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I’m hoping to get advice and/or suggestions from those of you who have gone through the process of saying goodbye to your beloved fur babies. I fear my oldest, Monte (age 18) is getting close to “growing his wings”. On Monday, he started grinding his teeth (more suggesting he’s in pain vs dental as he had extensive dental done last year). The vet confirmed teeth/mouth “look” good and we are still waiting on lab results. Unfortunately, due to his declining health (advanced CKD, extreme weight loss to name a few) he’s probably not a good candidate to sedate for dental X-rays, MRI etc. depending on the labs, we could do body scans, images, etc. if necessary...
I’m hoping I’m prematurely asking this question but I need some help in how to say goodbye? Not necessarily for myself but for Monte’s “shadow”....his little brother Bear who from the moment we brought him home 8 years ago, has never left his big brothers side. They’ve been attached at the tails so to speak. His days revolve around Monte. When he’s scared he literally hides behind Monte. He walks everywhere Monte does so close, they are almost always touching. Monte is the most loving, patient, compassionate Big Brother ever. I could go on and on with the stories.
My dilemma, I’m not quite sure when the time comes, the best way to help Bear deal with the tremendous loss. I know for sure, I can’t just bring Monte to the clinic and never bring him home. I fear if I bring Monte to the clinic and then home, he won’t smell normal, etc. and the closure will not be there?
Another idea is to have a Vet come to our home. I’ve made an appointment for her to visit tomorrow to assess Monte’s state of being and come up with a “Geriatric” plan of care. The lady at the service said they often recommend companions like Bear be present during the “procedure” as it helps with closure. I’m not sure how I feel about that not to mention Bear is scared of everything so he’ll probably be hiding under the bed anyway. I was thinking that after Monte “Crosses the Bridge” and the Vet left, Bear would eventually come out from under the bed and see Monte....I’m know how lucky I have to have had such a sweet boy in my life for such a long time and I know with time I will heal, I just need some help with the little “shadow” Bear....
Have any of you had experiences that you could share that might be helpful? Ideas? Anything?
I’m hoping I’m prematurely asking this question but I need some help in how to say goodbye? Not necessarily for myself but for Monte’s “shadow”....his little brother Bear who from the moment we brought him home 8 years ago, has never left his big brothers side. They’ve been attached at the tails so to speak. His days revolve around Monte. When he’s scared he literally hides behind Monte. He walks everywhere Monte does so close, they are almost always touching. Monte is the most loving, patient, compassionate Big Brother ever. I could go on and on with the stories.
My dilemma, I’m not quite sure when the time comes, the best way to help Bear deal with the tremendous loss. I know for sure, I can’t just bring Monte to the clinic and never bring him home. I fear if I bring Monte to the clinic and then home, he won’t smell normal, etc. and the closure will not be there?
Another idea is to have a Vet come to our home. I’ve made an appointment for her to visit tomorrow to assess Monte’s state of being and come up with a “Geriatric” plan of care. The lady at the service said they often recommend companions like Bear be present during the “procedure” as it helps with closure. I’m not sure how I feel about that not to mention Bear is scared of everything so he’ll probably be hiding under the bed anyway. I was thinking that after Monte “Crosses the Bridge” and the Vet left, Bear would eventually come out from under the bed and see Monte....I’m know how lucky I have to have had such a sweet boy in my life for such a long time and I know with time I will heal, I just need some help with the little “shadow” Bear....
Have any of you had experiences that you could share that might be helpful? Ideas? Anything?
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