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When she was at her most contented, she would kneed softly in the air with one paw and look at me and kind of twist her head. It's hard to explain...
You should share these lovely photos of you and your beautiful Lucy on the "Tender Moments"thread.Missing my Lucy so much. No crying jags for a couple of weeks, which usually means one is right around the corner. I think my life will never be the same.
A year ago I was doing a little "art therapy" to try to work through it a bit.
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*Di and Bob: Thank you for your wise words, especially your last paragraph:It's so hard to describe that ache, that longing, that emptiness in your soul, when we are thinking of our little ones. It's a part of us now, and when we allow ourselves to delve into that deep, black hole of misery it instantly springs forward to bring tears to our eyes and pain to our hearts. It's something that will live in us until the day we die.
Oh, to be loved and missed as deeply as we do those furry little angels. We experienced something that few do, we are all so blessed to have had them in our lives. To have known a love that will be forever intertwined with our very being.
We are left here on earth to remember, to carry on and honor that name that is our world. To go forth and bring happiness to others because that is what they brought to us, what they left for us to pass on. I can't imagine what it would have been like to have never known that kind of love, I am thankful for having my little girl in my life, for being blessed to have had her in my care and my home.
I vow to embrace what joys this world is giving me now, so I do not spend one day at the end of my life regretting what I missed because I was so wrapped up in the personal hell I created from my own grief. I learned joy and love because of her, and that is what I want to remember. The joy she embraced from living she left to me, so much more worthy to guide my life than the pain from her death.
What a beautiful girl, such a wonderful photoShe only been gone just over a year, but it's already my second birthday without her...
Are you going to give the dear little kitty a furever home?i'm in tears reading about you and Lucy, what a beautiful bond between the two of you. I understand what you mean about being in shock, I felt that for so long and then 6 months after my Pelli cat passed on a stray kitty that looked to be about 6 months old climbed in through a window, stole my other cat's food and walked up to me and meowed, her voice reminded me of Pelli's. Somehow that got me out the depressed, shocked numb feeling. Sounds silly, but maybe Pelli reincarnated? This stray cat has since come to our house to say hello 4x now.
I hope for you, someday you get some sign or event like I did and you feel better
I wonder if it's possible that despite the fact that I knew my Lucy's time was coming, and I had her final arrangements made, that when the time actually came, that it put me in a state of shock? I really think that is part of what continues to feed my grief. I really feel every day like I am in a state of shock that she is gone, and so deeply saddened that all that is left of her ethereal self is contained in a little box. I have been stunned by the fact that I had to end the life of my little soulmate of nearly twenty years - for the right and merciful reasons, but still...
*Di and Bob: Thank you for your wise words, especially your last paragraph:
"I vow to embrace what joys this world is giving me now, so I do not spend one day at the end of my life regretting what I missed because I was so wrapped up in the personal hell I created from my own grief. I learned joy and love because of her, and that is what I want to remember. The joy she embraced from living she left to me, so much more worthy to guide my life than the pain from her death."
I personally really needed to hear/read that. As like many of us here, I am still hurting greatly emotionally and still grieving every day from losing my last and most dearest boy, 'D' on 4/10/18, only 3 weeks after losing my other boy, 'G'.
The shock, anger and disbelief of this horrible ordeal, have made me very angry and bitter, and I haven't been able to turn a corner. But... your words have made me also want to vow to turn my personal grief hell, anger and daily loneliness into something better, and much more hopeful, for my future. Thank you. Here's to always believing in more, HOPE, LOVE, JOY and PEACE (!)
and I'm crying right along with you. People can know intimacy with people but we reserve it for so very few, but with cats, they are intimate naturally if there is a true connection. The last cat I lost was named Tembo but we also called her: Missy Fancypants (for her fluffy legs that made her appear to be wearing pantaloons). She was always with us and would follow us everywhere. One day as she was closing in on 20 and losing the battle with chronic kidney failure she gave us the look. She seemed to be saying I've done all I can do for you, I love you and now it's time to let me go but please honor me by taking in another and providing a loving home for them.
So when we had her brought in for her last moments with us we were a wreck. Wreck is such a bad word to as it barely covers how we felt- we felt destroyed, eviscerated/gutted and like our heart had been removed. But we did as we believe she asked and adopted another cat the next day. We didn't view it as a replacement but as a way to honor our Tembo. We also decided to get involved in a no kill shelter as volunteers all in Tembo's name. She was the impetus behind us being active in animal welfare. So in that way her death has brought a lot of good but I still have moments where I cry for her and long for her and she's still in my dreams. I don't think it'll ever go away but now I can cry and tell myself that she left a legacy to be proud of.