What's on Your Mind Thread - 2024

[artiemom]

I got the results of my PET scan yesterday. The scan shows no cancer, no abnormalities. It was clean! And I immediately started to cry. My oncologist gave me a huge hug. This was literally the best news we've had in a year. I will continue with the Keytruda treatments; I have five more to go. And then we'll see what's going on. If need be, I can do the treatments for two years. But, if all goes well, it will just be a maintenance kind of thing. Oh, and, at this point, he sees no reason to remove the bladder.

I still need to do blood work because of my kidneys. The kidney issue will likely be a lifelong thing for me as going through chemo really did a number on them. I will work on diet (and now exercise) to get the numbers lower and, hopefully, keep them lower. So far, there's no need for dialysis.

• Change the bedsheets and put the dirty ones in the washer.
• Work on cleaning and chopping peppers for the freezer. Rick will be going up to the garden today to pick lima beans. I'll work on them, too.
• We're trying a chuck roast in the Traeger tomorrow. I'll get it ready tonight.

I told her exactly what to do - it is against the law for a landlord to shut off water,gas or electric plus no one van force you out of the rental unit except the County Sheriff- an order to vacate must be obtained from the Court,posted or served properly as well- then you respond ( all she had to do was call the police and they would've called the landlord informing her of the Law- I know the person well and police can handle the matter with no problem)

Yes,it is unlawful to tamper with an elextric meter and also power theft is a crime plus unlawful entry into the electrical room to unauthorized persons( only FPL or a licensed electrician with a work order may have access)

So now,she and her ' friend" are on cctv unlawfully entering,FPL shut the power off and now it will show kilowatt usage- the owner( landlord) will be notified and billed,in turn shell call the property mgr ordering to see who entered the room and the girl just doesn't think because she's a reactionary whirlwind of chaos.....

Plus she called the new ( prospectivs)owners realtor,the landlords daughter,FPL,the maintenance person and she cannot ever keep her mouth shut and thibk anything through.... now that she has told everyone in the universe she had no power what do you suppose will come of it all? Lol

If she could've just taken the proper route ,maybe light candles for one day she would've had an excellent case to file a small claims ( no attorny needed)and be compensated for her troubles up to 3xz the amount of one months rent if found in favor of thd Court .... plus gotten an emergency order to turn electric on and probably granted an extended stay.....

Some have to learn the hard way and some never learn a thing....she is going to have to call someone else for advice & " poor me" because it's a waste of my time really

It was probably a 'reactionary' response to her being helpless in this situation. Not in being evicted, but in other situations in my life. Yes, I tend to react immediately, without thinking things through. And I feel badly about it, afterwards. I guess it stems from my childhood, where I was always told to be a 'good' girl. And from being in many dysfunctional workplaces. It is complicated.
Now, that I am older and more vocal about things, My temper still rails out; especially when I should be calm and cool, so that I can think things through appropriately. When someone yells at me, calls me names, I react.. When I know I am right about something and are constantly berated, or in a dysfunctional situation; I usually react... It is not good. I feel horrible about it, and stew..
Your friend could have some of this behavior.. It is almost like PTSD... as in my case.

 

[Kwik]

It was probably a 'reactionary' response to her being helpless in this situation. Not in being evicted, but in other situations in my life. Yes, I tend to react immediately, without thinking things through. And I feel badly about it, afterwards. I guess it stems from my childhood, where I was always told to be a 'good' girl. And from being in many dysfunctional workplaces. It is complicated.
Now, that I am older and more vocal about things, My temper still rails out; especially when I should be calm and cool, so that I can think things through appropriately. When someone yells at me, calls me names, I react.. When I know I am right about something and are constantly berated, or in a dysfunctional situation; I usually react... It is not good. I feel horrible about it, and stew..
Your friend could have some of this behavior.. It is almost like PTSD... as in my case.

