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Hi,

After several years of asking and begging, my wife has finally agreed to let me get a cat, with the caveat that we need to wait until 2-3 months after she gives birth to our first child. She's not pregnant yet.

My question is, what is the best time to get a cat around a pregnancy? Before, during, shortly after (2-3 months) or even longer - 6 months to a year? If there's a solid consensus that it's better to get it before, I may be able to push for it...
 

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I think it depends on whether you want to get a kitten or an adult cat.

Kittens can cause a lot of sleep deprivation as it is, so maybe if you find a wonderful cat aged 2/3 yrs old or older at a rescue or shelter, that would hopefully be an easier adjustment during an already exciting and stressful time.
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Definitely thinking about a kitten. I'm looking for a breed that is great with kids and doesn't shed a ton. I'm thinking of a toyger, but haven't settled on that for sure.
 

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Another warm welcome to TCS! :wave3: I have to admit I smiled when I read your post. Reason being, before our first child was born we had two cats and sometime afterwards we added two more. :biggrin:

This is obviously a difficult question since you know your wife and situation best. My first question would be, have you ever had a cat before? If the answer is yes then it would probably be okay to get a cat prior to your wife getting pregnant. If the answer is no then you may want to wait because it could be an adjustment. However, putting on my tiny devil's advocate hat and speaking from someone who has two kiddos myself, you never know exactly how long it will take your wife to become pregnant. I don't mean to get personal since that's not the purpose of your post. I'm just trying to think of all the possibilities that could arise.

In the end, I think the best decision is one that would insure the cat or kitten and your family are settled in and happy. Sometimes fate comes into play and the right time to get a cat is when you fall in love with a new furry friend. :catlove: I wish your wife and you the best of luck. I think you are wise to come here and ask for advice and support. I hope I have helped answer your question and look forward to seeing your future family both feline and baby. :heartshape:
 
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I would really recommend that you do not get a kitten. I think you will want a young adult cat so that you can get to know its personality. It does not seem like your wife is fully sold on the cat idea. Introducing a wild kitten to a house with a baby may not be ideal. A kitten also needs a ton of attention, like hours of play a day, and it will be difficult to adjust into a baby's routine.

In addition, with a kitten, you won't know what their adult personality will be. If you get to know cats from a rescue or a shelter, you will have much more information, including whether they are good with kids, their energy level, whether they are timid, etc.

There are so many wonderful cats in rescues and shelters. Maybe try to get to know some with her wife so she can bond, too.
 

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And breed doesn't make much of a difference. I know it often does with dogs, but not with cats. For example, Ragdolls are supposedly chill cats, but there have been several posts on this site in the past few months complaining that a newly-acquired Ragdoll kitten is too active. (Well, yeah, because you got a kitten!)

Individual temperament is much more important, and getting a cat who's at least a year old will enable you to pick one with a compatible personality.
 
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I will add my vote for not getting a kitten. Go to a shelter and ask for an adult cat that is good with babies and explain your situation. You will 100% wind up with a better personality and behavior fit.
 

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One of the best ways I make decisions for myself is to read up on a subject from a variety of angles. :) Then I think I've considered both the pros and cons for my own situation and maybe learned of a few things which I did or did not want to face if I chose one thing over another.

There is a Cat Care section here with a lot of great articles, and within the articles are even more links for one to read. There's a good chance you've already read a lot of stuff about cats and kittens, but just in case - some of these articles are:
First-time Cat Owner's Guide
A Kitten Or An Older Cat - Which Should You Adopt?
Why You Should Adopt A Senior Cat
Kitten Proofing Your Home: 13 Practical Tips
Toxoplasmosis And Cats
Bringing Home A New Cat - The Complete Guide
How To Help A New Cat Adjust To Your Home

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Hi,

After several years of asking and begging, my wife has finally agreed to let me get a cat, with the caveat that we need to wait until 2-3 months after she gives birth to our first child. She's not pregnant yet.

