Told I Spend Too Much Money

[MissileCatrisis]

I was told by a friend I spend too much money on my cats. Friend said I do unnecessary vet visits for my cats 2 years old and 4 years old. Vet visits as in vaccines and blood tests as well as a test for parasites She told me those visits aren't necessary.i also buy higher end more healthy cat food. Yet, she goes to places like Starbucks 4x a week sometimes 2x a day. Sidenote: she only takes pets to vet if it ie absolutely necessary and thinks people really should not get annual vaccines (spending too much money in unnecessacities)

She also buys expensive shorts ($40) she also eats out a lot.

 

[LAL]

She seems to have an odd idea of what is 'necessary' and what is a luxury. Vaccines are important for people and pets. Regular check-ups and preventative care can help avoid costly expenses later. Keep doing what you know is right.

 

[Draco]

I bet your friend doesnt have any pets either.

Ignore her, your cats are your babies, you take care of them how you want to, and taking them to a vet for regular checkups is a smart thing to do

 

[MRG2018]

I was told by a friend I spend too much money on my cats. Friend said I do unnecessary vet visits for my cats 2 years old and 4 years old. Vet visits as in vaccines and blood tests as well as a test for parasites She told me those visits aren't necessary.i also buy higher end more healthy cat food. Yet, she goes to places like Starbucks 4x a week sometimes 2x a day. Sidenote: she only takes pets to vet if it ie absolutely necessary and thinks people really should not get annual vaccines (spending too much money in unnecessacities)

She also buys expensive shorts ($40) she also eats out a lot.

Why do you care what her opinion is about you spending money? Your money, your priorities.

These vet visits are annual- and need to be done by any responsible pet owner.
I do buy high end, medium end and low end foods. I do not shop at starbucks, i just dont need caffeine anymore. I do have frivolous spending habits sometimes, but I budget for everything, and I always buy cat food, litter, treats, toys etc before I shop for myself at the beginning of the month and middle of the month. I keep litter and food stocked ahead for 1 month at least. I pay for my cat's medical insurance, not knowing when I may need it, in 2 months or 10 years.

I dont care about keeping up with the jones, but I do spend money on things that truly matter (shoes, bedsheets, bed, cat trees, etc etc).

What is necessary and unnecessary is something only you can decide since its your money. There are other ways to save money,like credit cards with points, ebates, selling stuff you dont need anymore, looking for sales, etc etc

 

[MRG2018]

I bet your friend doesnt have any pets either.

Ignore her, your cats are your babies, you take care of them how you want to, and taking them to a vet for regular checkups is a smart thing to do

And the safest thing to do since we know cats hide their distress. And are very good at it until it becomes too much to handle.

 

[MissileCatrisis]

She seems to have an odd idea of what is 'necessary' and what is a luxury. Vaccines are important for people and pets. Regular check-ups and preventative care can help avoid costly expenses later. Keep doing what you know is right.

Yes, this is very true!

I bet your friend doesnt have any pets either.

Ignore her, your cats are your babies, you take care of them how you want to, and taking them to a vet for regular checkups is a smart thing to do

Yes. With one blood test for my oldest cat, the vet told me to watch her, as her glucose level was slightly low bring her if constant vomiting, etc.Otherwise, it was not a huge deal because her glucose did not alert him. She does have pets but only if it there is distress they are taken to vet.

Why do you care what her opinion is about you spending money? Your money, your priorities.

These vet visits are annual- and need to be done by any responsible pet owner.
I do buy high end, medium end and low end foods. I do not shop at starbucks, i just dont need caffeine anymore. I do have frivolous spending habits sometimes, but I budget for everything, and I always buy cat food, litter, treats, toys etc before I shop for myself at the beginning of the month and middle of the month. I keep litter and food stocked ahead for 1 month at least. I pay for my cat's medical insurance, not knowing when I may need it, in 2 months or 10 years.

I dont care about keeping up with the jones, but I do spend money on things that truly matter (shoes, bedsheets, bed, cat trees, etc etc).

What is necessary and unnecessary is something only you can decide since its your money. There are other ways to save money,like credit cards with points, ebates, selling stuff you dont need anymore, looking for sales, etc etc

I do take care of myself as well. I should not care though!

And the safest thing to do since we know cats hide their distress. And are very good at it until it becomes too much to handle.

Exactly. So if caught earlier the better!

 

[sweetblackpaws]

Pet care is incredibly expensive - what your friend spends on herself and what you spend on pet supplies is of no matter. They are your babies and that is what matters.

Caring for cats certainly is certainly more rewarding than eating out. It's just personal priority. Just ignore her.

 

[3sacrowd]

I once had a roommate who couldn't understand why I would have a pet instead of using the money to improve the conditions for humans. I spent about $30 a month on my cat, she sent her money to Save the Children or some other charity like that. How do you explain caring about a pet to someone who doesn't understand the idea of having a pet? Your friend made me think of this, that she just doesn't get it for some reason and probably never will. Keep on loving your furbabies.

 

[sweetblackpaws]

It is true. People are clueless as to how it feels to love your cats. I once was feeding a stray at my door, and my friend who was with me said "you can't solve the world's problems". I said, "I can if they are at my doorstep."

 

[MRG2018]

Yes, this is very true!



Yes. With one blood test for my oldest cat, the vet told me to watch her, as her glucose level was slightly low bring her if constant vomiting, etc.Otherwise, it was not a huge deal because her glucose did not alert him. She does have pets but only if it there is distress they are taken to vet.

I do take care of myself as well. I should not care though!

Exactly. So if caught earlier the better!