I can't imagine you not thinking but I understand completely how something can trigger a reaction ,like anger etc

This is very different,the girl ALWAYS ' reacts" and can never simply not report- like in a text msg for example----I was playing around one time and just used emoticons to finish our text conversatuon- she MUST reply,I did that at least a half dozen times just to see,she MUST reply --- it's weird---- or she ghosts for days ( my friend says she's probably using drugs- it's typical addict behavior)

No doubt this girl has " issues" ,sadly I can only lead a horse to water...... I've got to back away from this one..... this is the one that didn't show to get my cats used to her feeding when it was time for my surgery after volunteering to care for my cats....I pretty much washed my hands then but she keeps coming back when in need ( & always in a jam)...... I'd pretty much help anyone,I can do without the epic saga texting & phone calls ,it's just too much (I prefer PEACE)

If everywhere you go there's a problem with someone it's probably safe to say " you are the problem" she's a nice enough kid but unreliable,not dependable and her stories seem inconsistent..... like saying " I did call the police but they never called back" . I live in a private City with our own Police Dept,very high taxes,it's a small City and our police are at your door in 5 minutes,we are so spoiled here..... thats just hogwash which I can easily find out -I'm here many many years,know the Chief of Police and just about everyone of the 40 officers we have here but I already know the answer🫢

 

[MoochNNoodles]

One thing I will point out is that often this kind of thing comes from childhood trauma and boundary issues,

This. Sometimes with people like this you have to set your own boundary until they work out a plan to deal with things. Box themselves in a corner so to speak; force themselves to find help somewhere appropriate.

We have a friend who is amazing and will have your back anytime. You can count on them. And they often find themselves in situations; either health, losing jobs, being taken advantage of. Having known this person +25 years now and met parents and siblings…it all makes sense. There are definitely mental health struggles in the family. There’s trauma and generational childhood issues. They have come FAR. But those things can really pop back up when you least expect it. Weeds. But that doesn’t mean friends are always the right person to help. Sometimes listening isn’t actually helpful.

 

[IzzysfureverMom]

Just thinking of how some folks cannot seem to exist without drama and chaos,I believe they choose this sort of life because they never mindfully make decisions ,they " react" without deliberation and only make bad situations worse

I have a friend( acquaintance probably a better word) who is always the victim of some outrageous circumstance ,it's exhausting to be around her.....always has to move because of crazy landlords,employers cheat her out of pay and these things are really true but I think she sets herself up for failure-isnt it true that people attract a certain type of person because they do the same things over n over that put them in bad situations ?

If your always working hard and not getting paid what you've earned why would you tolerate it the first time you came up short? If you keep getting looney landlords perhaps you should look for Apts in a different way?

The landlord sold the house without telling the girl,promising she could stay til September and suddenly giving hardly any notice to vacate..... a very long story but now the landlord shut the electric to get out....she had a neighbor go in the meter room and break the seal to turn it back on..... so now as I see it she's stealing power and meter tampering

Always bad decisions- how does anyone expect to change their life when they " react" so foolishly?

Not only bad decisions related to where people are living, jobs, and how they are treated. What I see a lot is the people some people allow into their lives. These can truly be dangerous and tragic and yet some folks just do it on repeat.

 

[Kwik]

Not only bad decisions related to where people are living, jobs, and how they are treated. What I see a lot is the people some people allow into their lives. These can truly be dangerous and tragic and yet some folks just do it on repeat.

Yeah- exactly...

 

[GenCat]

I told her exactly what to do - it is against the law for a landlord to shut off water,gas or electric plus no one van force you out of the rental unit except the County Sheriff- an order to vacate must be obtained from the Court,posted or served properly as well- then you respond ( all she had to do was call the police and they would've called the landlord informing her of the Law- I know the person well and police can handle the matter with no problem)

Yes,it is unlawful to tamper with an elextric meter and also power theft is a crime plus unlawful entry into the electrical room to unauthorized persons( only FPL or a licensed electrician with a work order may have access)

So now,she and her ' friend" are on cctv unlawfully entering,FPL shut the power off and now it will show kilowatt usage- the owner( landlord) will be notified and billed,in turn shell call the property mgr ordering to see who entered the room and the girl just doesn't think because she's a reactionary whirlwind of chaos.....

Plus she called the new ( prospectivs)owners realtor,the landlords daughter,FPL,the maintenance person and she cannot ever keep her mouth shut and thibk anything through.... now that she has told everyone in the universe she had no power what do you suppose will come of it all? Lol

If she could've just taken the proper route ,maybe light candles for one day she would've had an excellent case to file a small claims ( no attorny needed)and be compensated for her troubles up to 3xz the amount of one months rent if found in favor of thd Court .... plus gotten an emergency order to turn electric on and probably granted an extended stay.....

Some have to learn the hard way and some never learn a thing....she is going to have to call someone else for advice & " poor me" because it's a waste of my time really

With the rest of that info I totally agree good lordy that is a messy person.

