizing / distracting me. She's banged against the door enough times to learn how to open it. Now I have to lock it, so she's back to the usual routine of banging against the door handle && vocalizing. I've _never_ rewarded this behavior. Never went to open a door, and never shouted at her. I just ignored it by putting on headphones and now locking the door. The funny thing is she only opens any doors when I'm behind them. She could be exploring all manners of "off-limits" areas but she has no interest in them if there are no humans there.
She's just way too high maintenance, and my patience is running thin. It was OK before and kind of cute, but after months of this I am very exhausted and I even cried from frustration a few times. I don't know why she's so unhappy. I read online about how to train kittens to be quiet -- I don't think I have the stamina to train her like that. She has worn me down. I'm not even sure I feel good petting her anymore because she gets so upset sometimes when I stop it.
Does anyone have any advice? The other 3 cats are very healthy, happy cats. My house has a lot of cat trees, I cycle toys for them and have always made sure to give them all a workout at least once per day. Poopboxes scooped twice a day. I feel like I am a responsible caregiver. But she makes me feel like I am constantly failing her because she howls all the time.
I am writing this right now with her sitting in my lap. She's a sweet tiny kitty, but she's also a demon with those vocal chords of hers. Sometimes I feel like I could have so much peace if I gave her away, but my heart breaks when I imagine her back at the shelter.
Please send help.