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My Cat, Sunshine, Died.

Discussion in 'Crossing the Bridge' started by bpenniman, Jan 23, 2019.

  1. bpenniman

    bpenniman Thread Starter TCS Member Young Cat

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    My cat Sunshine, ran away for 2 days and came back. He came back with broken bones and internal bleeding. I took him to the vet and she suggested he be put down. I said I would be willing to pay whatever necessary to help him, but she still said he needed to be put down. I'm kind of frustrated because she is the same vet that told us to put down our family dog a long time ago when I was in middle school. She said he had cancer and needed to be put down. So angry because our dog wasn't suffering at the time but we had him euthanized as suggested. I still wonder if there was anything she could have done for my cat. I don't feel sad constantly. I mean I cry alot, but mostly just very angry. Sunshine was just beginning to get over some of his behavioral problems, not hiding under the bed, and cuddling and sleeping with me at night. My mom is making me a garden flag with a picture of him on it. She's done that for all of our family dogs that have died. I'm putting it next to where he was buried. I'm going to plant roses over his grave too. It's what I did for a kitten that died 5 years ago that I owned. I just miss him and I feel angry, on edge.
     
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  2. Norachan

    Norachan Moderator Staff Member Moderator

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    I'm so sorry you had to have Sunshine put to sleep.

    :hugs:

    I was reading your thread about how he ran away and then came back again. I thought you were very lucky to have a missing cat come home again, I'm so sorry that he was too badly injured to save.

    Making the decision to have a pet PTS is heart breaking, but it saves them from a lot of pain and suffering. It means that we can keep our happy memories of them intact, we don't have to watch them get sicker and sicker and gradually fade away.

    I know you feel angry now. That's all part of the grieving process. At first you can't believe your cat has gone, then you feel angry. You'll go through feelings of anger, bargaining and depression, but eventually you'll reach a point of acceptance. After that you'll be able to look back on your memories of Sunshine and smile about the happy times you had together.

    Our pets are never with us for long enough, you just have to see every day you share with them as a gift.

    Rest In Peace lovely Sunshine, you will be missed.
     

  3. di and bob

    di and bob TCS Member Top Cat

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    Vets have seen a lot, if it would make you feel better you could ask her for more details why she came to the decision she did. I completely trust my vet. Yours may have known that the suffering and the possibility of complete recovery were very,very slim. Animals, especially cats, hide suffering and injuries very well. Your dog and your cat may have been suffering a lot more than you realized. Internal injuries and bleeding indicate surgery, and with the broken bones too it may very well have been too much. It sounds like he was hit by a car. If you are not comfortable with your vet, please find another, they can be a comfort in a time like this.
    It is almost always a given that when we lose someone we love, grief brings on all those should haves, could haves. It's because time brings about a clearer head, one that isn't so filled with fear, anxiety, and shock that we go through in an emergency like this. Don't dwell on what might have been, the chances are that it would NOT be the way we want it to be, but the way it was. There is no way to change the past. What we learn is for us to use in the future.
    Don't make Sunshine's death more important than his life, don't let it rule your own life. You know Sunshine would never want it that way, he loves you and only wants happiness and joy in your life, just like you would want for him if you were the first to go. Because that is what love is. The bond of love you built with that precious boy will forever be tied to your soul. He is as close as your thoughts and prayers and will always be. He shared your life's journey for a little while and now follows another, but it will always parallel your own. He will live on through you now, so let him feel the love and the joy in life that he needs to be at peace, that he wants you to feel. He thanks you for such a wonderful life, for finding the strength in your love to end his suffering. He would like nothing better than for you to share the legacy he left you, to let it grow through extending it to another love, there can never be too many, each one unique and fulfilling. To be remembered by passing on the love he left entrusted in your care, a wonderful tribute to him and his love.
    You have your beautiful memories to bring you comfort. Nothing can take those away. "Death cannot take that which never dies" and you know your love for each other will be for eternity.
    Life is but a fleeting moment in the scheme of eternity. None of us are guaranteed a tomorrow. Be thankful you had him in your life, it would have been unthinkable to have never met him at all. Of course you will miss him dearly from your life, but he will always be a part of your soul.
    My heart goes out to you, I know the pain of loss. We are here to share your burden of grief, to cry with you and to assure you you are not alone. To mourn the loss but to celebrate the life, my thoughts and prayers are with you both.....RIP beautiful Sunshine. You will never be forgotten because you were loved so very much. You will forever be held securely in loving heart. May the good Lord bless and keep you, until you meet again!
     
