Here's a little background before I get into my possible overreaction. I have two cats, 1 1/2 years and 3 months. I also have a roommate, though he does absolutely nothing for the cats, or even the apartment in general (we've lived here for four months and he has never taken out the trash or done dishes, and he only infrequently throws things away). The cats are mine alone, as I clean, pay for, feed, and care for them. Well, my roommate has a tendancy to claim ownership over things that aren't his, or more precisely, the power of attorney. For instance, in college I would be the one to buy a case of beer and would usually be gracious enough to let him have some, but then he would start offering those beers to anyone he saw throughout the night, without even asking me if it was ok. That is just one example, but he's been donig things like that since I've known him (6 years).
Now that you understand what I go through (he's not a bad guy, it's just that sometimes he does things and i think "there is no way he could do that without knowing 100% that I hate it"), I can explain the situation.
So, my cats sleep on my bed every night. That is one of the specific points that made me want to get cats. Obviously cats, and especially kittens, like lots of body heat. Here is where the dilemma comes into play. My roommate knows I am training my kitten so he will sleep on my bed every night and that I leave my door ajar so the cats can come in and out, yet last night he left left his own door ajar EXPLICITLY SO MY KITTEN WOULD COME IN AND SLEEP ON HIS BED WITH HIM AND HIS GIRLFRIEND! Not only is he willfully undermining my desires for my own kitten, but he is cheating because him + his girlfriend = more body heat than myself alone.
Am I overreacting about this, or am I justified? My feelings are that my roommate doesn't help out with the cats at all, and even constantly calls them stupid (not in a really serious way, more like when they knock over a water cup or do some cat-like thing that is odd to humans, but it still really irks me when he does it), yet now he is also trying to undermine all the work I do forming a good relationship with and teaching good habits to my kitten. He is constantly finding my kitten in our apartment, usually when he's asleep, then picking him up (waking him up in the process) and bringing him to the couch just so he can have a kitten laying on his lap. He also plays with my kitten using his hands as the only toy, so he is actively teaching him to bite people. I feel like leaving his door open for my kitten was the last straw, and I am going to have to have a serious conversation with him about my cats and his behavior. The only problem is, he refuses to listen to anyone telling him something negative. I could tell him this stuff, then he would literally sit there and pretend like I didn't say anything at all, or he didn't hear me at all. It sucks, he's a good friend and roommate 90% of the time, but the 10% of the time he's a bad roommate, he's an AWFUL roommate.
Now that you understand what I go through (he's not a bad guy, it's just that sometimes he does things and i think "there is no way he could do that without knowing 100% that I hate it"), I can explain the situation.
So, my cats sleep on my bed every night. That is one of the specific points that made me want to get cats. Obviously cats, and especially kittens, like lots of body heat. Here is where the dilemma comes into play. My roommate knows I am training my kitten so he will sleep on my bed every night and that I leave my door ajar so the cats can come in and out, yet last night he left left his own door ajar EXPLICITLY SO MY KITTEN WOULD COME IN AND SLEEP ON HIS BED WITH HIM AND HIS GIRLFRIEND! Not only is he willfully undermining my desires for my own kitten, but he is cheating because him + his girlfriend = more body heat than myself alone.
Am I overreacting about this, or am I justified? My feelings are that my roommate doesn't help out with the cats at all, and even constantly calls them stupid (not in a really serious way, more like when they knock over a water cup or do some cat-like thing that is odd to humans, but it still really irks me when he does it), yet now he is also trying to undermine all the work I do forming a good relationship with and teaching good habits to my kitten. He is constantly finding my kitten in our apartment, usually when he's asleep, then picking him up (waking him up in the process) and bringing him to the couch just so he can have a kitten laying on his lap. He also plays with my kitten using his hands as the only toy, so he is actively teaching him to bite people. I feel like leaving his door open for my kitten was the last straw, and I am going to have to have a serious conversation with him about my cats and his behavior. The only problem is, he refuses to listen to anyone telling him something negative. I could tell him this stuff, then he would literally sit there and pretend like I didn't say anything at all, or he didn't hear me at all. It sucks, he's a good friend and roommate 90% of the time, but the 10% of the time he's a bad roommate, he's an AWFUL roommate.