Long story alert: but I swear it's worth it because it's about a very nice boy.
I have a completely indoor 14 month old male cat kid. I've had him since he was 6 months old. He's an amazing kid and has an incredibly lovely, friendly personality. He lovesss belly rubs and being picked up. He answers when I call him by his name and purrs on my shoulder. He has never pooped peed or puked in the house. He follows me around at home and makes me feel like I'm so loved. He comes to the door to say goodbye when I leave for work. When I get back home I see him waiting by the window for me. As soon as I park the car he runs to the door to welcome me back. He never scratches anyone or anything, goes to bed with us wakes up with us, eats when we have dinner and watches tv sitting in between me and his other human. Long story short he's literally the best thing that ever happened to me and he's the love of my life. He's the only one in my life that I know day in and day out will make me happy just with his one little look.
But...we work 10-12 hours a day and are gone for 13-14 hours everyday. I used be really worried about him being lonely when he was a baby but I think he's okay now. As much as it seems like he not only prefers it this way but likes to have the whole place to himself, a part of me wonders if he gets sad being alone during the day.
Here's my problem. I have met this 5 month old girl kitty at the shelter today when I went to drop off some donations and I can't stop thinking about her little face! She seemed nice, didn't try to scratch or bite or run away. She loved being held. I want to bring her home but I'm worried about how my boy is going to react. Is it going to change his personality in any way shape or form at all? I could never forgive myself if I lost my goofy, loving, cuddly kid for not thinking this through... Would he pick up her "bad" habits if she has any? Would he feel betrayed or happy to have a companion? Should I just be grateful for the one that I have and not risk our relationship?
The shelter said she's getting spayed todays I could bring her home tomorrow to foster for 3 days to see how it goes. But 2 of those 3 days I'll be at work all day. What if they attack each other? I don't have the option to isolate them really...
IF it doesn't work out is it even worth it to turn my existing kid's life upside down for 3 days? What about the new kitten? Wouldn't it be an awful thing to take her back? I'm afraid I'll make both miserable... I'm also worried about the cost a little as we get the best of the bests for my cat and with a new kitten I might have to cut back to best from best of the bests. Is it better to give one kitty a great life than giving 2 kitties a good life? I'm so torn..
Please help? I have never had a pet before - he's my first kid. I don't know much about multi cat adjustments and I'm losing my mind..
P.S. if I haven't clarified already - I love my existing cat with all my heart and his well being and happiness is the most important factor. I do not want him to lose his little personality traits.
Thank you!!!
I have a completely indoor 14 month old male cat kid. I've had him since he was 6 months old. He's an amazing kid and has an incredibly lovely, friendly personality. He lovesss belly rubs and being picked up. He answers when I call him by his name and purrs on my shoulder. He has never pooped peed or puked in the house. He follows me around at home and makes me feel like I'm so loved. He comes to the door to say goodbye when I leave for work. When I get back home I see him waiting by the window for me. As soon as I park the car he runs to the door to welcome me back. He never scratches anyone or anything, goes to bed with us wakes up with us, eats when we have dinner and watches tv sitting in between me and his other human. Long story short he's literally the best thing that ever happened to me and he's the love of my life. He's the only one in my life that I know day in and day out will make me happy just with his one little look.
But...we work 10-12 hours a day and are gone for 13-14 hours everyday. I used be really worried about him being lonely when he was a baby but I think he's okay now. As much as it seems like he not only prefers it this way but likes to have the whole place to himself, a part of me wonders if he gets sad being alone during the day.
Here's my problem. I have met this 5 month old girl kitty at the shelter today when I went to drop off some donations and I can't stop thinking about her little face! She seemed nice, didn't try to scratch or bite or run away. She loved being held. I want to bring her home but I'm worried about how my boy is going to react. Is it going to change his personality in any way shape or form at all? I could never forgive myself if I lost my goofy, loving, cuddly kid for not thinking this through... Would he pick up her "bad" habits if she has any? Would he feel betrayed or happy to have a companion? Should I just be grateful for the one that I have and not risk our relationship?
The shelter said she's getting spayed todays I could bring her home tomorrow to foster for 3 days to see how it goes. But 2 of those 3 days I'll be at work all day. What if they attack each other? I don't have the option to isolate them really...
IF it doesn't work out is it even worth it to turn my existing kid's life upside down for 3 days? What about the new kitten? Wouldn't it be an awful thing to take her back? I'm afraid I'll make both miserable... I'm also worried about the cost a little as we get the best of the bests for my cat and with a new kitten I might have to cut back to best from best of the bests. Is it better to give one kitty a great life than giving 2 kitties a good life? I'm so torn..
Please help? I have never had a pet before - he's my first kid. I don't know much about multi cat adjustments and I'm losing my mind..
P.S. if I haven't clarified already - I love my existing cat with all my heart and his well being and happiness is the most important factor. I do not want him to lose his little personality traits.
Thank you!!!
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