Please don't judge me or at least try not to while you read this - I have mild ocd and severe anxiety issues that often leads to indecisiveness.
I have a 3 year old DSH male cat, neutered, extremely affectionate and well behaved kitty. He is the love and light of my life and my husband is perfectly okay with this fact. I have had him since he was 5 months old and he has changed my life in so many ways and I am so so grateful to him for being in my life. I had been contemplating getting a kitten, another male cat as most people suggested male cats getting along better. My family, specially my parents had been telling me that I should get him a companion as I work 60 hours a week. But I truly believed he enjoys being the only baby. My husband loves him but he said he'd be okay with adding a kitten to our family as we can afford it and he would love to give another animal a loving home. I got obsessed with the idea while I have been working from home during this COVID 19 fiasco and I thought now would be the best time to get a kitty as I'm home and I'll be able to watch over and bond with him. I have been checking the local shelter page obsessively and kittens were going away like hotcakes for some reason. I would see info on a kitten and call the shelter immediately and they'd be like oopps he just got adopted. So finally saw a kitten on the website last night, I made an appointment at the shelter and went over hoping that by the time I get there he'd still be available. He was. And as soon as I found out he was available, my excitement decreased a little bit, like I said, I'm an indecisive asshole. Nonetheless, I adopted an 8 weeks old male kitten who was neutered 2 days ago. He is adorable and very kitten like. He growls and jumps around and plays like crazy and bites - nothing like my resident baby, but I knew I couldn't expect adult like behavior from a kitten and I had mentally prepared myself for is. But I kinda forgot it will take months if not a year for the kitten to calm down, and my resident boy is very mellow and chill and doesn't like being bothered. I even don't allow more than 6 people to come over to our place because it stresses him out.. and now I have given him a reason to think he's being replaced...
I brought the kitten home and he's in a separate room and per my research he won't be meeting my resident kitty at least for another 10 days. But my resident cat has figured out something is different obviously and he's very curious about the kitten's room. I feel extremely, extremely guilty. I feel like I have or I am going to disappoint my kitty. It's been only 5 hours we have brought the kitten home and I am regretting it, and I'm hating that I'm regretting it. Is this normal or a rare douchebag like trait? I am really pissed at myself for feeling this way and also pissed at myself for changing my kitty's life. I know it wasn't on a whim and I had planned for it, like I was prepared with new litterbox, kitten food etc already at home, but I still feel like that was an impulsive decision. I am scared that it's going to depress my resident cat and he'll stop doing all the wonderful things that he does like sit down with us for family dinner and greet us when we come home from work, spend every minute with us when we are home on our laps. I have never heard him hiss or growl or be aggressive. Now I wonder if all that will change because of the new kitten. I also feel like shit because it's not the kitten's fault.. like he's supposed be family and yet I'm thinking of him as an "outsider" who is here to ruin my perfectly peaceful home routine. I don't know what to do or how to handle this.. any suggestion for this indecisive impulsive douchebag?
I have a 3 year old DSH male cat, neutered, extremely affectionate and well behaved kitty. He is the love and light of my life and my husband is perfectly okay with this fact. I have had him since he was 5 months old and he has changed my life in so many ways and I am so so grateful to him for being in my life. I had been contemplating getting a kitten, another male cat as most people suggested male cats getting along better. My family, specially my parents had been telling me that I should get him a companion as I work 60 hours a week. But I truly believed he enjoys being the only baby. My husband loves him but he said he'd be okay with adding a kitten to our family as we can afford it and he would love to give another animal a loving home. I got obsessed with the idea while I have been working from home during this COVID 19 fiasco and I thought now would be the best time to get a kitty as I'm home and I'll be able to watch over and bond with him. I have been checking the local shelter page obsessively and kittens were going away like hotcakes for some reason. I would see info on a kitten and call the shelter immediately and they'd be like oopps he just got adopted. So finally saw a kitten on the website last night, I made an appointment at the shelter and went over hoping that by the time I get there he'd still be available. He was. And as soon as I found out he was available, my excitement decreased a little bit, like I said, I'm an indecisive asshole. Nonetheless, I adopted an 8 weeks old male kitten who was neutered 2 days ago. He is adorable and very kitten like. He growls and jumps around and plays like crazy and bites - nothing like my resident baby, but I knew I couldn't expect adult like behavior from a kitten and I had mentally prepared myself for is. But I kinda forgot it will take months if not a year for the kitten to calm down, and my resident boy is very mellow and chill and doesn't like being bothered. I even don't allow more than 6 people to come over to our place because it stresses him out.. and now I have given him a reason to think he's being replaced...
I brought the kitten home and he's in a separate room and per my research he won't be meeting my resident kitty at least for another 10 days. But my resident cat has figured out something is different obviously and he's very curious about the kitten's room. I feel extremely, extremely guilty. I feel like I have or I am going to disappoint my kitty. It's been only 5 hours we have brought the kitten home and I am regretting it, and I'm hating that I'm regretting it. Is this normal or a rare douchebag like trait? I am really pissed at myself for feeling this way and also pissed at myself for changing my kitty's life. I know it wasn't on a whim and I had planned for it, like I was prepared with new litterbox, kitten food etc already at home, but I still feel like that was an impulsive decision. I am scared that it's going to depress my resident cat and he'll stop doing all the wonderful things that he does like sit down with us for family dinner and greet us when we come home from work, spend every minute with us when we are home on our laps. I have never heard him hiss or growl or be aggressive. Now I wonder if all that will change because of the new kitten. I also feel like shit because it's not the kitten's fault.. like he's supposed be family and yet I'm thinking of him as an "outsider" who is here to ruin my perfectly peaceful home routine. I don't know what to do or how to handle this.. any suggestion for this indecisive impulsive douchebag?