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Holy crap guys! Thanks for praying for me. Dad might be coming home tomorrow! I have to prove I can take care of him and give him his meds, cook low sodium for him. I hope this is really true. I'm so nervous! He is only staying for a little while, just until they get him into rehab up here. Then the remodel and see if he wants to stay here or we both move to assisted living, hopefully together, in the same building, separate apartments. And I can keep my cats!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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Oh, I still have to go to therapy. My new therapist is also my new social worker, she has all the resources for me she said. Also have to go to the interview for welfare, food stamps. And I signed up for free cell phone through Safelink for low income. Mom is never coming back. I'm doing laundry right now!!!! Washing bedding for me and dad! No, my brothers never did the remodel because the pandemic happened. They know how to do all that safely, I promise. They do it for a real job.
 

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Holy crap guys! Thanks for praying for me. Dad might be coming home tomorrow! I have to prove I can take care of him and give him his meds, cook low sodium for him. I hope this is really true. I'm so nervous! He is only staying for a little while, just until they get him into rehab up here. Then the remodel and see if he wants to stay here or we both move to assisted living, hopefully together, in the same building, separate apartments. And I can keep my cats!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh, I still have to go to therapy. My new therapist is also my new social worker, she has all the resources for me she said. Also have to go to the interview for welfare, food stamps. And I signed up for free cell phone through Safelink for low income. Mom is never coming back. I'm doing laundry right now!!!! Washing bedding for me and dad! No, my brothers never did the remodel because the pandemic happened. They know how to do all that safely, I promise. They do it for a real job.
Oh my goodneess! This sounds like a plan, you and your dad in a place together, Fingers crossed!!
 

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Thank you so much for checking in and updating us. We were all worried about you. 🤗 I hope your life will turn around for the better now. Keeping your dad and you in my thoughts.:heartshape:

Mom is never coming back.
Just out of curiosity, what did you mean by this? Is your mom permanently staying with the lady you mentioned in town?
 
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Yes. She is vague about the details. But she is never living with us again. Probably because of the things she told my brothers and dad's case worker about me and dad. She is living with that lady for now, but might get her own place. She called me today and she didn't know that dad is coming here tomorrow. I didn't dare tell her, because she might ruin the whole thing and try to stop it. I talked to dad on the phone!!!!!!!!!!!! He is still the same old papa, but his speech is slurred. He says he misses his Maggie Beautiful so much!
 

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Holy crap guys! Thanks for praying for me. Dad might be coming home tomorrow! I have to prove I can take care of him and give him his meds, cook low sodium for him. I hope this is really true. I'm so nervous! He is only staying for a little while, just until they get him into rehab up here. Then the remodel and see if he wants to stay here or we both move to assisted living, hopefully together, in the same building, separate apartments. And I can keep my cats!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh, I still have to go to therapy. My new therapist is also my new social worker, she has all the resources for me she said. Also have to go to the interview for welfare, food stamps. And I signed up for free cell phone through Safelink for low income. Mom is never coming back. I'm doing laundry right now!!!! Washing bedding for me and dad! No, my brothers never did the remodel because the pandemic happened. They know how to do all that safely, I promise. They do it for a real job.
So, this sounds like a Plan--- a plan in progress. You have to follow through with all the social worker wants you to do. It is going to be hard, but you really have to be dedicated and follow through. Do not give up.. and if the Social Worker suggests something you do not like, Please do not stop! Continue with her and her plans. She is an expert.. and if she suggests for you to see another person, a doctor.. PLEASE, For your own sake and the kitties, follow through..

One thing I do Question: Why is it that your father is temporarily coming home? and not going directly into rehab? ,This sounds fishy to me... more alarms going off. Whose decision was it? and whose Decision was it to have you take care of him.. if it was your family, I would swear that they are setting you up to FAIL... and to prove them correct in their accusations that you cannot take care of yourself..
This sounds really weird.. Do not TRUST anything your family says or does... NONE of them.
First they were saying you were incapable of taking care of yourself, and now, you are suddenly being given the responsibility of taking care of both yourself and your father??
I really wonder if your family is setting you up.... I really do.. This does not make any sense.

Please discuss this situation with your social worker... It does not make sense to me.. from my own personal experience, life knowledge, and from my working in the medical field...

I hope when your father comes home, temporarily-- that you have a nurse and an aide come in to help care for him. You cannot do it all yourself.. Your Dad needs support people to help him, on things he cannot do himself, and for things you are cannot handle.. as in moving him, supporting him, washing him, etc... Yes, I speak from experience. I took care of my dad, along, with the help of an aide and a visiting nurse. Fortunately I had my Dad when my mom took sick.. and at the end, my aunt was here every day, also.. So I know..

