So I have a 15 year old cat named Sully and a 17 year old cat named Lucy (both male, long story , both neutered). One morning, two little black cats, both female, show up on my doorstep. My guess is that they are sisters given that they looked incredibly similar and were together from the start. I ended up taking them in with the intent to adopt them out. I tried every resource that I could think of, but it was kitten season and no one would take them or told me that they would be put to sleep. Of course I couldn't stand that idea, so into the bathroom they went after contacting a cat rescue that told me they would help me find homes for them if I fostered them in my home. They are sweet and funny girls and would be surprised if they were 3 months old when they came to me. About a month later, I was teasing one about what a little fatty she was turning into when it suddenly dawned on me that she was NOT FAT....you can guess what happened next.
So fast forward several months. The two sisters, now named Amber and Jade, are permanent residents. After everything that we have been through together, I can't bear to part with them, they have enriched my life so much. Jade also has 3 kittens, 8 weeks old this Thursday. They are sweet, hilarious, and insane. They are scaling the living room as I type. Also during the last months, Lucy fell ill, and after lots of tests and heartache, I had to send him where the good kitties go at 17 years old. I miss him immensely, he was my first baby as an adult. However, the full house is a welcome distraction, and I marvel at how life works in mysterious ways by sending me these sweet girls when I didn't know I needed them. Sorry for all the details and narration, but it kind of builds to the cumulative problem.
So Amber, Jade, and her kittens lived exclusively in the bathroom up until the kittens were 5+ weeks old. Lucy and Sully knew they were there, I know Amber and Jade knew they were there, so there was a very long separation period. When the kittens were getting bigger and more rambunctious, I would let them out for short periods of time with mom and auntie. Amber had been fixed during this time, but Jade has not yet because she has been pregnant and now nursing, and I did not want to separate her from her babies. Lucy had zero interest in any of them, and they had zero interest in him. Lucy was a zero cares given kind of cat. The strong silent type. Sully, on the other hand, is a true scaredy cat, and has always been afraid of everything. People, cats, noises, his own shadow....you get the idea. Well, Jade absolutely gunned for Sully. Would beeline for him right out of the bathroom, chase him down and try to attack him or at least bat at him, as he is about four times her size. I would be surpised if she is over 4 pounds. She has gotten him in the nose a time or two, even when I was right there, she is very quick and quiet. It has been a couple of weeks since I started letting them all out, and now they are out full time. Jade has stopped chasing Sully, but he runs just at the sight of her. If I am around, he will skulk over and sit behind my head, but other than that, he does not move except to his bed and under the coffee table in the corner, and this is how he has been living. I have set up food and water dishes by his bed and moved his litter box closer because he won't venture out to them. Even though Jade is not chasing him, she does eyeball him. She will come close to him and just fixate on him, and I know this must be a dominant thing. I end up chasing her off because I want to stop the behavior. The kittens have no fear and are not afraid of Sully, but he is afraid of them. Go figure. Amber and Sully growl a bit when they come close, but there is no aggression there.
So I feel bad. In a matter of weeks, Sully lost a lifelong companion and has been bombarded with a whole cat colony. He still eats, drinks, uses the litter box, and likes attention from me, but he lives in fear. While I am glad he is not aggressive to the brood (he is a BIG cat), I wish that he would take back his house! I had hoped the long separation time in the beginning where they could all smell each other would help. It pains me to see this. I am in the process of getting vouchers from the rescue to get Jade and the kittens fixed. I have homes for two out of the three kittens, but they are staying with mama until 12 weeks. I have two bedrooms, but they can't be in there because they are carpeted and I am quite allergic, and while I can get used to them in general, them sleeping with me or getting near my face or head on a regular basis makes me a mess, and I have a roommate in the second room. I can contain them in the bathroom for a little bit, but there are so many of them, that is not a plausible long term solution. It really is Jade that is the issue, but I feel like I can't separate her from the others because she is still nursing. What can I do to help Sully? I don't know if this is a protective mama/unfixed cat issue (she is a wonderful and attentive mother, and she and her sister love on each other all the time, so I know its not an aggression towards all other cats), or if she is just a bully! Help! And thanks for all of you that hung in until the end of this very long post
So fast forward several months. The two sisters, now named Amber and Jade, are permanent residents. After everything that we have been through together, I can't bear to part with them, they have enriched my life so much. Jade also has 3 kittens, 8 weeks old this Thursday. They are sweet, hilarious, and insane. They are scaling the living room as I type. Also during the last months, Lucy fell ill, and after lots of tests and heartache, I had to send him where the good kitties go at 17 years old. I miss him immensely, he was my first baby as an adult. However, the full house is a welcome distraction, and I marvel at how life works in mysterious ways by sending me these sweet girls when I didn't know I needed them. Sorry for all the details and narration, but it kind of builds to the cumulative problem.
So Amber, Jade, and her kittens lived exclusively in the bathroom up until the kittens were 5+ weeks old. Lucy and Sully knew they were there, I know Amber and Jade knew they were there, so there was a very long separation period. When the kittens were getting bigger and more rambunctious, I would let them out for short periods of time with mom and auntie. Amber had been fixed during this time, but Jade has not yet because she has been pregnant and now nursing, and I did not want to separate her from her babies. Lucy had zero interest in any of them, and they had zero interest in him. Lucy was a zero cares given kind of cat. The strong silent type. Sully, on the other hand, is a true scaredy cat, and has always been afraid of everything. People, cats, noises, his own shadow....you get the idea. Well, Jade absolutely gunned for Sully. Would beeline for him right out of the bathroom, chase him down and try to attack him or at least bat at him, as he is about four times her size. I would be surpised if she is over 4 pounds. She has gotten him in the nose a time or two, even when I was right there, she is very quick and quiet. It has been a couple of weeks since I started letting them all out, and now they are out full time. Jade has stopped chasing Sully, but he runs just at the sight of her. If I am around, he will skulk over and sit behind my head, but other than that, he does not move except to his bed and under the coffee table in the corner, and this is how he has been living. I have set up food and water dishes by his bed and moved his litter box closer because he won't venture out to them. Even though Jade is not chasing him, she does eyeball him. She will come close to him and just fixate on him, and I know this must be a dominant thing. I end up chasing her off because I want to stop the behavior. The kittens have no fear and are not afraid of Sully, but he is afraid of them. Go figure. Amber and Sully growl a bit when they come close, but there is no aggression there.
So I feel bad. In a matter of weeks, Sully lost a lifelong companion and has been bombarded with a whole cat colony. He still eats, drinks, uses the litter box, and likes attention from me, but he lives in fear. While I am glad he is not aggressive to the brood (he is a BIG cat), I wish that he would take back his house! I had hoped the long separation time in the beginning where they could all smell each other would help. It pains me to see this. I am in the process of getting vouchers from the rescue to get Jade and the kittens fixed. I have homes for two out of the three kittens, but they are staying with mama until 12 weeks. I have two bedrooms, but they can't be in there because they are carpeted and I am quite allergic, and while I can get used to them in general, them sleeping with me or getting near my face or head on a regular basis makes me a mess, and I have a roommate in the second room. I can contain them in the bathroom for a little bit, but there are so many of them, that is not a plausible long term solution. It really is Jade that is the issue, but I feel like I can't separate her from the others because she is still nursing. What can I do to help Sully? I don't know if this is a protective mama/unfixed cat issue (she is a wonderful and attentive mother, and she and her sister love on each other all the time, so I know its not an aggression towards all other cats), or if she is just a bully! Help! And thanks for all of you that hung in until the end of this very long post