Ok I know how bad it sounded and all I want now is for my cat to forgive my partner and know that will never happen again. Pls help!
My partner and I have initially rescued a stray calico cat that we been feeding her for about 2 months at our condo car park. She grown fond of us and will always wait for us to feed her and we waited the right moment that she is willing to get into a carrier and we have since brought her in.the vet has estimated her to be around 3 years old.
she is more fond of my partner than me at the beginning. She will purr and headbump and even walked up to his lap for pets.
One day she accidentally walked out to the balcony (our bad! That should not have happened and I wish I can rewind back again), and went hiding into the attached aircond vent area which is super tight and where there is small openings at the other end where if she managed to squeeze through it she can fall. My partner, fearing for her safety, forcefully tried to take her out fr the tight spot (since she didnt want to come out at all) - she hissed back at him but eventually she did came out and went back in. That incident kinda made her slightly more wary of my partner n she has became disengaged with him and does not even want to respond or look at him.
my partner tried to make amends several times later to pet Her slowly, and then tried feeding her which she refused to take nor even want to look at him and along the way, I do not know how, he got angry and slapped her (I know it sounded so bad and I got so angry at him for reacting that way and he is even more regretful now ). And I think that is the trigger point. She ran out of the room and started to hide away from him.
Now, a month has since passed and he has now learnt to make amends by trying to ignore her in order to calm her down and a way of him saying he is sorry. But the conditions still does not improve. She is sticky to me now as I give her lots of TLC and feeds her. She only comes out when she hears or sees me or when she is super hungry but each time she hears or sees my partner walking past her she freaks out and runs back hiding at the same spot!
I thought too that giving them abit of time apart may help so I moved back to my own house for 2 nights with her.It was the first time she is there but she got super comfortable super fast. She is curious, purrs so loud as she jumps in bed with me and just follow me wherever I was in the house. She will come up to the couch when I was resting there and just turn her body around and just lay there besides me.
after two days, we return back to my partner’s hse.. and again she became fearful and started hiding again
I know it sounded so bad but I really do not know what else to do nor do I want to give up on her to another new home.
I need helper or any advises if eventually my cat will be able to forgive him and know that the house / home together with my partner is a safe place for her and we will never hurt her ever again. Will we ever see her being back to her normal self again with my partner?
I have shared some recent photos here while she was in my house and just so comfortable. But she no longer shows this with my partner around
My partner and I have initially rescued a stray calico cat that we been feeding her for about 2 months at our condo car park. She grown fond of us and will always wait for us to feed her and we waited the right moment that she is willing to get into a carrier and we have since brought her in.the vet has estimated her to be around 3 years old.
she is more fond of my partner than me at the beginning. She will purr and headbump and even walked up to his lap for pets.
One day she accidentally walked out to the balcony (our bad! That should not have happened and I wish I can rewind back again), and went hiding into the attached aircond vent area which is super tight and where there is small openings at the other end where if she managed to squeeze through it she can fall. My partner, fearing for her safety, forcefully tried to take her out fr the tight spot (since she didnt want to come out at all) - she hissed back at him but eventually she did came out and went back in. That incident kinda made her slightly more wary of my partner n she has became disengaged with him and does not even want to respond or look at him.
my partner tried to make amends several times later to pet Her slowly, and then tried feeding her which she refused to take nor even want to look at him and along the way, I do not know how, he got angry and slapped her (I know it sounded so bad and I got so angry at him for reacting that way and he is even more regretful now ). And I think that is the trigger point. She ran out of the room and started to hide away from him.
Now, a month has since passed and he has now learnt to make amends by trying to ignore her in order to calm her down and a way of him saying he is sorry. But the conditions still does not improve. She is sticky to me now as I give her lots of TLC and feeds her. She only comes out when she hears or sees me or when she is super hungry but each time she hears or sees my partner walking past her she freaks out and runs back hiding at the same spot!
I thought too that giving them abit of time apart may help so I moved back to my own house for 2 nights with her.It was the first time she is there but she got super comfortable super fast. She is curious, purrs so loud as she jumps in bed with me and just follow me wherever I was in the house. She will come up to the couch when I was resting there and just turn her body around and just lay there besides me.
after two days, we return back to my partner’s hse.. and again she became fearful and started hiding again
I know it sounded so bad but I really do not know what else to do nor do I want to give up on her to another new home.
I need helper or any advises if eventually my cat will be able to forgive him and know that the house / home together with my partner is a safe place for her and we will never hurt her ever again. Will we ever see her being back to her normal self again with my partner?
I have shared some recent photos here while she was in my house and just so comfortable. But she no longer shows this with my partner around
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