Hi all I recently got a rescue cat who may have been through some abuse...not 100% sure but the person who is running the adoption place said that she thinks she may have been verbally abused... not sure if there was any physical abuse also. Anyways I think this cat is has some Siamese in her and another mix because she does have long hair so she’s a mix and and I’ve been trying to buy her a variety of food and she’s eating food (Although I have to hand feed her the wet food and she doesn’t finish it by herself) and I bought her toys but she barely plays and she’s not very affectionate. She rarely comes to me except for when she wants to eat in the morning... she is sure to wake me up then. Sometimes when I try to groom or pet her she hisses at me and seems a bit aggressive. I was looking for a cuddly,sweet affectionate cat and I realize a lot of cats are aloof and not that way but I’ve definitely seen some cats that are. I definitely want this cat to be happy one thing that concerns me is that it’s been over a month and she barely plays and when she hisses at me it stresses me out. I have a small place and try to get her to play but she barely does, which makes me think she may not be happy here. I’m trying to decide if I should see if she could find a better home that she would be happier in and maybe I can try with another cat. This time I would actually go to the shelter and see which cat chooses me because in this case the cat was given to me without us first meeting. I also don’t want her to continue moving from home to home and don’t want to cause her more stress so any advise that you guys have, would be appreciated. Is this something that is likely to change or is it that maybe we are not the right fit for her? I forgot to mention the person that gave her up ( previous owner) or the person that she had an issue with was a female apparently she got better along with the male in the house so I don’t know she just doesn’t like my female energy? She does get startled a lot but has gotten a lot better about that.