Today is exactly one month since I last held and kissed Artie, for the last time: May 23, 2018...
I miss my love..
How have I been.. well, not good... I am lost without Artie~~ really lost..
The problem is the endless empty time I have. Artie took up a ton of my day; between his meds, taking care of him, his company, his following me around, talking to him, playing with him, Artie's keeping me company -- no matter what I did around here.. even shredding papers.
I would be sitting on the floor, in his room-- in front of the shredder.. He would be right next to me, on the first level of his cat tree, supervising... I would periodically stop, pat, him, talk to him~~ seriously, he answered me and kept me company... I miss that...
I have some better days.. I will not say 'good days'.. I will say better days.. Better because I do not tear up..
I decided to go back to volunteering at the rescue shelter.. I did one re-acclimation shift, and one shift on my own. It is at PetSmart.
I stop into PS at least once or twice a week, to look at the kitties.. I know most of the staff, so they can unlock the adoption area for me...but I always seem to go when the staff is busy or the kitties are very contentedly, sleeping..
Due to scheduling and a bridal shower I have to attend; it will be at lest 3-4 weeks before I can pick up another shift... I need my kitty fix.. I really do...
There was one kitten there.. Grey and white.. He had so much of Artie's personality.. I could not believe it.. Yes, we talked to each other, he reached out to grab me.. he wanted attention.. all I could think of: "This is what Artie was like as a kitten--10 months old". His name even began with an A ~~ Aries... I fell in love with him... and he was having poop issues also... NO>..NO>> NO!!!
The coincidences were unbelievable, in my mind....
But I am NOT ready.. NOT at all... I am still grieving.. I mean it...
I miss Artie so much.. I miss his company, his love... his companionship.. I get so lonely...
Important: I do not want to adopt, just because I am lonely, and still grieving.. I want to adopt when I am over this grief.. and can devote my full self to a new cat... also, my rent went up hundreds of dollars, so thinking about adopting now, is a fantasy...
I need time to kind of 'get my head together"... even though, a kitty would be awesome.. but not now...
The strange thing: During Artie's last episode, my printer was not working~~ not making copies of anything. I use it a lot for stuff. Suddenly, on Thursday afternoon, the thought shot into my mind, to try it. I put it on; for some strange reason, it was printing/copying!!!
I ran out to Staples, to buy some picture printing paper.
Friday Morning, I printed up a few pictures of Artie.. Friday afternoon, I ran to Walmart, to get a couple of frames... Friday afternoon, I was able to put together a few pictures...
Today, I ran out for a couple more frames, 8 x 10.. I need my Artie... my soul kitty...
Kept myself busy all morning with cleaning.. After going to Walmart, this afternoon, I felt as if I HAD to go to PetSmart for a kitty fix. The volunteer was so kind.. she let me cry.. she listened to me.. she even made me pick up, cuddle one of the sweetest cats. I ended up crying on this cat.. but Silk did not mind my tears.. she kept coming over for love.. and to give love...
I swear the cats know... I really do mean it...
This week, I also received my order of a cremains key change... I am not using cremains.. but I have filled it with a piece of litter and some of Artie's Fur... I superglued the top.. Artie is always with me.. no matter where I go...
Strange... when I took the stairs to Angell, the keychain started bouncing around a ton.. weird.. it kept hitting my knee, while I was driving...
The same thing happened on Friday, when I was approaching my apartment building. The fire department was there, for a false alarm. I could not enter my parking area; having to park on the next street.. but Artie was bouncing around on my knee...
anyway...
I am ok...
just really missing him.. and pretty much doubting myself for not trying things a little longer...
Did I act too soon??? I think I will always have that doubt... I am thinking that is a more selfish kind of thought/regret: because I miss him so much, perhaps I am wanting to feel guilty because I MAY have acted too soon?? by shortening the time we could have had; if I had waited... But NO, Artie was in pain.. he really was.. he was crying.. he was vocalizing, in rooms, as to his pain.. he could not understand what was happening to him.. He could not even trust me at times.. because of all the 'bad' things I was doing...
Sorry, Anniversaries, really get to me... especially the first ones...
Here is the way Artie will be with me, wherever I go:
I will leave with a couple of the pictures I printed:
Thank you for listening to me and for all the support you have given me. I am very appreciative of it...
love
I miss my love..
