I'm considering rehoming my cat but I am feeling conflicted about it.
I've had him for about 8 months now so I feel that is plenty of time to bond but we are just not at that point. I have another cat that I love more than anything but I just don't feel that connection with the newer cat. He has had a traumatic past so I thought that might be the reason. I didn't want to rehome him too quickly because I know he has been bounced around a lot in the past. I've tried to be patient and form that connection but it just isn't happening and I don't think it will. I've fostered kittens while I had him I've formed connections with all of them more so than my newer cat. I was more upset giving them up than I am at the thought of rehoming my cat. When I think of rehoming him, it is more of a relief.
On top of not having the connection, he doesn't get along great with my other cat. When my cat tries to play, the newer one hisses and fights with him. They don't dislike each other but their play always turns into fighting. He also bites me sometimes when I pet him. It's not like love bites. I know that some cats do that and my other cat does occasionally and it's very gentle. But the newer cat will be purring and enjoying it when I'm petting him and then he will bite me so hard he draws blood and then he starts hissing at me. He has some other behavioral issues that I have tried to work on but nothing has changed.
I've tried to be patient with him because I know he hasn't had the best situation. I just feel like we're not a fit for each other and he might be better off in another home that he is happier in. His foster mom before he came to me said he was really sweet and a big cuddler and everything. But he has never been like that here. He isn't an old cat so he has plenty of years left and I feel like he might enjoy them more elsewhere with someone who he works better with.
I know that he would go to a good home because I am required to return him to the organization I got him from if I decide to rehome and they go through an application process, interview process, and they call references. So I am not worried about him going to a bad home. I think I would just feel guilty rehoming him since he's already had a hard life and I would just be adding to that. But if I can make it better I would rather do that.
Sorry for the long post but does anyone have a similar experience or some advice? Thanks!
I've had him for about 8 months now so I feel that is plenty of time to bond but we are just not at that point. I have another cat that I love more than anything but I just don't feel that connection with the newer cat. He has had a traumatic past so I thought that might be the reason. I didn't want to rehome him too quickly because I know he has been bounced around a lot in the past. I've tried to be patient and form that connection but it just isn't happening and I don't think it will. I've fostered kittens while I had him I've formed connections with all of them more so than my newer cat. I was more upset giving them up than I am at the thought of rehoming my cat. When I think of rehoming him, it is more of a relief.
On top of not having the connection, he doesn't get along great with my other cat. When my cat tries to play, the newer one hisses and fights with him. They don't dislike each other but their play always turns into fighting. He also bites me sometimes when I pet him. It's not like love bites. I know that some cats do that and my other cat does occasionally and it's very gentle. But the newer cat will be purring and enjoying it when I'm petting him and then he will bite me so hard he draws blood and then he starts hissing at me. He has some other behavioral issues that I have tried to work on but nothing has changed.
I've tried to be patient with him because I know he hasn't had the best situation. I just feel like we're not a fit for each other and he might be better off in another home that he is happier in. His foster mom before he came to me said he was really sweet and a big cuddler and everything. But he has never been like that here. He isn't an old cat so he has plenty of years left and I feel like he might enjoy them more elsewhere with someone who he works better with.
I know that he would go to a good home because I am required to return him to the organization I got him from if I decide to rehome and they go through an application process, interview process, and they call references. So I am not worried about him going to a bad home. I think I would just feel guilty rehoming him since he's already had a hard life and I would just be adding to that. But if I can make it better I would rather do that.
Sorry for the long post but does anyone have a similar experience or some advice? Thanks!