I lost my beloved cat Binks about a month ago to IBD. I adopted Binks when he was 3 years old and had him for the last 7 years . He had a lot of health problems on and off but I loved him very much . When I was 24 , I had to have a hysterectomy and he was an amazing companion. His death shocked me and was very unexpected . Last week I decided to adopt another cat , since I missed the companionship and love . I went to the same shelter I adopted Binks from and fell in love with a sweet cat named Charlie . He didn’t get up much when I came into the kitty room he was in but when I petted him , he was very friendly and rolled over . I decided to adopt him and took him home with my brother . The shelter never mentioned that he was skittish or timid . I live in my parents basement which is about 400sqft and is finished besides a small crawl space for storage . I let Charlie climb out of his carrier on his own and he immediately ran to a covered cat bed. After a few minutes he emerged and started rubbing himself all over me and my brother . He stayed with us for about an hour getting pets and lounging before he ate dinner . I went to take a shower and my brother started knocking on the door to tell me Charlie disappeared . We found him hiding in the crawl space besides some boxes . We took him him out of the crawl space since I wasn’t sure what was back there and he was meowing very loudly . After about an hour he calmed down and went back into the covered cat bed . I sat outside the cat bed for an hour and he came out and sat with me and continued to rub himself on me for petting and check rubs . I went to bed and when I woke up Charlie was missing . We found him lodged underneath a couch that has a very narrow opening . I left him there for most of the day and he wouldn’t come out . We deduced to take him out of the couch since it was narrow and dangerous and he began meowing very loudly , he ran back to the crawl space and I left him there for 24 hours . He stayed back there and didn’t eat or use his litter box , which at that point he hadn’t used the bathroom for 48 hours . I called the shelter and they told me he was overwhelmed and I needed to put him in a bathroom. I live in a very small house so I put him in the very tiny bathroom in the basement and he has been in there ever sense . I put his food bowls , litter box , and covered cat bed . The first night was rough but he did come out and start to interact with me . He also used his litter box to pee and poop. He also ate his dinner . We are on the third day of him being in the bathroom and it doesn’t look like he is ever going to come out . Everyone in the home is an adult and has visited with him seperatley. I visit him three to four times a day to feed him and hang out . He always comes out and he likes to be picked up. He is just very very timid. The nosies of people walking around upstairs scare him as do the pipes and any doors opening . I leave the bathroom door open so I can be with him and he can get used to the noises but he continues to hide . Sometimes I go in there and he doesn’t come out of his cat bed for over 30 minutes . I think Charlie is a sweet cat but I’m starting to wonder if he is the wrong fit for and my family . Him being in the bathroom is very stressful since we all are sharing a bathroom and it is chasing a little chaos in the home. I don’t have any where else to put him. He is also afraid of my mom and sometimes my brother . He seems to like me and always comes out to see me even if it takes a little while. My main concerns are is he always going to be timid and hiding , what if he doesn’t leave the bathroom etc . I have had an another cat before my cat that passed away and have never had this issue . Both cats were very friendly and adjusted to the home quiet quickly . I’m worried that Charlie would do better in a very quiet home with only one person living there . The shelter told me he lived with the same family for all three years of his life and he was relinquished due to their new born being allergic to him. No other issues were mentioned . I spent some time with him tonight and he allowed me to pick up him and he licked my face and was looking around the basement since the door was open. I stayed with him for about an hour. When I left he looked scared and was lodged in the shower behind the litter box. I want to give him time to adjust and I do think he is sweet but I don’t think a timid cat is a right for me . Any advice ? Maybe I moving too fast or I am not over the death of Binks , who was very friendly and came up to strangers . Thanks for reading .