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The older cat (Prim) is a little over 6 and the younger cat (Graycie) is about 3 and a half. I've had them both since they were kittens. Prim is inbred (dad was from mom's previous litter), her eyes don't always look in exactly the same direction, she's super daddy's girl though, purrs like a motor boat when I talk sweet to her across the room and practically melts in my lap. She's quite calm, she doesn't care about toys, preferring to lay literally anywhere near me. Graycie is very jumpy, she'll flinch when I reach to pet her but once I touch her she leans into it and she has cuddled since literally day one. She's never been abused, she's always been like that, I "met" her when she was still nursing and took her home at 8 weeks. She's an explorer, very curious and definitely loves to bat around toys and anything else that moves. Other than a few quirks they're both relatively normal cats, Prim has never liked Graycie though. When I got Graycie I was in a relationship and there was another cat, who Prim also didn't like. When we split, she took her cat. For the last 3 years their home was a bedroom at the place I rented. The owner didn't mind cats, I just chose to keep them in there for multiple reasons. They had scratching posts and several climbing platforms on the walls, a window they could watch out of and 2 separated food bowls, although they shared the litter box and water bowl.
I recently moved into my own place and now they get free reign, I thought that might ease tension but it seems like nothing has changed. Prim isn't aggressive, just vocal, and to me it seems like Graycie isn't even doing anything. Prim will be sitting there and Graycie will just walk up and sit and look at her and Prim will start growling. If Graycie is sitting in a doorway, Prim won't walk through the door, like she's scared. Occasionally Graycie jumps out at Prim, to me it looks like she's trying to play, and Prim just won't have it. Instant hissing and spitting, Prim runs, Graycie chases, Prim hisses more etc.. I'm not sure if Prim just really doesn't want to play, she never has liked noise and activity (she hated the owner of the house, who was very loud.) I can give them treats right next to each other and not only will they both stand there and eat them, neither tries to steal the others'. They can both lay on my lap within a foot of each other and Prim will be upside down purring, comfy as can be. But just a moment ago Prim was sitting in the middle of the living room and Graycie was sitting 6 feet away and Prim was growling. I started talking to Prim to calm her down and she really slowly walked over to me making a wide circle around Graycie and not talking her eyes off her.
I'm not sure what to do at this point, they've lived together for over 3 years now, but it almost seems like Prim is super intimidated by Graycie. I know this was a long post, sorry for that, I like to paint a picture. Hopefully someone has some advice for me. Thanks for reading
I recently moved into my own place and now they get free reign, I thought that might ease tension but it seems like nothing has changed. Prim isn't aggressive, just vocal, and to me it seems like Graycie isn't even doing anything. Prim will be sitting there and Graycie will just walk up and sit and look at her and Prim will start growling. If Graycie is sitting in a doorway, Prim won't walk through the door, like she's scared. Occasionally Graycie jumps out at Prim, to me it looks like she's trying to play, and Prim just won't have it. Instant hissing and spitting, Prim runs, Graycie chases, Prim hisses more etc.. I'm not sure if Prim just really doesn't want to play, she never has liked noise and activity (she hated the owner of the house, who was very loud.) I can give them treats right next to each other and not only will they both stand there and eat them, neither tries to steal the others'. They can both lay on my lap within a foot of each other and Prim will be upside down purring, comfy as can be. But just a moment ago Prim was sitting in the middle of the living room and Graycie was sitting 6 feet away and Prim was growling. I started talking to Prim to calm her down and she really slowly walked over to me making a wide circle around Graycie and not talking her eyes off her.
I'm not sure what to do at this point, they've lived together for over 3 years now, but it almost seems like Prim is super intimidated by Graycie. I know this was a long post, sorry for that, I like to paint a picture. Hopefully someone has some advice for me. Thanks for reading