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Thank god I found this website. Where was this when I got my other cat 9 years ago? Sorry if this is long.
Anyway, I adopted a kitten from a shelter about a month ago and he is now 5 months old. I was super excited at first mostly because he was going to be my ESA since my older cat, who's 11, probably wouldn't be too into leaving my parents house with me once I transfer to uni. I did a bunch of research on introducing him to the older cat, as when we got a dog we were clueless on pet introductions which ended up being a full on war between the two pets for about 2 years before they were able to co-exist peacefully.
The first two weeks went by and although there was some hissing, growling, and swiping from the older cat, they seemed to be able to co-exist in the same room as long as they weren't near each other. They also have no problem sharing food dishes or their litter-boxes, and they both follow me around the house. So I thought 'great everything is going well'.
Okay, well, maybe not so well. The biggest problem I'm facing now is that the kitten just doesn't seem to get that the older cat just wants to be left alone. The older cat will swipe and hiss when she gets annoyed, but he's clueless to it and will keep coming back for more. They both chose me as their "human" so they both want to be in the same room as me, which is fine until the kitten decides it's playtime. I'll play with him to distract him from her but I guess my older cat is just too interesting to him.
He'll follow her around, chase her, try to play with her (sometimes while she's in the litter-box), mess with her tail, all of which ends with her growling/hitting at him while throwing a couple punches. Sometimes there's claw, but most of the time there isn't. I'll separate the two if he's bothering her too much to give her a break. Sometimes the older cat will throw a couple swipes at him with a growl out of no where if she walks by him and he has the audacity to look at her royal highness. When I'm not home one of them is behind closed doors. The kitten and the dog got along just fine once they were introduced to each other.
Is this normal for cats? With the dog it seemed once the older cat swiped her nose that was enough for the dog to get the message and leave the cat alone. But with the kitten, he just doesn't seem to get it. It's at the point now where my older cat isn't nearly as affectionate as she used to be and I'll admit it, I totally missed it. She hasn't growled at me personally, but she did once when she thought my hand was him. She ended up rubbing her cheek against my hand in apology.
Is there anything I can be doing to help? They're not full on fighting (kitten never swipes back or growls) but I'm worried it may escalate. I have a few Feliway multi-cat plugged in but I'm not sure if they're working for them (although there hasn't been any spraying since I got them. It wasn't common before we got the kitten for me to come home only to find out the older cat left me a "gift" on my bed).
Sorry about the length but any help would be useful! They don't need to be best-friends. I just want my older cat to feel less stressed over worrying about some toddler deciding to mess with her. Thanks!
Anyway, I adopted a kitten from a shelter about a month ago and he is now 5 months old. I was super excited at first mostly because he was going to be my ESA since my older cat, who's 11, probably wouldn't be too into leaving my parents house with me once I transfer to uni. I did a bunch of research on introducing him to the older cat, as when we got a dog we were clueless on pet introductions which ended up being a full on war between the two pets for about 2 years before they were able to co-exist peacefully.
The first two weeks went by and although there was some hissing, growling, and swiping from the older cat, they seemed to be able to co-exist in the same room as long as they weren't near each other. They also have no problem sharing food dishes or their litter-boxes, and they both follow me around the house. So I thought 'great everything is going well'.
Okay, well, maybe not so well. The biggest problem I'm facing now is that the kitten just doesn't seem to get that the older cat just wants to be left alone. The older cat will swipe and hiss when she gets annoyed, but he's clueless to it and will keep coming back for more. They both chose me as their "human" so they both want to be in the same room as me, which is fine until the kitten decides it's playtime. I'll play with him to distract him from her but I guess my older cat is just too interesting to him.
He'll follow her around, chase her, try to play with her (sometimes while she's in the litter-box), mess with her tail, all of which ends with her growling/hitting at him while throwing a couple punches. Sometimes there's claw, but most of the time there isn't. I'll separate the two if he's bothering her too much to give her a break. Sometimes the older cat will throw a couple swipes at him with a growl out of no where if she walks by him and he has the audacity to look at her royal highness. When I'm not home one of them is behind closed doors. The kitten and the dog got along just fine once they were introduced to each other.
Is this normal for cats? With the dog it seemed once the older cat swiped her nose that was enough for the dog to get the message and leave the cat alone. But with the kitten, he just doesn't seem to get it. It's at the point now where my older cat isn't nearly as affectionate as she used to be and I'll admit it, I totally missed it. She hasn't growled at me personally, but she did once when she thought my hand was him. She ended up rubbing her cheek against my hand in apology.
Is there anything I can be doing to help? They're not full on fighting (kitten never swipes back or growls) but I'm worried it may escalate. I have a few Feliway multi-cat plugged in but I'm not sure if they're working for them (although there hasn't been any spraying since I got them. It wasn't common before we got the kitten for me to come home only to find out the older cat left me a "gift" on my bed).
Sorry about the length but any help would be useful! They don't need to be best-friends. I just want my older cat to feel less stressed over worrying about some toddler deciding to mess with her. Thanks!