Hi all, I'm new here so I'm sorry if this isn't the right thread.
I recently moved into an apartment with my roommate and my 7-lb. chorkie that I've had since he was eight weeks old (he's about four now). He's a great little dog, the smartest I've ever had. Even as I type this there are annoying dogs barking outside and he's just napping in his bed next to me. Which is why I was perfectly fine having my roommate adopt a cat. I'd lived with cats before (my chorkie hadn't, but he's not aggressive and so well-trained) so I knew about the whole litter box and feeding and meowing and all that stuff.
So we got a cat. We went to a free-range shelter, where they told us, 'sit down and let the cats come to you, you'll find one!" Instead my roommate went and chose a cat that was sitting off to the side. She accepted his initial affection, and we took her home.
But here's the deal - it's been over a month, and I still don't feel like the cat is 'fitting in' to our apartment. She doesn't seem like a 'snuggler' to me (my roommate claims she is at night), and she keeps trying to escape if we leave a window or a door open. This cat was also a 'no dogs' cat, which is really unfortunate because I was hoping that she'd be good company for my dog, who doesn't have a playmate since we moved. He's trying so hard to be friends with her, going slow and inviting her to sniff him and everything. But the moment he gets less than a foot away from her, she turns and stalks off, presumably back to my roommate's room. I know she's trying to set boundaries, and I know it's about a respect thing, but it's heartbreaking to watch when he's tried to be friendly and play for the 50th time. This isn't what I wanted for a cat. I'm not even sure it's what my roommate wanted. She won't even sit on the couch if my dog's napping on my lap, and I know my roommate wants something he can cuddle with while on the couch too.
I'm not sure I can do this for another month, let alone several. I want the cat to be happy and have a nice home, I'm just not sure if ours is the right one for her, especially with my dog. I don't even know how to bring this up to my roommate, since he's just so attached to her already and I don't want to my roommate feel like I'm verbally attacking him or his cat. How long does it take a shelter cat to get comfortable around a 7-lb. chorkie? Is there anything I can do to help the cat and my dog get closer? Or should I just talk to my roommate and let him know my feelings and that I'm looking at other potential cats?
I recently moved into an apartment with my roommate and my 7-lb. chorkie that I've had since he was eight weeks old (he's about four now). He's a great little dog, the smartest I've ever had. Even as I type this there are annoying dogs barking outside and he's just napping in his bed next to me. Which is why I was perfectly fine having my roommate adopt a cat. I'd lived with cats before (my chorkie hadn't, but he's not aggressive and so well-trained) so I knew about the whole litter box and feeding and meowing and all that stuff.
So we got a cat. We went to a free-range shelter, where they told us, 'sit down and let the cats come to you, you'll find one!" Instead my roommate went and chose a cat that was sitting off to the side. She accepted his initial affection, and we took her home.
But here's the deal - it's been over a month, and I still don't feel like the cat is 'fitting in' to our apartment. She doesn't seem like a 'snuggler' to me (my roommate claims she is at night), and she keeps trying to escape if we leave a window or a door open. This cat was also a 'no dogs' cat, which is really unfortunate because I was hoping that she'd be good company for my dog, who doesn't have a playmate since we moved. He's trying so hard to be friends with her, going slow and inviting her to sniff him and everything. But the moment he gets less than a foot away from her, she turns and stalks off, presumably back to my roommate's room. I know she's trying to set boundaries, and I know it's about a respect thing, but it's heartbreaking to watch when he's tried to be friendly and play for the 50th time. This isn't what I wanted for a cat. I'm not even sure it's what my roommate wanted. She won't even sit on the couch if my dog's napping on my lap, and I know my roommate wants something he can cuddle with while on the couch too.
I'm not sure I can do this for another month, let alone several. I want the cat to be happy and have a nice home, I'm just not sure if ours is the right one for her, especially with my dog. I don't even know how to bring this up to my roommate, since he's just so attached to her already and I don't want to my roommate feel like I'm verbally attacking him or his cat. How long does it take a shelter cat to get comfortable around a 7-lb. chorkie? Is there anything I can do to help the cat and my dog get closer? Or should I just talk to my roommate and let him know my feelings and that I'm looking at other potential cats?