- Nov 16, 2013
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I don't need to tie my masks, they have elastic that slips over my ears and I wear glasses. I keep them hanging on my front door door knob so I won't forget them and keep a spare in my car.@LTS3 That is very stressful. Hope they figure something out or have consequences they follow through on.
Graceful-Lily How cute! My kittens display that all the time with Isabelle, haha. Isabelle will hiss at them and they will flop over looking cute like that and sometimes pawing at her. Like, no need to get upset, we just want to plaaaaay! We are nice, we swear!
Maybe they do remember each other. Either way, that is really sweet they are getting along so well. Hope Fayola and Harvey will warm up to each other. Do they seem to be fixated on each other or just hiss and loss interest?
@Moz Strong storms are really scary for me, too. Stay safe and keep us updated.
Life has been pretty crazy lately. My therapist weeks ago canceled right before the appointment was supposed to start because apparently my insurance claims or something weren't going through correctly. They were supposed to call me when things were sorted out to schedule another appointment, but I still haven't heard back.
One of my friends and I had a phone call scheduled. There were multiple re-schedules due to her struggling and needing time for self-care, which I understand. But on our last scheduled chat, she had forgotten about me because she had been drinking the night before with a friend. That hurt.
My friend that offered to have me garden some and pay me has not scheduled any dates. Kinda bummed because I was looking forward to it.
My mom and I have been having discussing masks and safety. The son of her elderly friend that she had an agreement he would not visit due to a potential higher risk exposure job and my mom would take care of most things has visited and been in the house multiple times without either of them talking to my mom first. My mom was fine with it because he was wearing a mask, etc. I was pissed they did not talk to my mom about it first and went above her head not caring about the boundaries my mom put in place to protect my mom and me. My mom had told me she was serious about not going over if she found out the son was because protecting and keeping her family safe was more important and her priority. I'm guessing they didn't want to mention anything because they wanted my mom to continue. It would have been different if they came to her and said, here is research about masks, the son and the friend will start wearing masks and do visits, would this be alright? No? Okay, I respect that and will take over all duties for my mom. Yes? Great, here is what the son and the friend will be doing to be as safe as possible. But instead they both lied to my mom, Like, where they hoping she'd never find out? What else are they doing and not telling her about? How can we trust them if they have not been honest after agreeing to something. My mom of course is calm about it all and still going over to help her friend despite them trampling her boundaries and hoping she wouldn't find out.
My mom and her friend also have not been wearing masks, and my mom kept giving me excuses. Her friend cannot tie her mask on because of her loss of function in her hands. UMMMM, if you or your son is there put it on for her! I cannot wear a mask when I make phone calls for my friend because everything is automated and the system would not be to understand me. Well first, has she tried this to ensure it is fact? Second, go outside and talk to the friend through the window or door while doing the phone call? She said no, she wasn't going to do that.
My brother was also coming to pick a few things up. We had talked previously with me telling her he needs to have his mask on when he comes and we should be wearing ours, since he lives in another household and we don't know if either of us have it. After a heated talk because she wasn't taking it seriously, she asked me calmly what I would like my brother to do so I feel safe, etc. Um, this isn't about making me feel safe, this is about taking precautions to protect all of us! I explained there is a reason masks have been mandatory here for months in businesses, etc. She responded that it is hard to social distance in stores and that is why masks are required. I explained how the molecules can stay suspended in the air for at least 7 minutes and how many places had special ventilation/air system requirements they had to meet in order to have customers inside for restaurants. I'm guessing our house systems probably were not up to code. I keep reminding her that all my friends have been wearing mask when visiting family. One of my friends even invited me to a social distancing bon fire and mentioned if we need to enter the house to use the bathroom we need to bring a mask to wear. They did this to protect their family who was in the house, etc. Why are we not taking it seriously? Everyone I know has been taking precautions and we need to, too. She finally thanked me for reexplaining things, and she understood now. But holy cow. All of this left me so emotionally exhausted, frustrated, and hurt.
I've also asked her to keep her distance from me because she had been going over to her friends without a mask after the son had visited. Sometimes she is almost breathing down my neck grabbing something close to me while I'm in the kitchen. She said she would be more mindful. This morning though she wanted to use the microwave and was within three feet of me facing me. I moved and told her she needs to let me know if she needs me to move as she was within three feet of me and needs to keep 6 ft. for now.
With feeling so down lately, I finally made a post about graduating, my honors, and the wildlife biology award I received on facebook. Figured it was time. I also mentioned if anyone would like to get me a goodie to help me celebrate they are welcome to and how gardening is the only thing keeping me sane, which is almost everything on my wishlist. A few things came already, which has helped lift me up, for a little bit at least. I'm trying to focus on the positives that people care and were cheering for me.
One of my classmate friends from community college, who now works at the college, is excited to mention me at a staff meeting as one of their success stories.