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Yesterday my cat's kitten was hit by a car a few streets away and passed away. At the time I was too shocked to do anything so I let my mom handle everything, and I thought the cat already knew about it since she seemed so sad and broken. My mom took the kitten a few km away from home and put her at a tree's roots.
I kept thinking if my cat actually knew about it and today not only she wasn't home at the usual time I brought her food, mom said she even brought a mouse and waited a few hours in the backyard with it in her mouth, and besides that yesterday she waited in the same spot for a few hours after we took the kitten. From what I have seen she had a pretty close and loving relationship with her only kitten, and I don't know what to do to help her in these moments. My mom isn't really keen on the idea of bringing back the kitten, she's afraid of some illness or anything coming out of this and she doesn't want to bury the kitten in our yard, since there's a possibility that we would build there. On the other hand my cat has been through some things and doesn't trust humans so much, and aside from a few times when I put her food and she lets me pet her she stays away even from me, and it would be very difficult to take her to the kitten's eternal place without a few scars and her possible running away.
It's the first time I've been through something like this despite having had generations of cats in my family, and I really don't know what to do and it just pains me to see her like this. Should I try to show her the body somehow and give her some time with it, or just let her keep looking for her and reach the conslusion herself, which seems so cruel from my point of view. Maybe the answer seems so obvious but I really need some advice, neither me nor my mom have any idea and we're already fighting over what to do and I don't need that.
Thank you for reading all of this and please tell me what you think, I just want to help but I don't know how.
Yesterday my cat's kitten was hit by a car a few streets away and passed away. At the time I was too shocked to do anything so I let my mom handle everything, and I thought the cat already knew about it since she seemed so sad and broken. My mom took the kitten a few km away from home and put her at a tree's roots.
I kept thinking if my cat actually knew about it and today not only she wasn't home at the usual time I brought her food, mom said she even brought a mouse and waited a few hours in the backyard with it in her mouth, and besides that yesterday she waited in the same spot for a few hours after we took the kitten. From what I have seen she had a pretty close and loving relationship with her only kitten, and I don't know what to do to help her in these moments. My mom isn't really keen on the idea of bringing back the kitten, she's afraid of some illness or anything coming out of this and she doesn't want to bury the kitten in our yard, since there's a possibility that we would build there. On the other hand my cat has been through some things and doesn't trust humans so much, and aside from a few times when I put her food and she lets me pet her she stays away even from me, and it would be very difficult to take her to the kitten's eternal place without a few scars and her possible running away.
It's the first time I've been through something like this despite having had generations of cats in my family, and I really don't know what to do and it just pains me to see her like this. Should I try to show her the body somehow and give her some time with it, or just let her keep looking for her and reach the conslusion herself, which seems so cruel from my point of view. Maybe the answer seems so obvious but I really need some advice, neither me nor my mom have any idea and we're already fighting over what to do and I don't need that.
Thank you for reading all of this and please tell me what you think, I just want to help but I don't know how.