 

[MoochNNoodles]

I need to print the guide and lab manuals for DD's science curriculum because it's the first year this level is offered and its not available in print yet. (The 2nd semester is still at the graphic designers.) Staples wanted like $157 to print it in color. Black and white wasn't much better. Sooo my Canon is getting the job done but man I've procrastinated on this. I'm doing pages in batches and then I get to hole punch everything. I should probably make DD do it. I don't know why doing stuff like this is such a drag.

School starts Monday and I realized this past Monday that I hadn't contacted the company I get their Writing and Literature from to reactivate the video lessons for DS. I think it's awesome they will do that if you've purchased a level before and used the streaming version vs buying DVDs. But it's the busy time of year so they aren't responding as fast and I'm pushing it getting those up for Monday. I hope and pray they get to my request ticket in time! DS wouldn't mind... but gosh I do!

I think I have the schedule, attendance, and the template for lesson plans done. I just need to actually fill in lesson plans and print stuff. And make a spreadsheet for DD's grades since we need transcripts to give to colleges. I've made a spreadsheet with all the websites and log in information so they can easily make bookmarks. Then I can finish setting up everything...

 

[game misconduct]

Graycie knows to jump onto this cage anytime gf and i leave or i am cooking dinner.to get her purebites treati need to teach her a new word or location to go to

 

[Kwik]

Graycie knows to jump onto this cage anytime gf and i leave or i am cooking dinner.to get her purebites treati need to teach her a new word or location to go to

She's so darling - she and my Graycie really do look so much alike,pretty girls

 

[game misconduct]

She's so darling - she and my Graycie really do look so much alike,pretty girls

dont allow her looks to fool you the lil brat will take advantage of it

 

[vampiric_conure]

dont allow her looks to fool you the lil brat will take advantage of it

It's the cute ones you have to watch out for!

 

[susanm9006]

What a week. My sis and I were named conservators of my aunt as she went into a nursing home. But my BIL refused to give me the only key to her house so I could get locks changed and gather the clothes and belongings she needed. My sister does as her husband wishes, and so I had to lay it out (in very plain english) that either he backed off or I was backing out. My largest responsibility will be all of the tedious financial tracking of assets and expenses that is required and I need to inventory and take pictures inside the house as part of that. Finally got locks changed yesterday, bank account set up and started the inside work. This is a somewhat upscale version of a hoarder house with every room including the basement packed. Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted today.

 

[Margot Lane]

What a week. My sis and I were named conservators of my aunt as she went into a nursing home. But my BIL refused to give me the only key to her house so I could get locks changed and gather the clothes and belongings she needed. My sister does as her husband wishes, and so I had to lay it out (in very plain english) that either he backed off or I was backing out. My largest responsibility will be all of the tedious financial tracking of assets and expenses that is required and I need to inventory and take pictures inside the house as part of that. Finally got locks changed yesterday, bank account set up and started the inside work. This is a somewhat upscale version of a hoarder house with every room including the basement packed. Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted today.

Wow. Sorry about your aunt. My friends had to deal w/ a hoarder. The separated stuff into “free” and “for sale” for the lawn, and then the valuable stuff they sold at EBay and an antique store. But if it’s all upscale, sounds as if you have your work cut out for you. Pace yourself: it does end eventually. I think they renovated the house and rent it out now.

 

[susanm9006]

Wow. Sorry about your aunt. My friends had to deal w/ a hoarder. The separated stuff into “free” and “for sale” for the lawn, and then the valuable stuff they sold at EBay and an antique store. But if it’s all upscale, sounds as if you have your work cut out for you. Pace yourself: it does end eventually. I think they renovated the house and rent it out now.

Thanks. My aunt loves to shop and and to open up and remove from packaging the things she has had delivered. Unfortunately she would then set them aside, with manuals, cords and pieces she couldn’t figure out how to attach ending up somewhere else. Putting a whole item together is like doing a jigsaw puzzle with pieces scattered throughout the house and basement. But they will be nice unused saleable items once we can find all their parts. Initially though the goal is just being able to walk from room to room without having things fall on us.

 

[GenCat]

Decided to get empty pill capsules to fill with kitty probiotics (they smell it in their food). KoKo is used to being pilled due to her FIP treatment so hers went well, she barely struggles now and is happy after because she knows she gets dried chicken hearts as a treat. Then I tried XiaoXiao and he looked like I tried to murder him lolll Finally YanYan…she immediately started growling and when I grabbed her to open her mouth she swatted me, tried again and she started snarling it took my husband assisting to get it in her mouth and the instantly it hit her throat she shot through the air and out of the room.