MaggieDemi, ONE step at a time.. do not get overwhelmed and expect it all to happen overnight.. It took a long time for this situation to happen. It will take a while for this situation to get completely resolved.
So please be PATIENT. PLEASE...
You have to be So Strong.. the strongest you have ever been. All of here, know you can do it.. Be STRONG>> BE Persistent.. Do not let your guard down. Trust the Social Worker.. do as she says..

So glad you got in contact with her.

We are all pulling for you.. All of us..
Please keep us updated!!
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I'll update you guys more tomorrow. I'm as shocked as you guys are! Yes, there will be a nurse coming a few days a week to check on him. I was definitely getting different info from my mother. She said he was dying and that he couldn't even shower. My brother said today that he can shower if they put a grab bar in for him. I don't know what to think! I'm so overwhelmed. I think I still have to move out eventually though. They will be here around 11am or so and my brother is bringing me a vegetarian sub. I heard my dad say in the background "Make sure it's vegetarian. What will it be, just lettuce & tomato?" :rolleyes::lol:

Oh, the reason he left the rehab was insurance problems. And everywhere else has a waiting list. So my brother came up with this idea, for him to stay here with me until they get him in another rehab or assisted living maybe. I'm shocked too! More updates tomorrow. I'm so nervous! Maggie will be so happy to see her papa. They put him on the phone and I said "Dad is it really you?" He said "Hi Sweetie! How's your cooking doing?" I said "Well, you can't work miracles." He laughed so hard that it scared me. I don't think he's supposed to laugh like that!

Pillows are hard to wash! It kept going unbalanced, so I could only wash 2. Seems wasteful. But oh well, just glad to be doing laundry after all these years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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I'll update you guys more tomorrow.
Will be waiting to hear how things go.

They will be here around 11am or so and my brother is bringing me a vegetarian sub. I heard my dad say in the background "Make sure it's vegetarian. What will it be, just lettuce & tomato?" :rolleyes::lol:
They put him on the phone and I said "Dad is it really you?" He said "Hi Sweetie! How's your cooking doing?" I said "Well, you can't work miracles." He laughed so hard that it scared me. I don't think he's supposed to laugh like that!
Reading the above 2 quotes brought happy tears to my eyes. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful, kind man. :redheartpump:
 

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Will be waiting to hear how things go. Reading the above 2 quotes brought happy tears to my eyes. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful, kind man. :redheartpump:
I completely agree with both sentiments. :agree:

So excited for you to be reunited with your dad and knowing it's actually happening in just an hour. We're all rooting for you dad and you and, of course, Maggie & Demi. :grouphug:
 
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Mom just called. She doesn't want him left alone with me. Well too bad! She's the one that left.
Sub shop was closed, so we are getting them later.
 

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Uh oh, your above post got me worried. :nervous: I thought your mom didn't know he was coming home today.
 
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I thought your mom didn't know he was coming home today.
She didn't yesterday. But my brother must have told her. He went to see her. I'm here alone with dad! The cats are being weird. Demi stared at him and howled like a wolf. Maggie hid and won't come out! He is so sad. He keeps calling out "Beautiful, it's your papa!"
 

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She didn't yesterday. But my brother must have told her. He went to see her. I'm here alone with dad! The cats are being weird. Demi stared at him and howled like a wolf. Maggie hid and won't come out! He is so sad. He keeps calling out "Beautiful, it's your papa!"
Be sure tell him that it’s just the strange hospital smells that are making them act fearful. That will wear off quickly and they will be back to their usual selves.
 

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M maggiedemi Just reading all of this now. Far be it from me to tell anyone what to do/how to live, but just sharing my personal experience in case it helps in any way. Long story, but my dad was lost to me for several months and my attempts to contact him went unanswered. I finally was informed by someone that he had been put into assisted living by a relative who did not see fit to tell me and who did not tell the administration there that I existed. So I went to the facility and fortunately I had plenty of proof of who I was. The interviewer also felt I had a strong resemblance to my father. So I took the steps necessary to gain everything necessary to take over care for my father, in the facility. I wanted to bring him back here, to his home, and care for him, but his surviving sister, whom I talked with about this, said I absolutely should not do this. So, he remained in assisted living and I was able to get him in to a small board & care where he was given a much better quality of life. The problem, as you say, is financial in almost all instances. You are in another state, so things may be different where you are. My *PRAYERS* from the heart go out to you and your father, your sweet Maggie and Demi, and your family. I can't say what you "should" do. But I can just let you know I care, and suggest you remain in Contact with the Supreme Being in whatever way you feel comfortable, throughout all of these changes. So many things in life do not come with manuals, and what is good for one may not work for another. But there is One Who sees and knows all, and Whose Love is measureless. Know that.
 
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