Need Advice in Socializing a Bombay

[Solarchos]

New member here, and I need some help.

I have a six-year-old female cat named Chen that I like to refer to as a "micro-panther" because that's what she looks like. The vet identified her as being a Bombay-mix and she's quite the character: affectionate and downright possessive of me, but avoidant and borderline hostile to other people and cats.

I recently moved in with a friend who has a cat of her own and Chen's not exactly comfortable with either of them. She'll come up close to my friend, then scamper off the instant my friend looks at her, but Chen will be territorial towards her cat. She'll eat his food (if we let her), hiss at him, and a couple of times it's almost come to blows between them. It's been over seven months since we introduced the cats to each other; HER cat seems fine with Chen, but Chen is still antagonistic and territorial.

What should I do to try and change this?

 

[silent meowlook]

You can try to make it a good time for both of them whenever the other is near. Playing with toys and treats help allot.

The worst things you can do is yell at them,(not that you are, but many people do). You need them both to associate the other with a good time.

The best you can hope for is peaceful co-existence.

You can try starting over with a slow introduction like mentioned in some of the articles in this site on cat introductions.

 

[di and bob]

sounds normal around my house. Females LOVE to boss the boys around and teach them manners. Hissing, swatting, growling, are all perfectly normal for a female. it can take even up to a year for a lot of cats to form a family unit. Cats HATE change! As long as there is no outright fights with blood drawn and deep bites, leave them alone and do not force anything. As long as there is coexistance, that is good! My liuttle female regularly screams at the boys, swats them, and hisses, and they are her kids! They are all 10 and 11 years old.

 

[RTR]

I used to raise and train German Shepherds. Now I have threre cats! Cats (hate) any change much more than my dogs ever did!

 

[Solarchos]

You can try to make it a good time for both of them whenever the other is near. Playing with toys and treats help allot.

The worst things you can do is yell at them,(not that you are, but many people do). You need them both to associate the other with a good time.

The best you can hope for is peaceful co-existence.

You can try starting over with a slow introduction like mentioned in some of the articles in this site on cat introductions.

I've never yelled at either of them, except once when the catfight that Aries started REALLY went in a bad direction (I got Chen out of the way, but he still charged at me and bit me on the leg hard enough to nearly break the skin).

Some extra toys and catnip treats might help, though. I'll try that.

 

[silent meowlook]

I wasn’t saying you would. Just that it is a common thing for people to do. That’s bad if he bit you. That’s displaced aggression and isn’t in his control. You may want to separate them again and start over with gradual introductions