Looking for support/ adopted semi-feral cat

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Hi! I am going through the same thing. In fact I joined this site to seek help. My boyfriend and I adopted a young cat who is apparently semi or full feral. We just passed the 3-month mark with her (her pic is my avatar) and while she is comfortable in her safe room and will let us pet her when she is in certain spots in the room and will also play in those in those same spots, her first reaction when she sees us is still to shrink down and put her ears down. And if we catch her out and about in her room she will run to hide. (We try to be very careful to not surprise her that way.) We have found great advice on this site and others about how to socialize a scared cat, and we’re now like you, just trying to remain patient and not get discouraged. We keep reminding ourselves to trust the process!
A few things we have tried that seem to have some positive effect: 1) She loves the Gerber baby chicken/gravy food and will lick that off of our fingers; we use that to encourage her to move toward us and to associate us with good things; 2) She is also mesmerized by movement, so I placed a battery operated Hexbug (you can buy these online) on the floor in the middle of a mat where she could see it. It really got her attention! I stayed on the other side of the room, and she slowly crept toward it while also keeping her eye on me. She didn’t pounce on it, but she did roll over on her back very playfully, something she hadn’t done when on the floor at the same time someone was in the room, so that was some progress! Baby steps. 😊 I know we will both get there with our kitties….in time!
Awww, Thank you so much for sharing your story . It does sound similar. Yes, baby steps and positive thinking . Looking forward to sharing and hearing about the progress both of our girls make 😊
 

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Daru Daru Welcome to The Cat Site and thank you for posting your story of your new baby.

The idea of ignoring Alina is odd, but sometimes it helps. At least avoid eye contact, especially anything like staring into her eyes, even if it is loving and friendly to you. She may investigate the fact that you are not as attentive to her. She certainly may respond to treats, Gerbers, anything lickable where she might have to interact a little bit.

I still think that she is essentially feral, and then was unfortunately crated when she should have had socialization work. As I said before, they were doing the best they could but she came to you pretty much as she was the day she was rescued.
 
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Daru Daru Welcome to The Cat Site and thank you for posting your story of your new baby.

The idea of ignoring Alina is odd, but sometimes it helps. At least avoid eye contact, especially anything like staring into her eyes, even if it is loving and friendly to you. She may investigate the fact that you are not as attentive to her. She certainly may respond to treats, Gerbers, anything lickable where she might have to interact a little bit.

I still think that she is essentially feral, and then was unfortunately crated when she should have had socialization work. As I said before, they were doing the best they could but she came to you pretty much as she was the day she was rescued.
I guess you are right . This is now her socialization work . Clearly it’s new for me and I keep second guessing everything I am doing 😢

I have used treats, various types of treats and she will briefly eat and then turn away or leave . I’m going to keep trying with the treats .
 

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Will she eat the wet treats like the stews and mousses? Gerber's baby food meats?
 
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Will she eat the wet treats like the stews and mousses? Gerber's baby food meats?
Yes, sometimes . She has eaten the gerber baby food from a spoon, but seems to prefer temptations mouse treat in a long pouch . I need to move slow and go to her. I can’t seem to get her to come out , even just a little to reach it, but she will eat it if close to her and again I’m very slow . The funny thing is sometimes she just stops , turns away from me and is suddenly done eating, even though there is more. Other times I can get her to finish the package. I have tried putting it on my fingers and she has licked it carefully but when she is done she leaves the room 🤷🏻‍♀️ 😊
 

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That is actually cute, in a way, but I know that you would like her to start to come around. Licking your fingers is certainly trusting you enough for contact. She may not finish the packet sometimes because she is not hungry enough...not necessarily becuase she is done with you.
 
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That is actually cute, in a way, but I know that you would like her to start to come around. Licking your fingers is certainly trusting you enough for contact. She may not finish the packet sometimes because she is not hungry enough...not necessarily becuase she is done with you.
I hope so 🤞It is kind of funny when I’m sitting on the floor alone in her room and she is out the door 😆 I do hope she comes around eventually 💕
 

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I have had that happen so many times with cats I was socializing. They are marching to a different drummer. I am trying to socialize a TNRed feral who lives in some apartments nearby. No one owns her, but people have fed her and someone even made a bed. We are to the point of her eating and walking away leaving me in an alley with a dish of cat food.
 
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I have had that happen so many times with cats I was socializing. They are marching to a different drummer. I am trying to socialize a TNRed feral who lives in some apartments nearby. No one owns her, but people have fed her and someone even made a bed. We are to the point of her eating and walking away leaving me in an alley with a dish of cat food.
Happy update I wanted to share . Almost 3 months in and still much more work to do …but…..Alina is regularly taking a treat from me by hand and when she is in her room and in a safe spot she will let me pet her with a brush and tonight I actually pet her with my hand and she purred !!! Best feeling ever!!! I’m taking this win and hoping for more to come 😊
 

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Thank you for posting this great news! She is definitely going to come around. If she were not, none of that would be happening. Please keep us posted.
 
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