Hi all!
The title of this thread isn't as accurate as I want it to be but I wasn't sure how to word the situation that I have going on. My roommate and I have been living in this apartment we're currently in for close to a year. My cat, Mika, has been with me the entire time but my roommate was unable to bring her cat, Stassi, in until just recently. These two cats lived with each other in our previous apartment together but were never typically cozy, if you will. Stassi got along with a third roommate's cat the best and they would play, cuddle and hang out together all the time. Mika was sick for a very long time while she lived with them but has since overcome her illness and regained all her energy. During the time these 3 cats lived together, they would all snuggle on the same bed together and could be close but neither Stassi or the other cat would really play with Mika (I don't think she had the energy for it). Some background on the two cats: Mika is a 4 year old Tortie who was born on the streets, was a TNR fail after having a litter or two, given up for adoption only to be returned to the shelter when her expenses for her illness became too much for her previous family. This is where I adopted her. Stassi is a 1 year old (coming close to her 2nd birthday) Calico who was born in a vets office and was adopted by my roommate's family along with a litter-sister. Stassi was originally living with the sibling until she came to live with Mika and the other cat. During the time she was not in this apartment with Mika, she was back living with this sister and they had no issues with introduction or them getting along at all.
Regardless, Stassi and Mika have been separated from each other for nearly 7 or 8 months when my roommate was able to bring her back into this new apartment. We attempted to do a proper introduction (like Jackson Galaxy style) but my roommate got inpatient early on. I don't want to say that things are bad because the spats these cats are having are no where near as explosive as I'm reading they could be. Specifically their fights are short bursts of growling, hissing (only on Stassi's end; Mika has never hissed or growled at her) and maybe a few slaps between the two before they disperse and return to their safe spaces (respectively my room for Mika and my roommate's room for Stassi). These spats are 10 seconds maximum but I did get a spray bottle just in case they should escalate more.
My main concern is that it really is becoming evident that Mika is bullying Stassi.
When these spats finish, sometimes Stassi will run under the couch to hide before running back into my roommate's room. Mika will often (now, it wasn't like this at first) sit in a corner and stare at Stassi under the couch. The whole time Stassi is growling and hissing at her. Eventually Mika will move her way over to the couch, attempt to reach Stassi which starts another small spat where the two cats will fully move away into their respective spaces. Mika has also started waiting in the living room for my roommate's door to be opened and she'll dart in there to harass Stassi before quickly running out again. Sometimes Mika will sit in the living room and stare into my roommate's room at Stassi for long periods of time before running in there. Stassi is extremely terrified of the living room now and will only come out when she's positive Mika is no where around and when my roommate goes out with her. She's taken to hiding in the closet at times when the doors are open.
I feel terrible for this little cat. She's in a new environment and is obviously scared of her situation. I want to do right by her but I'm unsure of how to mediate this situation now that we're here. I have sprayed Mika with the spray bottle (full of water) when she was stalking Stassi under the couch along with a firm NO but I'm also terrified of ruining my relationship with her over actions she's not correlating to the spraying.
I need some tips on how to keep Mika for being a bully, help Stassi feel more comfortable in the living room and hopefully get these two to where they can minimally be in the same room together without there being issues! To be clear, as well, my roommate has decided that a reintroduction process is too long for her and she simply wants them to work it out themselves. That's a process I can't do alone so if there are any other tips, please let me know!
The title of this thread isn't as accurate as I want it to be but I wasn't sure how to word the situation that I have going on. My roommate and I have been living in this apartment we're currently in for close to a year. My cat, Mika, has been with me the entire time but my roommate was unable to bring her cat, Stassi, in until just recently. These two cats lived with each other in our previous apartment together but were never typically cozy, if you will. Stassi got along with a third roommate's cat the best and they would play, cuddle and hang out together all the time. Mika was sick for a very long time while she lived with them but has since overcome her illness and regained all her energy. During the time these 3 cats lived together, they would all snuggle on the same bed together and could be close but neither Stassi or the other cat would really play with Mika (I don't think she had the energy for it). Some background on the two cats: Mika is a 4 year old Tortie who was born on the streets, was a TNR fail after having a litter or two, given up for adoption only to be returned to the shelter when her expenses for her illness became too much for her previous family. This is where I adopted her. Stassi is a 1 year old (coming close to her 2nd birthday) Calico who was born in a vets office and was adopted by my roommate's family along with a litter-sister. Stassi was originally living with the sibling until she came to live with Mika and the other cat. During the time she was not in this apartment with Mika, she was back living with this sister and they had no issues with introduction or them getting along at all.
Regardless, Stassi and Mika have been separated from each other for nearly 7 or 8 months when my roommate was able to bring her back into this new apartment. We attempted to do a proper introduction (like Jackson Galaxy style) but my roommate got inpatient early on. I don't want to say that things are bad because the spats these cats are having are no where near as explosive as I'm reading they could be. Specifically their fights are short bursts of growling, hissing (only on Stassi's end; Mika has never hissed or growled at her) and maybe a few slaps between the two before they disperse and return to their safe spaces (respectively my room for Mika and my roommate's room for Stassi). These spats are 10 seconds maximum but I did get a spray bottle just in case they should escalate more.
My main concern is that it really is becoming evident that Mika is bullying Stassi.
When these spats finish, sometimes Stassi will run under the couch to hide before running back into my roommate's room. Mika will often (now, it wasn't like this at first) sit in a corner and stare at Stassi under the couch. The whole time Stassi is growling and hissing at her. Eventually Mika will move her way over to the couch, attempt to reach Stassi which starts another small spat where the two cats will fully move away into their respective spaces. Mika has also started waiting in the living room for my roommate's door to be opened and she'll dart in there to harass Stassi before quickly running out again. Sometimes Mika will sit in the living room and stare into my roommate's room at Stassi for long periods of time before running in there. Stassi is extremely terrified of the living room now and will only come out when she's positive Mika is no where around and when my roommate goes out with her. She's taken to hiding in the closet at times when the doors are open.
I feel terrible for this little cat. She's in a new environment and is obviously scared of her situation. I want to do right by her but I'm unsure of how to mediate this situation now that we're here. I have sprayed Mika with the spray bottle (full of water) when she was stalking Stassi under the couch along with a firm NO but I'm also terrified of ruining my relationship with her over actions she's not correlating to the spraying.
I need some tips on how to keep Mika for being a bully, help Stassi feel more comfortable in the living room and hopefully get these two to where they can minimally be in the same room together without there being issues! To be clear, as well, my roommate has decided that a reintroduction process is too long for her and she simply wants them to work it out themselves. That's a process I can't do alone so if there are any other tips, please let me know!
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