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Very confused, desperate need of suggestions. Here’s my story:
I have taken in a tomcat and I love him so much and I think he’s finallt getting used to his indoor life. But for a while , I did take him on walks. I kept discovering new cats in my apartments and a whole outdoor cat colony. The cat colony does get fed by its “owner” but there’s several cats I see that are way too skinny and don’t seem to belong to the colony.
I try my best not to get attached quickly but while walking my cat I found this skinny black female cat with a little bald spot... I gave in and started feeding her daily. I think she’s still underweight but I can definitely feel a little bit of fat instead of just bones. She even grew her hair back. Hoping to get a little extra money and take her to the vet.
Anyways, now this male cat comes and sees that I feed her and keeps meowing at me to give him. Now , this cat has given me problems. He always meows at my door (even before feeding the stray cat) and has attacked my house cat. And my cat and him meow at each other a lot and occasionally hiss. I cannot tell if they are friends or not. The way they acted , I thought the male cat was a girl cat but nope! I don’t know, my cat was originally a stray so maybe they know each other ¿.
Every time I tell this story, everyone tells me I’m too mean to the cat and should feed him too. Even my mom , who doesn’t care much for cats , feels bad for him and made me give him food!
Now , I do feel bad that he does not have a home and according to everyone , is very skinny.(I agree he’s skinny but to me , he does not look boney skinny how everyone irl describes him) and he has the saddest meows in the world. He meows all the time, so every time I see him , I get sad.
But here’s the thing.
I might move soon. I do not want him to depend on me and then suddenly realized I no longer will be able too feed him.
(For the black kitty, I’m hoping to take her with me to the new home. I’m scared of her reaction but she does purr with me and takes quicks naps when I’m outside with her. She even once got in my cats cage! This is a whole new problem. )
Anyways, I do not plan on taking the male cat as I don’t know where my cat and him stand.
Should I feed him? Would it be cruel for me to feed him the most I can while I can? Or is it more cruel to feed and then stop?
I want to take him to a shelter but in my city there’s only 1 non-kill shelter that I volunteer at and there are so packed with cats. I don’t know how to help him forever. I can’t tell if he’s ever had an owner or a simple feral , so I don’t know if I should find a home for him. He did let me pet him for a second but I don’t know. What would you do?
It’s hard to forget about him, is it fair I help one cat but not him? I know I can’t help every single stray cat but I still feel guilty now.
((Went ahead an added pictures! You can kinda see my blacks kitties bald spot growing between the ears ; it’s now fully recovered but she’s so difficult to take pictures of. ))
I have taken in a tomcat and I love him so much and I think he’s finallt getting used to his indoor life. But for a while , I did take him on walks. I kept discovering new cats in my apartments and a whole outdoor cat colony. The cat colony does get fed by its “owner” but there’s several cats I see that are way too skinny and don’t seem to belong to the colony.
I try my best not to get attached quickly but while walking my cat I found this skinny black female cat with a little bald spot... I gave in and started feeding her daily. I think she’s still underweight but I can definitely feel a little bit of fat instead of just bones. She even grew her hair back. Hoping to get a little extra money and take her to the vet.
Anyways, now this male cat comes and sees that I feed her and keeps meowing at me to give him. Now , this cat has given me problems. He always meows at my door (even before feeding the stray cat) and has attacked my house cat. And my cat and him meow at each other a lot and occasionally hiss. I cannot tell if they are friends or not. The way they acted , I thought the male cat was a girl cat but nope! I don’t know, my cat was originally a stray so maybe they know each other ¿.
Every time I tell this story, everyone tells me I’m too mean to the cat and should feed him too. Even my mom , who doesn’t care much for cats , feels bad for him and made me give him food!
Now , I do feel bad that he does not have a home and according to everyone , is very skinny.(I agree he’s skinny but to me , he does not look boney skinny how everyone irl describes him) and he has the saddest meows in the world. He meows all the time, so every time I see him , I get sad.
But here’s the thing.
I might move soon. I do not want him to depend on me and then suddenly realized I no longer will be able too feed him.
(For the black kitty, I’m hoping to take her with me to the new home. I’m scared of her reaction but she does purr with me and takes quicks naps when I’m outside with her. She even once got in my cats cage! This is a whole new problem. )
Anyways, I do not plan on taking the male cat as I don’t know where my cat and him stand.
Should I feed him? Would it be cruel for me to feed him the most I can while I can? Or is it more cruel to feed and then stop?
I want to take him to a shelter but in my city there’s only 1 non-kill shelter that I volunteer at and there are so packed with cats. I don’t know how to help him forever. I can’t tell if he’s ever had an owner or a simple feral , so I don’t know if I should find a home for him. He did let me pet him for a second but I don’t know. What would you do?
It’s hard to forget about him, is it fair I help one cat but not him? I know I can’t help every single stray cat but I still feel guilty now.
((Went ahead an added pictures! You can kinda see my blacks kitties bald spot growing between the ears ; it’s now fully recovered but she’s so difficult to take pictures of. ))
