So a few months ago I had an argument with my boyfriend about declawing. He said that I shouldn't pretend that we don't do things to cats for our own selfish needs, including but not limited to, spaying/neutering. I tried to explain that its for the cat's own good, and that it doesn't have lasting consequences. He said that's ridiculous, removing the s*x organs means depriving the body of the hormones associated with those organs, and thus altering the cats physical and emotional behavior.
Moving forward to today, my cat scratched me while I was trying to fix his Da Bird toy. My boyfriend said 'You should get him declawed.' I said 'Don't even go there' or something of the like, he said 'I meant only the front', and I responded with the same thing. He said something I can't remember and I replied by basically saying this isn't something to joke about. He responded by going 'oh' in a certain tone of voice that he uses when he means 'oh, that's so sad' like you might respond to a whiny person who is complaining because their iPhone is broken. (If you get what I mean.) I told him again, I wasn't joking around, and he continued to say 'oh.' Then after I replied again, he said 'I was being serious. About declawing your cat.' I ended the call and texted him saying that he was completely disregarding my feelings and being uncaring. He called back a while later after he saw the message and asked why I was being dramatic and crazy.
How do I deal with this situation? :/
Moving forward to today, my cat scratched me while I was trying to fix his Da Bird toy. My boyfriend said 'You should get him declawed.' I said 'Don't even go there' or something of the like, he said 'I meant only the front', and I responded with the same thing. He said something I can't remember and I replied by basically saying this isn't something to joke about. He responded by going 'oh' in a certain tone of voice that he uses when he means 'oh, that's so sad' like you might respond to a whiny person who is complaining because their iPhone is broken. (If you get what I mean.) I told him again, I wasn't joking around, and he continued to say 'oh.' Then after I replied again, he said 'I was being serious. About declawing your cat.' I ended the call and texted him saying that he was completely disregarding my feelings and being uncaring. He called back a while later after he saw the message and asked why I was being dramatic and crazy.
How do I deal with this situation? :/