It feels overwhelming and devastating when one of our beloveds passes. We mourn for ourselves, not for them, because they are absolutely in a better place. Whether you have spiritual beliefs like mine or not, you would hopefully agree that not suffering is better than being sick or in pain or frightened and stressed.You have been a friend who has supported me- that is more help than anyone could ask for.
He has never gone past the seven day marker and it is hard for me to understand why he would do so now. After losing Jeff, (my best friend), it is difficult for me to be optimistic. When Jeff didn't come home on March 29th, my friends and family would tell me: "Oh, she has done this before, she has blown you off before.", all of which is true, but something didn't feel right that night- it was too long, too cold,and she was old. I had bad feelings about her disappearance that whole night and onto Saturday. On Sunday morning, I found Jeff lying peacefully on the floor of my shed.
I don't get these same vibes with O'Malley, but I also don't know him that well either.
That said, and I am extremely sorry for your loss of Jeff -- O'Malley is a different cat and while we do not know where he is, I will continue to pray that he returns, quickly, safely and healthy.