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I'm really proud of you for taking that risk even though it didn't work out like you hoped. It's so hard to be brave, and you did it!
I am sorry. I think he is a rat for wanting to meet you. He should have told you all he had to say over the phone. "Future endeavors"??Now I know how men feel pursuing women. It's exhausting.
I'll get over this eventually. Just need time I guess. Yet another fun story added to my list of misadventures.
One thing I can say though, he needs to set boundaries for himself. He does seem like a genuinely nice person but you can't do that to everyone, especially when you have another lady on your mind. You'll unintentionally lead others on. And things can get messy that way.
I hope his "future endeavors" and worth it. I hope this girl that has him so tied up is worth it. And I hope he manages that busy schedule well that he said he has.
But gone are the days I let other people get to me and determine my worth for me. I know that I'm worth it. Just gotta find someone who thinks the same too.
Hmmmmm.....perhaps you're right. At least he was honest.I disagree Mia6 , i took courage and decency to tell you to your face Graceful-Lily , he could have just blown you off altogether. He's confused at what he wants right now, but if he ever calls you again, give him a chance. Honest, decent, respectful people are hard to find.
That being said, don't sit around and wait for the next one to find you. Go out, be brave. You did it once, it will be easier the next time.
Don't feel stupid. You didn't do anything wrong. You proved that you can get past that hurdle to try to get what you want. You should be proud of yourself. That was a super gutsy move. I know that we are all proud of you!Not great.
He said he didn't want to lead me on because he wants to patch things up with his ex-girlfriend. And when I brought up the idea of us getting to know each other better, he told me that he's too busy and wants to "focus on his own endeavors".
He thanked me for my kindness but basically said, "Goodbye".
So, now I feel really stupid because even though my expectations were low, I was still taken aback by the way he treated me and that made me feel something for him. But nothing is going to happen so it's over.
Yeah another idiot to write off-he is the one who called YOU back-if he wasn't interested, why would he say what he said???Now I know how men feel pursuing women. It's exhausting.
I'll get over this eventually. Just need time I guess. Yet another fun story added to my list of misadventures.
One thing I can say though, he needs to set boundaries for himself. He does seem like a genuinely nice person but you can't do that to everyone, especially when you have another lady on your mind. You'll unintentionally lead others on. And things can get messy that way.
I hope his "future endeavors" and worth it. I hope this girl that has him so tied up is worth it. And I hope he manages that busy schedule well that he said he has.
But gone are the days I let other people get to me and determine my worth for me. I know that I'm worth it. Just gotta find someone who thinks the same too.
Okay... so, when I first started talking to my hubby just after college, I was actually kinda dating his roommate... who was my ex high school summer fling. I'd called to leave a message for the ex, and ended up talking to this roommate guy. Eventually, summer fling decided to chase someone else, and roommate (hubby) called me for a date.... This is baffling to me because I didn't even suggest we date. I just said that after all these years, it would be nice to get to know him better. You have to be a friend first before everything else, right? That is what I was trying to do.
I thought you were going to meet him when he got off work. You mean he did this through a text?Oh, sorry, for clarification... he didn't say it to my face. He texted me apologizing that we couldn't talk more and then I said that it would nice to get to know him better. That's when he unloaded on me about his ex. So yeah, over text.
I'll just tell you in detail what happened so that it's better understood.I thought you were going to meet him when he got off work. You mean he did this through a text?
Scratch what I said earlier about him.
But the most important part of all of this is that I wanted something to be done, I had an objective in mind and I did it!
I wouldn't trade the courage I gained from this experience for anything.
First, I am more proud of you than I can express. And yes, you can do ANYTHING! Second, these things are rather like auditions. And if the fit isn't right on BOTH sides, it just isn't right. Now, as to what possessed him to send such mixed messages? Who knows. His bad, and you handled it just right. He probably isn't a jerk, but he doesn't know how to communicate very well, which would have caused problems down the road, even if you just remained friends. Got that issue over and done with before more harm was done. Lastly, I AM MORE PROUD OF YOU THAN I CAN EXPRESS!I just said that after all these years, it would be nice to get to know him better. You have to be a friend first before everything else, right? That is what I was trying to do.