Once a kitty has chosen one person as their favourite, is it too late for the other (non-fav) person? If the non-fav spent more time with the kitty, playing, treats, food, etc, is there hope to switch? or is it just preference, regardless of the amount of time spent? What's your opinion? There is a story to this, but that's the TL;DR version. Spoiler I had lost my kitty in august (young, 4 yrs old, quick spreading, aggressive cancer) shortly after, the shop guys at work found a kitten in the break room eating their leftover food. So I took her home and named her Narya. Well a few months later my hubby lost his senior kitty (Pyre); chronic illness complications that led to euthanasia. (yeah, 2018 has been a complete dumpster fire) After Narya was completely restless, she loved playing with Pyre. So out of necessity we adopted Nenya, who is the same age as Narya. They hit it off immediately, All is good there. Problem is, both of them seem to prefer me. Narya is much more independent, but has an obvious preference to me. She won't let hubs touch her for some reason. But, Nenya is like my velcro kitty, not independent at all and will follow me if I leave a room. Nenya's bond with me is so obvious, she'll curl up in my lap and just look up, staring at me. You can practically see the hearts in her eyes. (Sister in law even pointed it out "look at her, look up at you!") We were secretly hoping that Nenya would take to my hubs as his kitty. Pyre was his lap kitty, she took to him immediately, I was never absent in her life, she just liked him better right from the start and it seems to really (like, REALLY) bother him that Nenya is so attached to me. He's making off-hand comments that are really upsetting. I keep telling him if spent more time with her, played with her, gave her some treats, she would come around. I just don't know that for sure? I might be lying to him to make him feel better?