Looking for support/ adopted semi-feral cat

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try to introduce her to my adult female cat. Neither are too happy about this. Any suggestions how to socialize these 2 cats?
I had grand plans to use a flexible mesh baby gate (that you basically hang on command hooks) in the doorway -- and there is actually a flexible mesh tension baby-gate thing that you can find for $30 - $40, but I didn't want to spend that much :) Someone here mentioned a piece of lattice from Home Depot. And then you start by draping it with a sheet so they can't really make eye contact at first. The goal is to have them both eating on either side (treats or their supper) and then you can raise the sheet a bit. I have had good luck with the multi-cat pheromone diffuser -- the one they seem to respond better to is the Comfort Zone one (get them cheap on eBay). Having said all that, our intros haven't gone to plan -- instead of one other, we ended up with a feral foster -- so 3 total -- and LOTS of difference in the degrees to which they are friendly & outgoing. The boy we just got last week OBLIVIOUSLY marches in, has a crap in her box, plays with her toys, and tries to get her out of the closet to play. She was doing well but was rather overwhelmed and just -- this evening -- peed on her arm chair (it's really hers -- I got it for her in a garage sale, so, whatever). I keep seeing MASSIVE improvements -- but it is necessary to remember how massive these are OVER a LONG time because it doesn't seem so fabulous day-to-day. Remember that hissing isn't aggression, it's communication, and it will take at LEAST twice as long as you think it should! I know what you mean about not wanting to return a feral you started socializing. There was a LONG time when I was doubtful that Mindy St. Claire would make enough progress to house cat. But then she wasn't wild, either. But even tiny progress is progress! ((hugs))
 

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but when she is done she leaves the room 🤷🏻‍♀️ 😊
Mine will abruptly depart (if she can) or even turn her face to the WALL if she cannot leave when she is emotionally taxed. It's SO interesting. That's good, though. She's taking care of herself. And mine makes tiny progress. I hope yours does, too.
 
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Mine will abruptly depart (if she can) or even turn her face to the WALL if she cannot leave when she is emotionally taxed. It's SO interesting. That's good, though. She's taking care of herself. And mine makes tiny progress. I hope yours does, too.
Alina update !! We are coming up to 5 months since our first day together . She is continuing to make small gains , but overall is still very scared, runs away and hides most of the day. One good note is that , She is allowing me to pet her more and more (with my hand) with sudden episodes of running off . I can play with her nightly too with toys after 5 months I have to admit I struggle with the fact that she does not initiate any interaction with me , walk toward me and I don’t see her tail up at all. she does not seem to be trusting me yet and honestly seems to want to be where I’m not 😞 I wish she wasn’t still so scared . I feel like I’m doing everything I should. maybe she is not into much contact . I keep praying that she would show some affection/trust. It’s sometimes a real bummer and I get down . I miss cat contact 😩 I guess I just need to accept her and continue to give her more time .
If any of you have further guidance or suggestions, I’d love to hear them ❤
 

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Alina update !! We are coming up to 5 months since our first day together . She is continuing to make small gains ❤
Keep in mind that small progress is STILL progress! Mindy St. Claire can sometimes get spooked if my energy is too intense. I'll send you a link to my blog in a private message -- Petting with hands is HUGE! I *really* understand the bit that feels like a bummer. The thing that accelerated her progress was the introduction of another foster cat who is very gregarious and well-socialized. He has taught her to trust me -- and she gets a bit jealous when he gets pets!
 
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Keep in mind that small progress is STILL progress! Mindy St. Claire can sometimes get spooked if my energy is too intense. I'll send you a link to my blog in a private message -- Petting with hands is HUGE! I *really* understand the bit that feels like a bummer. The thing that accelerated her progress was the introduction of another foster cat who is very gregarious and well-socialized. He has taught her to trust me -- and she gets a bit jealous when he gets pets!
This is so helpful! Thank you 😊
 

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Jackson Galaxy has talked about that. A calm or friendly cat will become the conduit for the shy, withdrawn cat and sort of "run interference" for them as they try to engage the world. I am not saying that you need more cats, but I have seen this with my own cats and even outdoor ferals.
 

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Jackson Galaxy has talked about that. A calm or friendly cat will become the conduit for the shy, withdrawn cat and sort of "run interference" for them
YAYS. The "social bridge." Remember to mute the intro if you are binge-watching 11 seasons of Jackson Galaxy with a cat you are socializing as all the hissing & yowling might be freaking them out. Ask me how I know this ;)
 
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