I am desperate for advice. I have a 3 year old tabby cat named Lily. She is like no other I have had before. She plays fetch and rides around on my shoulders. We cuddle together and she sleeps with me. I spoil her rotten, she is allowed to walk on counters and claw at the carpet. The couch however is off limits and she minds this rule very well. My boyfriend is a true cat lover, but has different rules than I. Lily used to tolerate him and than one day it all ended. When he tries to pet her she will bite and scratch him. She will glare at him for hours and when he stays over she lies right in the middle of us. I don't want to scold her, because I know there is a power struggle between the two of them. They are like two children battling it out. What am I to do. He is around all of the time, and I sort of feel stuck in the middle. Any suggestions?