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Okay. I'll post a little about what happened to me. My dad had a heart attack and is an invalid. He can't walk, feed himself, or shower. My abusive mom told everyone at the hospital & my brothers that I abuse her. You all know that it's the other way around, she actually is abusive to me. So my brothers are evicting me. They keep threatening to take my cats away unless I do everything they say. So a TCS member is gonna take them for me if I can't get out of this mess. I go to mental health therapy on February 16 and I signed up for welfare and food stamps, which haven't come yet. My brother and mother are coming here today. I don't know what they are going to do to me. But somehow my brothers are in charge of my entire life. I haven't signed anything or seen any court orders yet. You guys all warned me to get out, but I didn't listen. But I never in a billion years thought THIS could happen! How bizarre! He was my favorite brother.
 

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Okay. I'll post a little about what happened to me. My dad had a heart attack and is an invalid. He can't walk, feed himself, or shower. My abusive mom told everyone at the hospital & my brothers that I abuse her. You all know that it's the other way around, she actually is abusive to me. So my brothers are evicting me. They keep threatening to take my cats away unless I do everything they say. So a TCS member is gonna take them for me if I can't get out of this mess. I go to mental health therapy on February 16 and I signed up for welfare and food stamps, which haven't come yet. My brother and mother are coming here today. I don't know what they are going to do to me. But somehow my brothers are in charge of my entire life. I haven't signed anything or seen any court orders yet. You guys all warned me to get out, but I didn't listen. But I never in a billion years thought THIS could happen! How bizarre! He was my favorite brother.
Oh my god, I'm so sorry :hugs: Let us know if there's anything we can do to help.
 

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I know how close you are to your father and I'm so, so sorry for him and you. :hugs: It's a blessing that a TCS member will step in to help you with Maggie and Demi, your two cats, if necessary. Please know I will say a prayer for your well being and we're all sending our special thoughts to you. 🙏 :grouphug::vibes::vibes:
 

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I'm not sure how things work where you live but is there any chance you could retain a lawyer to see what your legal options are? There must also be a way to prove you are not abusive and keep your brothers and mom from making any decisions on your behalf. For example, your brothers should not be able to evict you from a home they do not own....That doesn't make sense. You do need to get out...but it should be on your terms. And they can't just get rid of your cats...they do not own them and if your are providing them proper care, there is no legal way they should be able to take them from you...if they did, you should be able to take legal action against them.
I know I don't know all the details so I'm simply assuming...but a lawyer should be a good place to start so you can protect yourself. I also think there must be programs that provide legal representation for those who can't afford it....again, not sure how that works where you live.
I hope you can get things figured out.
 

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I'm sorry you didn't get the family you deserve. I agree with Jem Jem - I believe a lot of lawyers will do one free consultation, so even if you didn't have the means to retain them, you'd know a little bit more about your rights and possibilities of what might happen.

I'm hoping for the best for you.
 

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Oh dear! While I don’t know all the specifics in the long run it would be in your best interest to get out of there. Sounds like they are a bunch of bullies. I’ve been there before I was treated very poorly by my 4 siblings when my mom was dieing and after she died. I felt so alone and hurt Today I keep my distance from them for the most part. Please do what you can to get legal assistance or placement assistance. Prayers.
 

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I'm so sorry all this has happened to you. Especially how your favourite brother turned on you. And that your Dad is so unwell. Hoping things improve for him. And especially hoping, that now that you have some things in motion, that you finally get to live the life you deserve. 🤗
 
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Hey guys. I will post an update tomorrow. I am so tired. I haven't slept all week. But things are finally better now. I can keep Demi & Maggie. That's all I care about. Those sweet babies are innocent and did nothing wrong. They would have been so scared if they would have been seized like they were planning to do. I'll explain more tomorrow. Thanks for being there. Time to work on getting well now.
 

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OMG... I am so so so sorry you have to go through this.. I do agree you need to get your own lawyer--as in Legal Aide (free) to help you fight for your rights.

Not knowing the situation, but I do not think your brothers can force you to get rid of your cats. They are your cats. Unless, you are still living in your moms house.. or they have been legally chosen, by a judge, to be your official legal guardians-- meaning you are incompetent.. This all sounds so horrible.. Yes, please get your own lawyer.

The TCS member who offered to take your kitties is a Guardian Angel.. Listen to them!

So sorry about your dad. You guys were so close. He is the only witness you have to your mom's metal illness. Unless the hoarding can be attributed to her? as part of severe mental illness.

Post only what you feel is SAFE.. for yourself. You have to think before posting much of anything.. It can be used against you in court.
Can you get an earlier mental health appointment? I really feel it is important for you to get an earlier one.. and not with someone your brothers recommend. Can Social Workers help?

Must be such a nightmare.. but, hopefully, in the end; things will work out better for you.. It is just getting through all of this..

I am going to add you to my nightly prayers...
 
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Things are getting a little better. Dad only has 20% of his heart left. The doctors don't know how he is still alive. They were going to turn off the machines, but they said he's a fighter, he wants to live so bad. He's flirting with all the pretty nurses and claims he will be back plowing snow and going down cellar to do the furnace in 4 days! I hope he can do it. But probably not in 4 days! He is in a rehab in Vermont. I'll update a little bit tomorrow. I'm so tired!
 
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Unless, you are still living in your moms house.. or they have been legally chosen, by a judge, to be your official legal guardians-- meaning you are incompetent..
They tried to have me taken away. But the lady wouldn't take me. She liked me and she said you need help, not a psych hospital. Thank God because she was going to take my cats. She said "Cats?! Don't worry about the cats, I'll take them!" No way! I fought so hard to keep them. I'm so tired. But my brother and my mother came here yesterday. The one that used to be my favorite brother. And we talked everything out. He agreed to let me stay here while they remodel the house and get the mold out, so maybe if dad is well enough he can come back. Then we'll see what happens. I have to go to therapy, get food stamps, welfare, a social worker, and prove I can take care of myself and the cats. Oh, I forgot to tell you, mom moved out. She is living with a lady in town. I can do laundry whenever I want now!
 
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