How have I been.. well, not good... I am lost without Artie~~ really lost..
The problem is the endless empty time I have. Artie took up a ton of my day; between his meds, taking care of him, his company, his following me around, talking to him, playing with him, Artie's keeping me company -- no matter what I did around here.. even shredding papers.
I would be sitting on the floor, in his room-- in front of the shredder.. He would be right next to me, on the first level of his cat tree, supervising... I would periodically stop, pat, him, talk to him~~ seriously, he answered me and kept me company... I miss that...
I have some better days.. I will not say 'good days'.. I will say better days.. Better because I do not tear up..
I decided to go back to volunteering at the rescue shelter.. I did one re-acclimation shift, and one shift on my own. It is at PetSmart.
I stop into PS at least once or twice a week, to look at the kitties.. I know most of the staff, so they can unlock the adoption area for me...but I always seem to go when the staff is busy or the kitties are very contentedly, sleeping..
Due to scheduling and a bridal shower I have to attend; it will be at lest 3-4 weeks before I can pick up another shift... I need my kitty fix.. I really do...
There was one kitten there.. Grey and white.. He had so much of Artie's personality.. I could not believe it.. Yes, we talked to each other, he reached out to grab me.. he wanted attention.. all I could think of: "This is what Artie was like as a kitten--10 months old". His name even began with an A ~~ Aries... I fell in love with him... and he was having poop issues also... NO>..NO>> NO!!!
The coincidences were unbelievable, in my mind....
But I am NOT ready.. NOT at all... I am still grieving.. I mean it...
I miss Artie so much.. I miss his company, his love... his companionship.. I get so lonely...
Important: I do not want to adopt, just because I am lonely, and still grieving.. I want to adopt when I am over this grief.. and can devote my full self to a new cat... also, my rent went up hundreds of dollars, so thinking about adopting now, is a fantasy...
I need time to kind of 'get my head together"... even though, a kitty would be awesome.. but not now...
The strange thing: During Artie's last episode, my printer was not working~~ not making copies of anything. I use it a lot for stuff. Suddenly, on Thursday afternoon, the thought shot into my mind, to try it. I put it on; for some strange reason, it was printing/copying!!!
I ran out to Staples, to buy some picture printing paper.
Friday Morning, I printed up a few pictures of Artie.. Friday afternoon, I ran to Walmart, to get a couple of frames... Friday afternoon, I was able to put together a few pictures...
Today, I ran out for a couple more frames, 8 x 10.. I need my Artie... my soul kitty...
Kept myself busy all morning with cleaning.. After going to Walmart, this afternoon, I felt as if I HAD to go to PetSmart for a kitty fix. The volunteer was so kind.. she let me cry.. she listened to me.. she even made me pick up, cuddle one of the sweetest cats. I ended up crying on this cat.. but Silk did not mind my tears.. she kept coming over for love.. and to give love...
I swear the cats know... I really do mean it...
This week, I also received my order of a cremains key change... I am not using cremains.. but I have filled it with a piece of litter and some of Artie's Fur... I superglued the top.. Artie is always with me.. no matter where I go...
Strange... when I took the stairs to Angell, the keychain started bouncing around a ton.. weird.. it kept hitting my knee, while I was driving...
The same thing happened on Friday, when I was approaching my apartment building. The fire department was there, for a false alarm. I could not enter my parking area; having to park on the next street.. but Artie was bouncing around on my knee...
anyway...
I am ok...
just really missing him.. and pretty much doubting myself for not trying things a little longer...
Did I act too soon??? I think I will always have that doubt... I am thinking that is a more selfish kind of thought/regret: because I miss him so much, perhaps I am wanting to feel guilty because I MAY have acted too soon?? by shortening the time we could have had; if I had waited... But NO, Artie was in pain.. he really was.. he was crying.. he was vocalizing, in rooms, as to his pain.. he could not understand what was happening to him.. He could not even trust me at times.. because of all the 'bad' things I was doing...
Sorry, Anniversaries, really get to me... especially the first ones...
Here is the way Artie will be with me, wherever I go:
I will leave with a couple of the pictures I printed:
Thank you for listening to me and for all the support you have given me. I am very appreciative of it...
love