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Hi. This post is not about a kitty who has crossed the bridge but rather a kitten that I had to adopt out.
Milo came to me as a foster and the moment I saw him I decided he's ours. He's a gorgeous kitten but he has an extremely shy personality. At first he refused to interact with any of us and only stuck to "hanging out" with the cats. He was always quite scared of humans but he was more of a mother to my foster kittens and even let then suckle on him.
It took about a month for him to warm up to us during which time his personality really developed and he was a truly wonderful cat.
But recently it started getting difficult to manage with the financial expenses of our fosters as adoption fees barely even contribute to cost of fostering these guys. So after a lot of thought (and not much of a choice in the matter) I decided to adopt him out. I did my best to find him a good home but throughout the whole process my only concern was if he would manage in his new home.
The owners love him but I just can't seem to get over his presence in the house. It's the little things that just make it really emotional for me like the way he would tug at my shirt with his paw when I'd prepare his meals in an attempt to say "hurry up" or the way he would react in the cutest way when I'd call his name; he would practically come running and screaming in this little cute voice when I called. But most of all I keep thinking about how betrayed he probably feeling right now coz he was so attached to all of us including my resident cats and would practically follow them around like they were his big brothers.
I thought I'd be ok but I am not and I just want to get him back and hug him and tell him that I am sorry for giving him away and promise to never do it again but there's no way his owners will comply. And he is 5 hours away so I can't visit him that easily.
I started fostering 3 months ago and I have adopted out 10 cats but I have never been this upset about an adoption. I keep telling myself that its ok and that sometimes in life we have to make a sacrifice: we can't always get what we want but then i think back to how Milo is probably feeling right now and the sorrow just drowns me all over again. I feel completely spent and have no idea how to cope. Has anyone gone through a similar experience? Please help
Milo came to me as a foster and the moment I saw him I decided he's ours. He's a gorgeous kitten but he has an extremely shy personality. At first he refused to interact with any of us and only stuck to "hanging out" with the cats. He was always quite scared of humans but he was more of a mother to my foster kittens and even let then suckle on him.
It took about a month for him to warm up to us during which time his personality really developed and he was a truly wonderful cat.
But recently it started getting difficult to manage with the financial expenses of our fosters as adoption fees barely even contribute to cost of fostering these guys. So after a lot of thought (and not much of a choice in the matter) I decided to adopt him out. I did my best to find him a good home but throughout the whole process my only concern was if he would manage in his new home.
The owners love him but I just can't seem to get over his presence in the house. It's the little things that just make it really emotional for me like the way he would tug at my shirt with his paw when I'd prepare his meals in an attempt to say "hurry up" or the way he would react in the cutest way when I'd call his name; he would practically come running and screaming in this little cute voice when I called. But most of all I keep thinking about how betrayed he probably feeling right now coz he was so attached to all of us including my resident cats and would practically follow them around like they were his big brothers.
I thought I'd be ok but I am not and I just want to get him back and hug him and tell him that I am sorry for giving him away and promise to never do it again but there's no way his owners will comply. And he is 5 hours away so I can't visit him that easily.
I started fostering 3 months ago and I have adopted out 10 cats but I have never been this upset about an adoption. I keep telling myself that its ok and that sometimes in life we have to make a sacrifice: we can't always get what we want but then i think back to how Milo is probably feeling right now and the sorrow just drowns me all over again. I feel completely spent and have no idea how to cope. Has anyone gone through a similar experience? Please help