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So about 8 weeks ago, I adopted my first ever cat. I live in a small studio apartment, and I thought having a cat would be a good idea. That and it might help with my anxiety, having an emotional support animal and, well, friend since i grew up with pets.
Her name is Luci, she's 9 months old, and I was told she's a mix between a Himalayan and a Russian Blue (not that it matters). Anyways, it's been 8 weeks now, and I still haven't been able to touch her!
No petting, no touching, no nothing. When I got her, she was already spayed and got her Anti-Rabies, but that's it. I want to be able to give her shots already, but she's still clearly wary of me.
I found out a week after I got her that she was supposedly bullied in her last home by one of the other kittens. Her half sister. The foster home super wanted to make it a point to separate them. So maybe her being bullied is a factor?
We've made progress though. She loves staying under my bed, but she'd also usually be lounging around the house, or playing "football" with the balls i got her or whatever else she can get her hands on that moves. I'm now able to play with her with a cat wand and she's a real hunter, and she loves to take her "prey" under the bed to kill it. She eats out of my hand sometimes if i put wet food in it, and as of last week, has started meowing at me during the morning as I prepare her first meal of the day (probably to speed me up)
If there's no one else around in my place, she lounges around wherever, playing with her scratchers and toys. She'd sometimes go on the bed, sniff me and leave.
I feed her more or less exactly the same time everyday, talk gently to her, and stay near her when she eats.
But even with all that, she still hasn't let me pet her. I try touching her, and even if my finger grazes her back she runs away. She doesn't claw or hiss at me, but just keeps running away?
Should I just force it and catch her and bring her to the vet? Should I summon a vet over, or will that destroy the progress we made (if it is progress)? Should I just keep waiting a bit? I do want her to be healthy and all.
I'm also kinda getting a bit legitimately depressed since I feel like a bad cat parent haha I dunno what to do. How do i gain her trust? Am I doing a bad job? Is this normal, that after almost close to two months, i can't even pet her once yet? Help please!
Her name is Luci, she's 9 months old, and I was told she's a mix between a Himalayan and a Russian Blue (not that it matters). Anyways, it's been 8 weeks now, and I still haven't been able to touch her!
No petting, no touching, no nothing. When I got her, she was already spayed and got her Anti-Rabies, but that's it. I want to be able to give her shots already, but she's still clearly wary of me.
I found out a week after I got her that she was supposedly bullied in her last home by one of the other kittens. Her half sister. The foster home super wanted to make it a point to separate them. So maybe her being bullied is a factor?
We've made progress though. She loves staying under my bed, but she'd also usually be lounging around the house, or playing "football" with the balls i got her or whatever else she can get her hands on that moves. I'm now able to play with her with a cat wand and she's a real hunter, and she loves to take her "prey" under the bed to kill it. She eats out of my hand sometimes if i put wet food in it, and as of last week, has started meowing at me during the morning as I prepare her first meal of the day (probably to speed me up)
If there's no one else around in my place, she lounges around wherever, playing with her scratchers and toys. She'd sometimes go on the bed, sniff me and leave.
I feed her more or less exactly the same time everyday, talk gently to her, and stay near her when she eats.
But even with all that, she still hasn't let me pet her. I try touching her, and even if my finger grazes her back she runs away. She doesn't claw or hiss at me, but just keeps running away?
Should I just force it and catch her and bring her to the vet? Should I summon a vet over, or will that destroy the progress we made (if it is progress)? Should I just keep waiting a bit? I do want her to be healthy and all.
I'm also kinda getting a bit legitimately depressed since I feel like a bad cat parent haha I dunno what to do. How do i gain her trust? Am I doing a bad job? Is this normal, that after almost close to two months, i can't even pet her once yet? Help please!