As long as you and your cat is happy, and your budget is balanced- you should be worry free. You are not only taking care of yourself, but also two pets. That in itself is a testimony to dedication to responsibility.
You have decided to share your life, time and home with these two, and thats the best thing you can do.
I wish others also devoted time to at least one pet- provided they have that capacity. So many pets will be saved from shelters.

 

[MRG2018]

It is true. People are clueless as to how it feels to love your cats. I once was feeding a stray at my door, and my friend who was with me said "you can't solve the world's problems". I said, "I can if they are at my doorstep."

Well you can solve one. And that's a great start!

 

[MRG2018]

I once had a roommate who couldn't understand why I would have a pet instead of using the money to improve the conditions for humans. I spent about $30 a month on my cat, she sent her money to Save the Children or some other charity like that. How do you explain caring about a pet to someone who doesn't understand the idea of having a pet? Your friend made me think of this, that she just doesn't get it for some reason and probably never will. Keep on loving your furbabies.

I donate to animal organizations and Save the children. You can care about both.
But you are not obligated to care for both or either one.

Some people don't understand that both children and pets are innocent, vulnerable and have no choice over their decisions. They look to you to guide them.

 

[silkenpaw]

The bottom line is you both spend money on what you consider important. It’s not for her to criticize what you spend your money on and the other way around. I feel sorry for her animals, I guess she considers them disposable decorations.

 

[1CatOverTheLine]

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M MissileCatrisis - Personal opinion: you don't have a spending problem, you have a friending problem. M MRG2018 has hit the nail on the head here:

Some people don't understand that both children and pets are innocent, vulnerable and have no choice over their decisions. They look to you to guide them.

A part of our obligation in this Life is to be the best stewards we can to the world in general, and to animals in particular. Some Humans meet that obligation - and are rewarded with a Love which can never be equaled by other Humans - and others - for whatsoever reasons they might hold - abdicate their responsibility to care for those who are, "innocent, vulnerable and have no choice over their decisions."

Just about two years ago, I had two of the wildest feral cats I've ever known - Black Friday and her Daughter, Clawed-Ya - housed over Winter in a small (roughly 550 square feet) outbuilding. A few months' time trying to socialise them proved an uphill battle which even Sisyphus would have lamented, and I resigned myself to a protracted struggle with their Natures, and the need for a more spacious feral cat shelter for them, so even before the weather broke, my contractors started work. They spent the next sixteen months in their own digs:

and the plan proved successful, as they're now here in the main house with their nine other Family members.

What did my Friends say? Mostly, "good job," but then, my Friends are primarily other feral cat rescue folks, my veterinarian, and my legal and financial counsels - every one of whom believes strongly that animals - and the God-given rights of animals - should take precedence, because of their collective belief in good stewardship.

Free advice from an old man (and worth every penny): in the matter of choosing Friends, we can make our choices based on myriad varying foundations. We may choose those with similar interests in entertainment, those whose financial stature, educational background or Religious beliefs match our own, or make any of countless other choices.

For those with great Hearts - those who Love animals, and who care for them as good stewards must - the best choice in Friends is others whose Hearts match our own, because caring and kindness are part and parcel to belonging to a gentle Society, and befriending those who cannot or will not comprehend the immense value of good stewardship is simply a waste of time - and our time is the most precious resource at our disposal. Life goes by in the blink of an eye; don't waste a moment of it upon those whose Hearts cannot understand the value in providing for the innocent and vulnerable, because they will likewise never know the value of the Love of an animal freely and unconditionally given.
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[dustydiamond1]

And the safest thing to do since we know cats hide their distress. And are very good at it until it becomes too much to handle.

 

[dustydiamond1]

Yes, this is very true!



Yes. With one blood test for my oldest cat, the vet told me to watch her, as her glucose level was slightly low bring her if constant vomiting, etc.Otherwise, it was not a huge deal because her glucose did not alert him. She does have pets but only if it there is distress they are taken to vet.

I do take care of myself as well. I should not care though!

Exactly. So if caught earlier the better!

 

[kashmir64]

Unless you are borrowing money from her to pay your bills, it's no ones business but your own on how you spend your money.

 

[sweetblackpaws]

1CatOvertheLine hits the nail on the head. IMO, the friends with whom we are the most compatible will have the most to do with our lifestyle choices in terms of how we value what is most important to us - in this case, our "babies". This common denominator will weigh much more than people with whom we share similar education, religion, socio-economic backgrounds or hobbies.

I have nothing against non-cat lovers. I simply realize they are not people with whom I would be very compatible. We would have little in common.

The fact that your friend chooses to spend money on coffee shops and $ 40.00 shorts yet thinks you spend too much on vet care shows a different value system, IMO.

 

[dustydiamond1]

Good Grief. All these so-called 'friends' ... To quote/paraphrase my esteemed Role Model Bugs Bunny "What a bunch of maroons"
(quote/paraphrase: I believe he usually used the singular pronoun)

 

[Royalty]

I was told by a friend I spend too much money on my cats. Friend said I do unnecessary vet visits for my cats 2 years old and 4 years old. Vet visits as in vaccines and blood tests as well as a test for parasites She told me those visits aren't necessary.i also buy higher end more healthy cat food. Yet, she goes to places like Starbucks 4x a week sometimes 2x a day. Sidenote: she only takes pets to vet if it ie absolutely necessary and thinks people really should not get annual vaccines (spending too much money in unnecessacities)

She also buys expensive shorts ($40) she also eats out a lot.

To be honest it's nothing to do with her what you spend on your cats, if you want to spend x amount that's your buisness. Our pets rely on us to look after them. You sound as though you are a caring owner to me. Don't worry about her opinion