I've always believed pets are for the long haul. This is a behaviour problem that I think I've been contributing to. I'm willing to work it out. Although I've mostly discussed her aggressive behaviour, this is not her only trait. She's a sweetheart with my daughter and most of the time with me...
OMG it's so good to hear I'm not the only one with a cat like this! People look at me strange when I try to describe it. IT IS like she is trying to "teach" us. I even get a lesson if I'm speaking loudly so my my daughter can hear me in the other room. As for yelling we just never do it...
"How does she behave just before she attacks? Does she hiss or growl? Does she looks scared or playful (are her pupils dialated?)"
I don't usually see her before it happens. The time I was at the computer she was "suddenly there". One night I got up to turn off the tv after I had fell asleep...
I have a calico that I took in about 5 years ago. She would bite when something was dropped or someone was yelling. I was in the fridge one day, dropped a can of coke and was bitten in the back of my leg hard. Over time this had gotten better but now it's starting up again. The other day I was...