What a week. My sis and I were named conservators of my aunt as she went into a nursing home. But my BIL refused to give me the only key to her house so I could get locks changed and gather the clothes and belongings she needed. My sister does as her husband wishes, and so I had to lay it out (in very plain english) that either he backed off or I was backing out. My largest responsibility will be all of the tedious financial tracking of assets and expenses that is required and I need to inventory and take pictures inside the house as part of that. Finally got locks changed yesterday, bank account set up and started the inside work. This is a somewhat upscale version of a hoarder house with every room including the basement packed. Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted today.

My grandmother’s house was like this. Pieces of pottery and statues worth hundreds next to stacks of magazines from 20 years ago. So sorry family is being a pain, these situations are bad enough with everyone on the same page…

 

[game misconduct]

Comfy Rest areas like this are very important

 

[NY cat man]

Just recently, I witnessed a minor miracle. Our cats usually run and hide at the sight or sound of anyone strange to them- it's almost a given. Well, our neighbors have been on vacation this past week, and we noticed a strange car in the driveway. It turned out to be her mother, taking care of the couple's four dogs- three of which are fosters. Michele happened to see her and struck up a conversation. It turns out that they share an interest in something called Diamond Art, which is pictures made with tiny colored.....beads? Anyway, Michele just had to invite her in to see her completed works, and when she was about to leave, she came into the room where Bashful and Miss Eleanor were with me- Eleanor on my lap, of course. The minor miracle was that neither cat ran for cover, and Bashful actually let herself be petted by a stranger!! Miss Eleanor, too, allowed herself to be petted. Never, in the eleven years since she came inside with us, has Bashful done that. Even at the vet's, she tries to hide in her carrier. Will wonders never cease?

 

[MoochNNoodles]

Noodles was always my grumpy cat; but she had a couple people she loved right away. She wasn't a run and hide cat; more of a whack and glare cat. But one of my coworkers picked me up for work once and Noodles went over and rolled on her feet. She just liked her I guess!

Tomorrow is the first day of school and I'm nearly ready except for cleaning the table off of some clutter. It looks worse than it is because some stacks are books for school that will be given out tomorrow. Some are excess school notebooks. Some are what I'm studying and reading. DS has even gotten his workspace together and studied his schedule. We are going to use it as a tool to keep him on task better this year. We will start a little light because I don't have access to the videos for DS's literature and writing yet. I didn't request it soon enough; not thinking it's their busy time of year and taking time to get through messages and emails. Oops! DD will start a little light too; but so much is on the computer now that she can somewhat dive right in. Which suits her fine.

 

[MoochNNoodles]

I just discovered that the e-version of a book I am using to teach the kids is not the same as the paperback version I bought for them. We were starting a lesson I had prepared and it didn't match up. So that's on hold till I can get a paperback copy in 2 days too... Oy. At least I can work off DD's copy to make the study guide while we wait right? This was why I didn't order used copies; I wanted us to all have the latest edition. I just assumed the eversion would be the latest!

 

[FeralHearts]

I just discovered that the e-version of a book I am using to teach the kids is not the same as the paperback version I bought for them. We were starting a lesson I had prepared and it didn't match up. So that's on hold till I can get a paperback copy in 2 days too... Oy. At least I can work off DD's copy to make the study guide while we wait right? This was why I didn't order used copies; I wanted us to all have the latest edition. I just assumed the eversion would be the latest!

This happens so often with books and I don't understand why. In teaching that's so much worse too.


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Why can't I have healthy cats? What am I doing wrong?

There has not been one month this year one or another kitty has been to the Doctor. Some with weird stuff that has no explanation. WL for example suddenly developed a heart murmur and sugar in her urine but not her blood. The sugar mystery resolved itself but I don't understand. Nothing had changed.

Charlie mysteriously has weird bouts of different things and what we do for him resolves it sometimes but not always. To me that makes no sense either. It's like a roller coaster.

Now BH had to go in as she's eating less and now today and yesterday barely anything. US for 2021 was not good but 2023 US everything was "magically resolved" with no treatment. Now she's back to the same issue as last year with added question marks. We are doing an US on her and I have asked the doc if maybe having an internist look at her might be better than a third party US interpretation so should we have a specialist directly looking at her. Thankfully she thinks that's a good idea. So internist it is.

I'm so frustrated and lost as to how to help them.