We live in a medium/large size 4 BR so plenty of room for the cat to get away from her...Plus, she goes to bed by 8:00, she would only have 4 hrs wilth the cat during the week...
You've gotten great advice, you know your daughter needs to be taught how to interact with kitty (which would be the case no matter what, anyway! :lol3: ).... If this kitty picked you and you're happy about it, go with it! RightWell, don't forget that most of us don't have declawed cats, and many of us never have. And here on TCS, we're going to see people posting their problems, so I'm sure declawed cats with issues are over-represented.
It is good, of course, to know at least the stated reason for the owner surrender. But if the cat is listed as not having issues, I wouldn't over-think this too much!You've gotten great advice, you know your daughter needs to be taught how to interact with kitty (which would be the case no matter what, anyway!).... If this kitty picked you and you're happy about it, go with it!
And I dont believe in declawing now that Im older and educated, but I figured if we adopt it might be easier if the cat is already declawed, but personally I would never do it if we got a kitten....We feel a decalwed adult cat is best for our family...I agree..As long as they dont come back with something really negative, we will go with it...I really really liek this cat...I have researched so much in teh last month about adopting, caring, for, and transitioning the cat to a new home..i even have the litter box picked out, and some cat furniture! A far as food, i know it gets wet food..Do I continue with what they are giving? What if its a low quality?
She's precious!
Thank you!! So great to know I have so many people here to help me with any concerns once we get her..If we do! ..Im thinking since most adoption places require another vet visit within a week of adopting, I really would love to bring her to the vet before I bring her home? I woudl hate to have her adjust for 2 days or so, then have to get her back into the car for the vet...Thoughts?She's precious!Good luck
You mean take her the day your bringing her home? Sure, I don't see why not.
Yeah, I suppose that's not a bad idea. Then all of her "upheavel" is done all at once, and she can just get back your place and relax in her new surroundings.
No, that isn't necessarily a bad sign. Some cats "kiss" by gently nipping. However, if they aren't generally loving on you while doing it, it may be a sign that you're overstimulating them and should stop what you're doing. Cats don't want to hurt people, generally. That's why they try to communicate in non-painful ways. If the cat seriously wanted to bite you, she would have.
You'll have the make the decision that you think is best for your family, but I just wanted to say that many of these shelter cats, especially older ones, are very scared and depressed in their current environment.
Hi!! She did meet her yesterday....The cat was free to go wherever it wanted, but it stayed in its enclosure on top..I actually had to stand on a chair to pet the cat....so it was hard for me , my daughter, or husband to interact....Maybe its better we try and find a cat that is not labeled as "not friendly" only becaus eof my daughter..There is another lovely cat there but my husband is set on a declawed cat....She aso is very very heavy.....No, that isn't necessarily a bad sign. Some cats "kiss" by gently nipping. However, if they aren't generally loving on you while doing it, it may be a sign that you're overstimulating them and should stop what you're doing. Cats don't want to hurt people, generally. That's why they try to communicate in non-painful ways. If the cat seriously wanted to bite you, she would have.
Also, you have to consider what's happened to her. Some cats really don't do well in a shelter environment, especially if they aren't "alpha" outgoing cats by nature.
Just because she's very withdrawn in a shelter environment doesn't mean she'll be that way in a home.
My cat was actually so freaked out by the shelter that they had to keep her in foster for her own mental health. They brought her into the shelter to meet me, and she stayed huddled in the back of her carrier the entire time. I didn't try to take her out, because for a cat who's that scared, they think you're taking them into a dangerous situation. I just sat quietly with her and made "eye kisses," which she eventually returned. Then I rubbed her cheeks, and although she remained very tense, she did respond to that.
But once I got her home, she was a totally different cat within a week, and she's still getting better 3 months later. Some cats take longer than that to adjust, but right now, she's doing laps and playing with feathers. She sleeps with me every night. She sits by me at my desk. She follows me around rubbing on my legs.
Just because a cat is distant in a shelter -- which is basically an orphanage for animals -- doesn't mean they'll be that way in a loving home.
However, I would strongly suggest you bring your child to meet her. Some cats have had bad experiences with children being rough or scary towards them, and shy cats often react to that with fear. My cat is terrified of children for that reason. If she is afraid of your child -- even wrongly -- she may do best in a different home than yours.
"Alpha" outgoing cats generally do well with children, but some shier cats will too if given a chance. The first cat in my life was a very shy former stray who was middle-aged when I was born. But I was taught how to be kind to her, and she did like me and hang out with me. Despite her shy nature, that was the cat that made me love the little fuzzballs.
Well, it isn't necessarily that the cat isn't friendly. It's just that she may be shy or have previous trauma. These can be great cats, but they will require more patience. Perhaps yours isn't the right home for her.