My question is, what is the best time to get a cat around a pregnancy? Before, during, shortly after (2-3 months) or even longer - 6 months to a year? If there's a solid consensus that it's better to get it before, I may be able to push for it...
Hello Catlover9845 Catlover9845 and family, and welcome to TCS! Other posters have some very good thoughts and have supplied some informative links which hopefully will be helpful when the time comes to make your choice. I have a slightly different perspective to share, which is that, when I was born, my parents' sweet male cat was about 3 years old. They had rescued him from the streets, which is the way I have always preferred to adopt cats. He was my best friend, confidante and playmate for fifteen years. We did everything together. He slept on the foot of my bed every night. And my mom taught me gentleness, kindness, compassion, love, and respect for him and for cats in general. There have been many cats in my life, and there are currently 3, all rescues, ages 15, 14, and 11. When my family adopts, it's for life. And I am the same way.
Babies raised with cats grow up generally healthier, with resistance to allergies, and kinder, if the parents teach them as mine did me. It's the best way for kids to grow and become good people, I think! All the very best to you and your family. *And I, too, would advocate for a mixed-breed adult cat.*
 

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Hello and welcome to TCS. :wave2:

I'm thinking if you want to adopt a kitten, you should get it now, so you (and hopefully your wife) can enjoy all the fun of new cat parenthood, that will range from silly kitten antics to possible sleep deprivation before you settle into parenting human children. Since your wife isn't pregnant yet, that would pretty much ensure the kitten would be at least a year old by the time any babies came along.

Even if you decide to adopt an adult cat, I still think it would be nice to have time to enjoy the cat before the human babies arrive.

Like tarasgirl06 tarasgirl06 , my parents had a male adult cat when I was born, so I never knew life without a cat, and have loved cats my entire life. I highly recommend having a cat as an older "sibling". :catrub:

TCS has this article on Cats And Babies: All Your Questions Answered! that you might find helpful.

As well there's, How To Mix Cats And Kids The Right Way
 

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Hello and welcome to TCS. :wave2:

I'm thinking if you want to adopt a kitten, you should get it now, so you (and hopefully your wife) can enjoy all the fun of new cat parenthood, that will range from silly kitten antics to possible sleep deprivation before you settle into parenting human children. Since your wife isn't pregnant yet, that would pretty much ensure the kitten would be at least a year old by the time any babies came along.

Even if you decide to adopt an adult cat, I still think it would be nice to have time to enjoy the cat before the human babies arrive.

Like tarasgirl06 tarasgirl06 , my parents had a male adult cat when I was born, so I never knew life without a cat, and have loved cats my entire life. I highly recommend having a cat as an older "sibling". :catrub:

TCS has this article on Cats And Babies: All Your Questions Answered! that you might find helpful.

As well there's, How To Mix Cats And Kids The Right Way
That's a good point -- if you're really set on a kitten, get it now so that the crazy kitten antics have subsided by the time the baby comes. (Again, it doesn't matter what breed of cat you get; kittens are almost always balls of energy.)
 

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If you are really settled on a kitten, then the sooner the better. You want the kitten settled in and on a schedule before introducing a NEW family member with no schedule at all!!! And very young kittens are SO into everything that they aren't best with newborns, simply due to their natural and irrepressable curiosity.

If, on the other hand, you would consider an older cat, then I would suggest looking into rescues, as well. Most of them have background on a good many of their cats, and may have one that is known to be great with small children. If you go that direction, then you may bring a cat in at almost any time.
 

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TCS members have given great advice and all I can add is that you are wisely planning ahead and looking out for the best interest in your soon to be larger "family", which will obviously include your kitten. Why don't you have your wife look at TCS and see how wonderful it is having a cat? Good luck and keep us posted!
 

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My question is, what is the best time to get a cat around a pregnancy? Before, during, shortly after (2-3 months) or even longer - 6 months to a year?
Glad that you've got your questions covered and also many other helpful links besides your questions which were given by other members too.

Feel free to ask as many questions as you can before really committing into getting a cat in your situation. I'm sure many of our members will be glad to help you answer them :thumbsup:
 
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This was really helpful. Thank you all for your comments and support. Inspired by this I also Googled many articles, and had a frank talk with my wife, leaving her the option, but giving her some more facts. She just agreed that we can get a cat now. Now we have to see if we want to adopt a cat from a shelter who's a year a or two old, or try to get a cat from a breeder on shorter notice. Thanks again and I'll check back in once I know what's going to happen.
 

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This was really helpful. Thank you all for your comments and support.
You're entirely welcome! That's what we're here for and glad you persuaded your wife to bring a cat into your life now. :clap: We will be looking forward to any feline updates you might have in the near future. :thumbsup:
 
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