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  4. Maria Bayote

    Maria Bayote Mama of 4 Cats, 3 Dogs , 2 Budgies & 2 Humans Super Cat

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    I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure that Sunshine is now happy running around in an endless field of grass and roses, with the sun shining brightly on his beautiful face. He is now free from pain and any horrible things he had suffered while he was away from you.

    Your feelings are understandable, as you have to go through this pain and grief, and is never easy. Every human being process their grief in different ways. Some get angry. Some cry silently. Some just write poetry or songs or go away for a while. It is never easy.

    To lose a beloved pet is like losing a part of one's limb. It takes time to heal. Grief actually never goes away. It is always there somewhere. One mention of our beloved dog or cat's name will send a person bawling again. I had a dog that passed away decades ago and each time I think of him my heart hurts a lot, and I cannot help but cry.

    Hang in there. Sunshine would not want you to be sad.
     
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  5. Mamanyt1953

    Mamanyt1953 Rules my home with an iron paw Staff Member Forum Helper

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    Rest you gentle, Sunshine, dream you deep. You walk in someone's heart forever.

    I am so sorry that you lost your baby, and in such a way...but he DID come home, where his heart was safe, even if his poor, broken body could no longer be. And he left this world knowing that those he so loved were near him, loving him every moment. Sometimes, it is the best we can do.

    Darlin, vets are not in the business of killing animals without reason. That is not why they became vets, and being very blunt, even if they didn't really love animals, it would make more sense to keep one alive, just from the financial standpoint. So, if your vet advised euthanasia, it was necessary. Sunshine would not have recovered. I know you still wonder, because of your dog, but think of this...your dog had cancer. Would it have been better to wait until your dog's life was a misery? No, as Jackson Galaxy says, "Never on their WORST day." With Sunshine, there was no choice. His worst day came with no help for it, and you and your family did exactly the right thing for him.

    Now, he dances on sunlight in a place where eternity is the blink of an eye. His only grief is your grief, but he also knows that in the fullness of time, you will join him in that joyous dance, nevermore to be parted.
     

  6. Max's Human

    Max's Human MAX Alpha Cat

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    My/our hearts go out to you!
     

  7. Jwa

    Jwa TCS Member Young Cat

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    I’m so sorry. I just out my Speedy down in late nov...my heart goes out to you.its so hard...❤️
     
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  8. Leomc123

    Leomc123 TCS Member Alpha Cat

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    Im so sorry to hear what happened to sunshine, it must have been shocking and painfull for you baby :( You made the right decision to put him down, the poor thing would have been in so much pain. did the vet say what happened to him to have broken bones and internal bleeding ? That is so sad and devastating :(
     

  9. Tabbytastic

    Tabbytastic TCS Member Adult Cat

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    I’m so sorry for your loss. So devastating and heartbreaking! May the memories of your precious Sunshine soften the pain and sadness in your heart.
     

  10. solomonar

    solomonar TCS Member Alpha Cat

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    I am not a vet, but I know internal bleeding is very serious - even in humans.
    Cats hide pain. This does not mean that they cant feel pain.

    Vets spent a lot o time in studying. They know what they can do and what they cant.

    Dont be angry on anybody, Life is given to Creatures, so Life is taken away from Creatures - we do not decide, but we can accept.

    It is said that travelling Cats visits their former Caretakers in their sleep, if they leave window open. So the Cat will leave His pair of wings to Human and then go back to his Home -Cloud to choose another Human to follow together their path on Earth, to the Time will come.
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    Once upon a time, the Wise Man said to Himself to let the Cat be forever on Earth. And so He did it, and for centuries, Cats remained on Earth, getting older and older. And in time Cats were more and more in pain, their hearth was in pain, and their stomach was in pain. And then Cats stopped meowing. Wise Man was intrigued: why there is no miow? He get to the Black Cat near his home and asked her "Why are you so silent?".

    And the Black Cat answered: "According to our Oath, we, the Cats, are given to Humans, to comfort them and make them smile, and make their children laughing. So we do not want to break this oath, we do no want Humans to be sad because we are in pain. And therefore, we keep pain for ourselves and keep silence and sit in front of them silently, as the Oath commands!"

    The Wise Man went back to His books and read them again. I do not know what he read but for first time the Wise Man cried in hot tears and from that day ahead, there was no Cat so old to suffer and there is always a Human around to blow the vibes of sleep to all Cats in pain, for ever.

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    My hugs to Human and have a nice journey back to home cloud, Sunshine the Cat!
     
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